Just when you think it is all over . . .
So many experiences in life leave scars. Some heal with relative ease, but there are some which require herculean effort to muster the strength just to cope with daily life.For some the end goal of this abject misery (or hurt) is just waiting for the ultimate solution to all their problems.
The consequent disappointment when this does not happen on que, can be extremely deflating.
The build up and the expectation can be such that one cannot but help to feel that disappointment.
What can one ultimately say to someone who finds themselves in such a situation???
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Let's see . . .
There's hurt . . .
faith . . .
love . . .
and courage.
Yep !!!!
Looks like we have most of the ingredients for LIFE
Very sad but also very appropriate, in that there are so many who are left feeling like their lives had been rent by the hurt imposed on them by the love which they experienced for another.
welcome back, I haven´t seen you for ages here
wounds on soul need much time to heal and scarves are not always healed so... not to open again... I am sorry, I understand that, I have had to face an experience several times in my life.
I would like very much to support you and give you some hope and enthusiasm... but I am afraid today my dosage is off... a lot of people in need today
Be strong, stay calm, be in touch and take care
I´d like much to talk to you. I missed you Coffee
that lives on the other side of the earth , ...
I dont know ..but keep on doing it
I think the best that anyone can do to support someone who is hurting is to allow them to talk about their hurt. Someone who can listen to them as they take out their feelings can be the first step to healing.
The other thing is to help that person reflect, whenever they are ready, about whether there were things that led to that particular outcome or made it worse.
Talking about inner worth and how valuable this person is, comes after reflection. This is because often when a person is hurting, the person isn't feeling good about themselves and needs to know that they are still a wonderful individual who can have a life with a purpose.
Last but not least, developing good coping strategies together with the person, will help them on a day to day basis.
Now most people would find doing all of the above a bit challenging to do...so the best thing is to recommend a counselor and simply be available to listen whenever the friend would like to talk about what is happening for them.
Hope that answers your question!!!
Have a wonderful evening Coffee
Thanks for the advice and the love
It sounds like we are all fools for love.
But at the end of the day, love makes the world go round, and I'd like to keep it going
Just remember that the wolves can only fool you for so long, but eventually they do slip up. Just be greatful if that happens sooner rather than later. It means you have the opportunity to get out before things get worse.
BIG HUGS