I wish this lady find someone better. In life our partner might also betray us,so it is good to be able to support ourselves,and we can always control our own life.
Right now I don't need look for a guy to sacrifice such. I have done that part in my life. I want to find a guy we could love each other, understand each other. I don't want to enter a relationship without knowing everything clearly.
There was a wise man one time there came a person who was very depressed cos her/his loved one abandoned her/him. She/He said" I could not give up thinking of him/her. The wise man gave into her/his hand a glass, and poured some hot water. Once the hot water filled in the glass, and it came out of the glass, and burnt her/him. So her hands left the glass. It is just because it is not as painful as you can think of, that is the reason why you could not give up thinking of him!",now look, you dropped the hot glass!
To me,the love for my daughter is like even if it is that hot, I could not give up her. She is a part of me. I have to take her with me and we together will avoid being burnt.
I wish to find a guy ,whom we can love each other, facing life together, I can share the pain in life with him together.
Thank you,Ed!I do appreciate your advice. This does give me a good angle from a guy.
I am not perfect,as when I had to work hard to support my family, I neglect a lot of things, I hade to travel according to the company required. Whenever I had time, I would try to teach my daughter her school lessons. I encouraged her reading books. I did not leave any time for me to look for a partner. But at the end of my 30s,I began to look for my partner. So again I had to travel . I also teach my daughter school lessons but I would be abroad as well, I would say half in china, half abroad. But I again built another stepstone for her to be able to study abroad as I sold out my things in china and changed to emirates. I tried to combine my life and her life together. I don't think my way of solving things is too selfish,but maybe to some people I am.
It really depends on how much efforts you need put in to make it possible. Sometimes it is not worth doing to make things possible. It is good to have the courage to make things possible!
i don't want to base my love life on sweet lies only! Better to work at my love life and take the effort to find a practical guy.I can not lead a love life in dream!
When I am looking for my love, I try to find out which type of love I am looking for in my heart. I think not be attracted to sweet lies, instead I should look at more what he is from his work, his friends and his family, even his ex.
I will keep on with my life. So along the way, I also try to clear out my idea about love.
So, to be able to love someone means you need the capability and your heart. Sometimes you want to love,but you don't have the capability. So once you find the right person to love, the reward part is that you find the great clash of heart and brain, and you two can build up a great family life,full of love and healthy feelings.You are provider and you can get the nice result of love!
I think it is lucky to find someone you can love each other heart and soul, and to find a soulmate, you both sides need know what is right from wrong, I can never see an unstable mind will be able to set up something stable. I don't like morning dew type of love!Evaporate too fast in front of real life!
I did go through the process of finding agents for my daughter to study usa,but indeed it is just way too expensive for a primary student. So it makes much better sense to stick to emirates for me. As it is a safe city and nice public transportation.
Once my mum and daughter get used to the life here, I could study myself and we could travel from emirates.
When life offers opportunities,the opportunities will not be on the stands. For me,I need find opportunities to expand my circle. I am looking for regular guys whom we could love and cherish each other. I am sure they would find I am even better than they think of.
I think there will be guys attracted to me and make his way to me. I also plan to study in a British university open in Dubai.So I hope I would meet more people, along the way, there might be some guys finding attractive.
I think as nowadays,people who are far away can be connected by internet. but long distance is always an obstacle,it stops you from knowing the person you are with. So it need the guy to be indeed very dedicated to you. So if he hesitates at the beginning, i would prefer to neglect this kind of morning dew type of love.
Long distance love need finally solve this long distance and try to settle your love locally.
I will go with life offers me. My opportunity would be guys come to me,I think if the guys are not motivated to look for me, that means they are not attracted to me. I should not go to them. I will do my life,if someone loves me,they would come for me.
The next mountain in future will be greener!Ladies,please do not worry!
I also think on line you can meet people,but once you need decide to be with anyone, you need spend some decent time with the guy in real life.It is not the same as on line. On line stuff can only help you to know a bit more people from surface.
We all exprienced the reality and our colorful imagination of our future. the only way to get to the best state of your future, is to work hard now. There would not be a knight to save us.
Hi, Ken, I agree with you! It is always good if a lady can walk away from a relationship after serious thinking about it. I don't think it good for a lady to play with relationship, as it also hurts the guy. I do think relationship is a serious thing,so it is good to give it a good thought before you enter.
We need look into our own mind, and find out what we want,then it is good to find someone who match you. If a lady wants a stable relationship,then the guy need be stable, not today he will do this way, the next day, the wind blows to another direction.
I met a lady who met a young guy. Ok.,they fell in love, and the lady accompanied him for a while. But last time, when I met her, she told me, he decided to terminate with her, cos he thought she was not hardworking,and moaning over hardship in life.
So I told her," no need feel too bad about it, and open your eyes,look for someone better!"
Not Arab myself. I think to seek personal career, and to seek self confidence, and then set up a healthy relationship with a guy is true to all the ladies.
I can definitely support my own life easily. I am smart enough to do that! So I step backward and watch my life,i want a real relationship with a guy who want it with me.I would not and should not look for any guy in order to be in the state of marriage.
My daughter still got low fever, which worries me. I think high fever sometimes is easier to treat than this kind of low fever. I held my daughter in my arms, and I can feel she is happy that I hold her. I still tried to teach her some maths in English. She is a good student.
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I wish this lady find someone better. In life our partner might also betray us,so it is good to be able to support ourselves,and we can always control our own life.