aJester, I was very satisfied with the obtainable, however that which I had obtained sought to obtain the unatainable, some of which he did obtain causing me uneccesary strain and pain and finally I chose to abstain...
My Dad enjoys fishing, takes my son with him That is great, I cannot teach my son about these things in life, I apreciate the masculine influence ! Teaches my son to be a man, where his real father may have failed him... Here is to that masculine an much needed influence in a boys life that teaches, shapes and inspires a MAN to be a MAN
Sure beat a mothet that ties a boy to the apron sting...
Sure Jana, I don't dispute that alot of people put the physical attraction first. If this is your criteria for choosing a partner and if it works for you, great.
I have made this comment above in the hope that it might challenge the way people think, but it seems to be the majority that vote for physical attractiveness first.
I think I am average looking so for me average would be okay, I view things slightly differently, placing emphasis on other attributes.
Lana: I am with you on this one My list of priorities certainly does not place good looks right at the top
Perhaps for some woman they would rather be seeking for a spiritual connection of 2 souls and a companionship as they mature and have lost all teenage ambitions of dating the best looking guy in High School
So for me my future partner does not have to be Brad-Pitt-ish Most importantly there needs to be a certain something else that I will connect with (most likely these things will have nothing to do with physical) Certainly a combination of two people with wonderful other attributes other than merely good looks and life-skills, experience and a true willingness to share with each other and become inseperable.
To say that we cannot have a relationship with somebody that we are not physically attracted to:
I tend to disagree with such definite statements of what can and cannot be
It's entirely possible to share a spiritual connection but not a physical one. Then I think the opposite applies as well. Indeed any combination of the two is possible. It's silly to suggest that spiritual attraction/connection somehow requires a physical attraction/connection.
If I understand that we mean in the context of love, spiritual, bonding and connection with a partner.(If indeed that is what we are searching for)
However I can see that having a spiritual connection with someone would make them physically MORE atractive.
But at the same time a physical attraction would give opportunity to learn about the other and thus could lead to a spiritual connection anyway.
What is more important then, the body or the soul ?
The ideal: A combination of an almost perfect and beautiful body with a kind and loving soul...
Coffee: You said:I must admit though, that finding love had never been an active search in the past (maybe youth had a lot to do with that ) I couldn't agree with you more Seems that when you look so hard for love it is even more difficult to find almost non existent Hopefully when you stop looking then love will find you, or so they say, dunno.
Like success: the most successful people are too busy to look for it, but success finds them
Coffee Hi there... I joined here because of loneliness and in an attempt to date and perhaps find my match. I have always believed in love. Trouble is with most relationships that the two people in question would be in it for different reasons and perhaps not love each other equally. Or unconditionaly as we have been told is the ideal kind of love. That in itself could lead to a huge dissapointment.
We don't all have the same views on love/relationship, no not at all, so finding somebody with similar values makes it even trickier.
But I have, since joining in April this year realised that if I meet someone the chances of it happening here or at all are very slim. This is not negativity but a more realistic approach.
Love truly does exist, finding it however is not as easy as some might think.
I have since decided to relax about it and embrace my singledom, I am content on my own for now.
I have gained insight, made some connections and enjoyed interacting with others at CS, I am still learning and discovering new things about people and about myself everyday
10k: sometimes even when we cannot find the solution immediately it is appreciated when there is company to listen or support us in the way that we feel regardless It is not possible to remedy everyones problems, but it IS possible to show caring and compassion
Why not start planning next years Birthday bash ? Think about how you are going to celebrate and who you will invite, start saving etc. You are not alone
Jim: If all else fails atleast you guys could import a "Russian bride" and I am certain all they guys have seen these ads...
What options do us woman have ? I would like to order an "Italian husband" for example Get chatting to your Italian Stallion future husband online now, hehehe ! Something like that.
RE: Stand up and BE COUNTED ! ! ! !
Good thanks love,trust you are also well...I am off shopping nowMaybe I will bump into you
Sorry, coffee