What is your type?
He/She is not my "type" .. ..
These are often words used by people who reject someone from being a part of their lives based on pre-conceived ideas of what their partner should be like.
By doing that, "we" are excluding a whole spectrum of people from our sphere (of which we are the centre) whether it be as a result of prejudice, vanity or maybe even imitation (eg. mom and dad have a wonderful marriage, therefore I want someone like mom/dad).
Surely when we reject advances based on these criteria which we have set, it creates a black hole through which people are removed from your sphere, never to impact on it. Is it possible that by doing this, "we" are cheating ourselves of the opportunity to learn, to grow and to enrich our lives, through interactions with diverse peoples!
. Is it possible that the diversity of our interactions could make the "true connect" 
so much more real and viable in light of our experience with others.On the other hand we have been trained, especially in recent years, to decide what you want, be specific about it, develop a plan, and then go out and achieve it
. Being decisive about what characteristics you are looking for in your perfect partner, means that you don't waste your time on people who are "unsuitable"So what happens if there is a true connect
, but the person does NOT comply with the criteria which you have laid down 
To what extend are we then willing to set aside our pre-conceived notions or do we turn our backs and say
He/She was not my type ! ! !
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so when is this book on 'Inverse Diverse' coming in the market coffee,,,
The questions begs to be asked . . .
If we have not found happiness with the "type" which we have decided would be what we are looking for, why do we then keep going back? repeating the same mistakes?
I will make sure to place you on the mailing list for the NEWSLETTER of the upcoming events relating to the CS SUMMIT
and I certainly DON'T se anthing wrong with your checklist, just make sure the last one is
ummm, I do have to pass it with the CS Summit committee though
I like the way you think
An example: when I was a young adult making my way in the world, I valued that my girlfriend shared in the same interests as I did. Over time, I found that while sharing common interests was good, I also liked having a partner that had outside interests. It helped us get out of the routine and try new things.
I can't say I have any particular "type" in mind when I look for my soulmate. I have, however, some traits that I've learned over time to value highly in my potential soulmate. The thing is, take the time to know yourself, to know what values are most important to you, and keep an open mind! SOmetimes the values you think are important, might turn out not quite as important as you thought.
Good luck in your quest for that love connection!
First order of business, . . . lets get some drinks while we think about the agenda