Yet another gender blog
I, as well of all of you, have noticed the amount of blogs of late about gender differences/gender-blaming, gender-bashing and even some gender-loving.No, I lie, there is no blog about gender-loving.
Now, it is easy to dismiss the more stringent threads which appear to be anti the other sex, these may look like the work of bitter and twisted individuals of both genders.
However, even if the language used is not conducive to most moderates joining in, the simple existence of blogs about these subjects shows that there is a concern out there from at least the minority of men about women (that is what I am going to focus on for this blog)
The main topics…feminism and menopause.
Yes both exist. We are all in agreement about that.
However, the definitions and experience of people regarding these topics seems to vary considerably, from non-existent to off the wall.
Yes, extremes of everything exists. Extremism exists in religion; politics; cleanliness; animal rights; cultures and yes, feminism and menopause.
But should anything be defined by its extreme elements? Most extremists frighten even the moderates of any belief. Moderate Muslims are in as much danger from ISIS as Christians, possibly more, and moderate feminists are probably hated more by extremists than men are.
As seen on Crazy’s blog, menopause isn’t the end of the world for most women. Indeed many see it as a new beginning. And it passes by others without as much as a wave. An extreme menopause is going to affect the woman terribly, and to a lesser extent the man in her life, but extremes are in the minority.
Most people who believe in equality of the sexes are not man-haters, they just believe in equality.
Personally, I believe that in many aspects of life in the West, women do have equality, but it has still to be fought for in other cultures.
And men’s rights also need to be fought for in terms of access/custody of their children; single father’s rights, etc. That is what equality is about, it has to be equal for all.
We are all in this together, we have to either work together for the greater good, or be divided and conquered
All thoughts welcome.
Comments (99)
I think extremism has no place in the world, moderates can be on either side of the argument, Id say its dependant on where they are and how they have been educated.
Some individuals have gone completely over the top on this subject and unfortunately dont actually have a clue about what they are saying.
Part of the issue is the age difference here, the younger dont get it yet and they will, while those going through the change male or female may have little or they may have large issues to contend with, but each will contend with their issues their own way, not being told by someone else.
For me this sums it all up.. "We are all in this together so we have to work together for the greater good"
(slightly edited)
Good comment from Professor M as well..
interesting blog, and as the ole saying goes, "There's strength in numbers" but more so in Unity.
Wish you a happy day.
All views are welcome here
United we stand, divided we fall.
Hi Molly
There are more moderates in all areas of life than extremists, but people listen to the extremists more because they shout the loudest.
Had to log back in just to say that.. toodle dooo fellow bloggers...
Now, toddle off to Tristan, ya troublemaker
I will say I think the feminist movement has been beneficial to women as a whole, in terms of our country.....but have the scales tipped over ever so slightly? A woman/man's role was much simpler 40-50 years ago. He was traditionally the hunter/gatherer....she the nurturer. Relationships appeared more stable.
I'm not saying I wish to revisit these times, but a man's role today seems somewhat confusing for them. Women have become super independent to the extent of not NEEDING a man about. He is left languishing.... unable to move as freely with his masculinity intact? Does he even bother to initiate with a woman? We battle with relationships today.....
I'm merely asking the question.....have women gone too far?
-purly to make the mails survive on this planet?
...as for me, I`m sure I would be on the "red" list over endangered spieches....
Men are left languishing? lol
Bereft of masculinity... even more lol's.
Women & men each have their own inherent skills which compliment each other.
Are women who lead an independent lifestyle bereft of femininity... I think not. Same for guys insofar manly traits.
No need to be condescending Alan with your post.
I can hear you loud and clear.
In terms of equality, there is some catching up to do in other parts of the world....
And as my father said to me recently, they could have done with the extra income, as well as the fact she wanted to work.
Nobody should want to go back to that kind of a situation.
As for men languishing. Why exactly are they languishing? Or are they languishing even?
If a woman works, that doesn't mean a man doesn't work.
If a woman mows the grass, that doesn't mean that a man cannot also mow the grass.
Women being able to do things doesn't take away from men also being able to do things, and take on new roles.
Instead of languishing, maybe they should be enjoying their new found freedom.
What part of equality makes you feel so threatened?
As I said to Berry, men should embrace the freedom it gives them.
...nooo, I`m not feeling thretened, not at all!
...I`m one of a cind you know...
(but that means there wount be anymore like me eighter)
I am not sure if you are agreeing or disagreeing with me
At no point did I say Equality = The Same As. Men and women can never be the same as each other, for that simple reason that women give birth to the children.
I have never said that equality can't mean women staying at home to raise their kids. I also believe that men should have that choice if it suits the family better.
That is what equality is about. Both being given equal chances to do what is best.
(I would like to be there too, if theres freedom)
They can't seem to see the freedom it gives everybody.
But endangered and threatened are often used synonymously.
Freedom?
It may be perceived, but at least me have the luxury of that perception.
As I say, gender-equality should be embraced by all as it is beneficial to all.
Mange certainly brings discomfort
Mange? For a moment there I thought you were referring to me as a canine!
You're lucky I'm not feeling aggressive today...
Both have to play to each others strengths.
I mentioned childbirth because Crazy did, and it is after all the biggest difference.
They say 'I'm fine'