I have heard some issues in Muslim area in Malaysia also. And even the maid can give you a black eye sort of things.
In anyway,one thing you need be cautious,you need at least make sure that you will not have financial problem after you move out of your present place. Once you both move to a new place,and stuck in poor life,no love will survive once you are poor, and also you need think for your 4 kids.
I now really have higher percentage to support you to be with him. Just be careful about the financial part and take care of your own feelings.
I agree with the lady above, as no kids will be planned,so that it also means a little less necessity to be married. Although I do think marriage is better for you,a bit more secured.
If you have made up your mind, just get ready! I wish you the best!
I also would admire you Srasvathy, 4 kids,a lot of work! I mean, if you are very experienced in life, and the guy is good to you. In a way, I think it is fine actually. If you have never married,I would hesitate. Cos it is a bit unfair to an inexperienced lady without a committed relationship.
I think I do sounds like fairly strong opinioned, and indepent. In life, I look very feminine,and pretty,tall and slim. Well, I should keep my idea on mind only maybe.I am thoughtful in many ways, in daily life, I also think of good and bad sides. And try to take actions to avoid bad things.
We all need improve ourselves to make the relationship work. Please do your best.
But always remember: keep some energy to love yourself! If you lose the love for yourself, you will lose in life.
Thank you,Sarasvathy! I think we ladies need get ready for life. I have a daughter from the broken relationship. I feel I am so lucky and happy to have my daughter. I also work hard in order to support my daughter and I have very good and comfortable life.
On the other side, I learn to understand guys.I start to look for a partner around 3 years ago. Sometimes, a woman who is too clever,it can be a disadvantage. Some guys like to be important,they don't like competitors from a woman.
I am still looking.Since i can afford my own life, I am willing to look for a guy who we love each other both.
She is not conning me in for more money which I am not stupid like that.But she asked me to send aggressive sms to ask back her money.I don't like the situation she pulled me in.
And as we are not suitable to be together,cos I have my own life to be busy with,the best thing for us is to do our own things from now on.
I am happy at the last moment I can still point out to her: it is not a way to ask back a lending money by sending sms or calling international phone calls in 3 years. It is necessary to do some solid action to ask back the money
I wish this is the last thing I do for her.I wish her best of luck.
I think I am like the one who offers a gift:it is salt, but other offers are sweet candy. So I wish you can benefit from both sides and make a life decision.Often our life benefits more from knowing the bad side of a thing,than knowing the good sides only. As you are more prepared in life.
And also,it is a good sign that the guy treated his friends and families very nicely.But most of the time, guy don't treat the lady the same as their friends or families.And very often,the guy will sacrifice the woman for the interest of his families and friends when the two sides conflicts.
One thing,a guy offers a marriage to the lady,legally you have rights.
A married wife will and should feel more secured than a woman in a uncommitted relationship.
If you want to do it,it is your own decision. It does not mean that a woman who want a proper marriage and get it is nothing.She is in a better position.
I totally agree that as a real fact, the good time in terms of relationship for ladies is much shorter than guys,no with a guy even not to commit to you,and you yourself want a marriage,then purely you go straight ahead,no need looking back at this kind of guy.
If you think you are ok. to be with a guy, and willing to spend your prime time with him then get dumped by him,in such a case,try to get whatever you can from him. Cos you spend your prime time, and guys will more or less can look for young girls again,But not you,ladies.
I completely think ladies should purely dump this kind of rubbish guys!
I agree with virgo. From outside,you might think he is with the woman 9 years,but you never know he has other affairs or not. With this kind of guy,just ask yourself:can you afford being with a guy who will walk away from you after being tired with you in several years.
If this is a being committed guy,what is not being committed in him?
Best thing for woman to treat this kind of guy,just walk away from him.Let him enjoy his own commitment,even no need waste your brain and time to study him.
The only thing I can wish for her is that she could have a good luck and manage her own life. I will keep on going with my life. Sometimes,I know need escape from her. I have never expected these.
I mean my thoughtfulness just caused me extra trouble.but now need use my brain to be away without hurting her too much!
I feel the same thing for the lady already. i don't want to be involved with her. As she would worry about the money she lent to the guy.but she would not understand I worry about my expenses with her.And also she asked me to send the aggressive messages to the guy who owed her money.
As I think it is no sense to make her mad,so I just like to walk away from her politely. I do have my own life to handle, so that I wish she could have a good luck with the guy who owed her money.
About the china court, nowadays, it can be fairly bad. As too many judges will also ask you to give them money, not a small sum, nearly half of the money sentenced to you,and you need pay in advance, I have heard this kind of stories. I don't know she could have the luck to get back her money
So I point out this to her, I just wish she could manage herself. and she could learn from it. But I have my own life to handle, I am not interested in being involved in all these
In short,she lent out a big sum of money to a chinese guy when she was doing well. she said it was over 150000usd. And this too easy lending money now resulted in she has to ask back the money for 3 years, and still not even a penny was given. And she asked me to send messages to the guy to ask back this money to help her.
Please stop this meaningless international phone call to ask back your money.If he is that type, you need not ask for 3 years. Just want you to realize that:substantial action to ask back your money from the guy does not include making international phone calls to ask back the money.!
I really don't want to be disturbed by her, so that I still gave her these suggestion.
Recently I often think maybe I will like to stay in Dubai. I quite like the experience here. Dubai marina is a nice place,and I think as the Expo2020 is drawing near, the life in dubai should be better.
I have talked with westerners,they said: it seems that everyone in Dubai is happy about here, although Dubai does seem to be difficult to form some deep culture.But people usually have better payment here, and life is safe. nice beach.
I am just a normal chinese. Nothing special. So I am happy anyone can read my blogs and feel a bit life in the Emirates. Please enjoy this reading!Thank you
Because of the Expo2020,dubai again increased the property price. It happened again that in some buildings, people queued to buy property, and the whole building sold out in several hours.
I really wish Dubai can be better. Even in summer it is so hot,there are also a lot of things here not nice.
I start to like this city. The best time for Dubai will be winter and this early spring. So comfortable in dresses.
I just feel it nice to enjoy the walk and watch the people. There is a starbucks coffee shop, there are fountains dancing there. Children really love that. They walk into the fountain, and get wet, and giggling along. Some children would ride a little 4 wheeled bike? in the fountain.
Lots of Arabs will wear their white bustachi and smoke big Arab water tobacco .So in the air ,you can smell, the Arab tobacco and also the dish smells from the restaurants.
Dubai is an amazing place. I have heard Dubai is busier than ABu Dhabi, so not as safe. but in fact, so long as you are sensible here, you don't wear too exposed dresses, even for ladies are safe. Of course, always try to not to walk by yourself in a dark and lonely place at night
I moaned about the bills cos I feel it gets expensive. They just adds up. I still agree that even if I compromise to pay the bills on a higher percentage, in heart, I still feel I don't like it.
It is a bad habit to moan. I don't think it a good habit.
As I have never asked anyone to pay my bill before,and my other chinese femail friends also treat me fairly,usually both sides will share the bill. It is a new experience for me.
The thing I feel I was wrong is that I should not moan to other Malay lady about this paying bills part. It can create some trouble which I should know from the beginning.
I decide not to be friends with her,but maybe keep these bills a secret is a wiser thing.
I have told this chinese female friend that I have a daughter and mum to support, so I can't pay too much bill. the only thing I regretted I should never spoke out my puzzle to the Malay woman. I should be on guard of her.
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RE: What does it mean when a man said...
I have heard some issues in Muslim area in Malaysia also. And even the maid can give you a black eye sort of things.In anyway,one thing you need be cautious,you need at least make sure that you will not have financial problem after you move out of your present place. Once you both move to a new place,and stuck in poor life,no love will survive once you are poor, and also you need think for your 4 kids.