Rdm, I had a neighbor invite me out for 18 this morning. What a beautiful day we had. It was a new course for me. I hit 58 on the first nine and 54 on the second. He hit 43 and 42. I have a lit of improving to do lol. But I had a good time.
I've had it happen enough to know its infatuation with an idea or a hope. But if you really care enough you will push forward and keep striving to actually meet in person. Someone has to take the next step forward or its all in vain.
Its a big risk especially if they live a good distance. Talking online is just that, talk.
There are things that I consider feminine. When a man holds a woman hand there is something feminine going on butthere is a woman there so its ok. Two women, same thing. Two men?
Its the same thing for kissing and well hmmm you get the idea.
Hugger, I don't think needing someone means needy. It is just perception and I thought this would be fun to do. Its actually nice to see some women want to feel needed. I think its romantic.
But it is a scary thought I admit. Not because they are needy but its a serious commitment.
Maybe if I had told someone I needed them I wouldn't be on here now. I'm still trying to figure it all out but like I said I thought this would be fun.
But even then i still struggle with self confidence at times. I also have always wished i was just average. Being considered good looking has its own set of issues to deal with.
Its hard to find someone who won't be jealous of you for example. I think average people have it easier in life. Less expectations are put on them.
In geek mythology man had 4 arms 4 legs and 2 heads. The gods thought man was too strong so he split him in two. Now we are destined to search the earth over for our second half.
Maybe this is love. I've heard it described as the search of our soulmate.
Rose, there is an internet only movie that is a prequel to lord of the rings. Its only about 40 minutes but is really good. I highly recommend it but I don't remember the name. Maybe do a search for lird of the rings. I can't remember how I found it.
This probably isnt the right blog for this but if I don't say it I will forget.
Playing hard to get will only make you hard to get.
The focus should be on finding the right person not making them prove themselves. We are all so protective we don't let anyone in or we won't take a chance.
But I whole heartily agree its the love that is important.hopefully we will find the one that gives us butterflies but also has the character to keep those butterflies fluttering.
There have been a couple women I've really really liked maybe even loved. I wonder if I should've begged and pleaded like those old songs say. I just don't want to appear weak and I'm also not sure if after all that if they said yes would I still feel that need or would I feel some resentment, would I have to always beg and plead for their love. I would rather say hey I like you and she say yeah I like you too. Lets start something and see if it grows into the love I desire.
Lana, what I notice is all the love songs from the 60s and 70s the guys were saying how they need this or that and you're right, today that has taken on a different meaning. I love those old songs and the emotions behind them. But I wonder is that a healthy emotion? Has it lead to many of the problems today or are our problems today the result of the loss of that need? I do think about this a lot and to be honest I'm not sure what's right. But I would still feel more secure with someone who wants to be with me and I her than someone who couldn't live without me, unless they are sick of course.
Jana, its not that anything bothers me.like I said I listen to these old songs from the 60s and 70s and the men ate always saying how they need your love or whatever and it seemed romantic. But you don't hear that type of stuff anymore. It seems we have changed emotionally. Its just me thinking about things I'm experiencing and observing.
Ok would you rather have a man say baby I need you so bad. Or baby I really want you.
Maybe its the extent of their desire. What happens when they don't need you anymore. Is need a more fleeting desire, more emotional and intense but more fleeting. Can it turn into hate more easily? Its that extremism. Where want is more rational and thought out.
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any golfers?
Dang I missed islandgirls post!I'm trying to teach my daughter but I'm not a good golfer to start with lol. OMG she's horrible!