I don't need you...
The popular thing to say to one another in today's world is I DON"T NEED YOU
thats right. Romantic ? uhmmm...probably not. Do these words make you melt in his arms? Not really. So, could it be that we are talking about different kinds of "needs?"If a man says to you "honey I need you because I love you and cannot live without you in my life." is that wrong? To me it would seem like a very romantic thing for a man to say and I would not see him as "needy" or "desperate"
If he said "I need you to cook for me because I don't know how." or "I could never figure out how to do the laundry without you." that would sound needy and desperate....does that make sense or am I missing something here?
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Get back to you later, work calling.
Oh never mind.
In terms of need. We all have needs but I would not want to be needed by anyone. I want to be loved, appreciated and respected. I want to love someone, appreciate them, and respect them. I want to share my life not because they have a need for me, but rather that they want to be with me. Does this make sense to you? This is the best that I can explain it. I know that it may be an inadequate explaination, but it is as best that I can do.
One other thought, I know that there are times when we need each other, like in times of sickness (physical or mental) and yes I would not have a problem with taking care of someone else, but when they become well then it should revert back to a balanced situation of respect...etc.
Gotta be a real politician here.
Not to survive but to feel love in my heart so that life is much more enjoyable......so say what you will all of you ...sorry but I am a hopeless romantic!!
To need? Yes,we need air to breathe,food to sustain.....but Need?
Babies, need their mothers when young.......they are totally dependant.....
An adult relationship....."you Want" to be with that person,not need them!
Has it lead to many of the problems today or are our problems today the result of the loss of that need?
I do think about this a lot and to be honest I'm not sure what's right. But I would still feel more secure with someone who wants to be with me and I her than someone who couldn't live without me, unless they are sick of course.
I would rather say hey I like you and she say yeah I like you too. Lets start something and see if it grows into the love I desire.
i don't believe in all of that....people keep saying "I dont need" but those are usually the ones who are in deepest denial because they are most fearful of the truth....
Playing hard to get will only make you hard to get.
The focus should be on finding the right person not making them prove themselves. We are all so protective we don't let anyone in or we won't take a chance.
But I whole heartily agree its the love that is important.hopefully we will find the one that gives us butterflies but also has the character to keep those butterflies fluttering.
Your hunger for love and passion will determine the level of depth in your relationships...I personally would rather have only one relationship that is hot with passion than ten that are just Luke warm
hi , lana , have you opened all of those flowers ,I have sent you ?
But I agree one passionate relationship is best. But that passion needs to grow not start hot and heavy then fade.
Are you stirring up trouble again?
I've just made some hot chocolate , want some ?
Got any Rum with that?
Unless you are a baby or a small child then you don't "need" anyone to continue on existing.
The thing about heartbreak is that it eventually fades away.It becomes a distant memory.Life doesn't stop until we die,and until we die life keeps on trying to make us comfortable and happy.As the old saying goes "life goes on".Or at least life goes on if you let it.Some people stubbornly insist on being and living a miserable existence.
I just don't want to be "needy" so I will be at my "independent and distant " corner searching for a "wanting feeling"...let ya know when it happens
Tough as nails but funny as hell
Just as every man is different so is every woman. When I say need its always because I truly love a man...always.
The second reason is because he might assume he has power over me and that I cannot live without him.
I might however tell him I need his strong arms to help open up a jar for me though..