Ok so I read the whole thing.. and it makes a lot of sense for sure. Only if it were that simple though.
I agree with this line: On the other hand, a relationally self-aware person might say something like, "It wasn't the right time for us," or "It was painful, but I learned from the experience." It shows a positive attitude and should probably be the way we carry ourselves should we face such unfortunate circumstances.
Seeing how people deal with others such as waiters and road users is a very good way of learning about the type of person you're with.. and even learning about what type or person you are.. just need to pay more attention with the latter.
Another way to learn would be to watch successful couples closely and learn from them. I guess its different for everyone.. personally I learn much quicker and better by observing people. Obviously you would need to be lucky enough to have someone like that around in your life though.
RE: Yet another gender blog
... and life is good again..