What is your type?

He/She is not my "type" .. ..
These are often words used by people who reject someone from being a part of their lives based on pre-conceived ideas of what their partner should be like.

By doing that, "we" are excluding a whole spectrum of people from our sphere (of which we are the centre) whether it be as a result of prejudice, vanity or maybe even imitation (eg. mom and dad have a wonderful marriage, therefore I want someone like mom/dad).

Surely when we reject advances based on these criteria which we have set, it creates a black hole through which people are removed from your sphere, never to impact on it. Is it possible that by doing this, "we" are cheating ourselves of the opportunity to learn, to grow and to enrich our lives, through interactions with diverse peoples! . Is it possible that the diversity of our interactions could make the "true connect" so much more real and viable in light of our experience with others.

On the other hand we have been trained, especially in recent years, to decide what you want, be specific about it, develop a plan, and then go out and achieve it . Being decisive about what characteristics you are looking for in your perfect partner, means that you don't waste your time on people who are "unsuitable"

So what happens if there is a true connect, but the person does NOT comply with the criteria which you have laid down
To what extend are we then willing to set aside our pre-conceived notions or do we turn our backs and say


He/She was not my type ! ! !