By staying friends, close friends with a woman you shut yourself off to others. Women are territorial and will shy away from a guy like that. I dated a Filipino lady who didn't like me having other lady friends and it caused an insecurity issue with her. Yet when she didn't want to continue our relationship she wanted to stay friends. She broke my heart but I told her I couldn't and why. It hurt her but she understood. She is such a great lady but insecure.
I also got the message and stopped hanging around with so many women. I'm serious about finding a partner.
Women also say they want to be friends first but that's bull too.
It took me 20 years to start my business, I hope it doesn't take so long for the book lol. But like my business I think I'll know when the time is right.
I'm kind of ocd too. I like my pictures and stuff to be even and what's that math term? Anyway when things aren't even it bothers my me to look at stuff. I'm a good decorator due to it.
Once I start cleaning its hard for me to walk away from it till its dome and done right. I am getting better at that though.
I've had my down times but I think I've just always had a unique perspective on life or at least not how I see others dealing with things. Like I mentioned even as a small child I think I "got it".
Hardships come and go but its always up to me to be happy and make my way no matter what the adversary is. I've never looked to anyone else for my happiness or health or to do anything fir me. If I can't do it then I just accept it for what it is and move on to what I can do.
I've spent a lit of time in the woods hunting and just watching nature.i also have had a lot of pets and I have seen for myself all the emotions in animals I see in people. Anger sadness curiosity the ability to think and solve problems to learn. Its all there.
I really haven't even been angry in about three years, since I moved out of my home away from my now ex. Her and I get along so good now too but I can't go back. Its good the way it is now. She's a saint for putting up with me.
I could talk about the beatings I've taken, waking up in hospitals several times stitched up skull fractures covered with bruises. Or how we moved a lit so I was always the new kid having to fight to gain respect.
I've literally lived on the edge of life and death most of my life not caring if I died. But that's all behind me. I'm so mellow now and happy no one believes what I've been through. Totalled about 5 cars. By all rights I should've died long ago.
Getting my heart fixed is the one single thing that changed my outward life. I still think the same but that adrenaline is gone as well as the depression. I'm finally in control of my actions, kind of lol.
Yes we are too clean. and there is so soooo much more about me. This is just a brief description of myself. I could write forever and not tell it all. I was in the army as a helicopter mechanic and going through a flight physical in Germany when I found out about my heart. I wanted to fly helicopters.
My doctor who did the surgery was Pakistani and when I told him this his demeanor changed. When I had the surgery done the anastigiologist was late and he put the caffeters in without anesthetic. I was in severe pain and he kept telling me I could take it. It was very traumatic. It sent me into my depression. It was messed up but i never told anyone. The nurses and stuff said they wished i was under too when i said it between yelling about the pain. They kept wiping the sweat off my face and i saw the look in their eyes. They couldn't believe what was happening neither. Oh well such is life. I'm still here.
Lana omg yes! I was thinking about posting this same topic. I've experienced this a couple times. It makes a huge difference. Its why online dating is so risky and long distance relationships.
Oh, so remember we are all different in many ways and none of us know what's going on inside each other so show compassion and sympathy for each other. Ahhh hek oh well lol.
I wrote too much and had to delete a lot lol Lets see if I can remember some.
So here I am searching. I think its in Greek mythology that man use to have four arms and legs and two heads but the gods thought man was too strong sothey cut us in half. Now we search for our other half our soul mate for eternity.
And why would you want to turn a pigs ear into a silk purse?
And to the fellow who's ex stole from him, it was your karma that allowed her to steal from you. Karma is about personal responsibility not about what happens to others.
always remember,its about the path to enlightenment not justice.
Rob, I'm not sure where you get your information from but there are as many versions of Buddhism as there are the bible. But from my readings there is no karmic justice. That is a western interpretation. Yes there is positive and negative karma but it dies not promise good things in the future for good behavior.
Our karma is simply our past. It put us where we are right now and gives us the knowledge we have to make decisions at hand. I would have to read up again to give a better definition but this is basically what I learned.
See imo if we expect good things to come from making good decisions we will be let down when bad things happen. And bad things will always happen. Like the person talking about the cars you cannot say the cars were wrecked because the ex was dishonest in the divorce. One act like that does not cause another direct act. We cannot say they did this so that happened not when it comes to real karma.
Lana, it wasn't that she didn't open up but her insecurity caused her to use my openness and honesty against me. I found it easier to keep my mouth shut.
The same thing started to happen with the only person I thought I had something with since my marriage ended. Its why I put it in my profile. I've had too much experience with this in my life. Jealous people that is and insecurity.
my marriage failed partly because I stopped putting my heart on the line. Its harder for me to hold back than it is to open up. Its my nature to communicate my feelings but there are still times I hold back. It may be the one thing i need most in a partner. Its what I've found posting online, communicating my thoughts and feelings.
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RE: how to give up some1 whom u love but didnt love u
By staying friends, close friends with a woman you shut yourself off to others. Women are territorial and will shy away from a guy like that.I dated a Filipino lady who didn't like me having other lady friends and it caused an insecurity issue with her. Yet when she didn't want to continue our relationship she wanted to stay friends.
She broke my heart but I told her I couldn't and why. It hurt her but she understood. She is such a great lady but insecure.
I also got the message and stopped hanging around with so many women. I'm serious about finding a partner.
Women also say they want to be friends first but that's bull too.