One is one's own protector, one is one's own refuge. Therefore, one should control oneself, even as a trader controls a noble steed.
Make an island of yourself, make yourself your refuge; there is no other refuge. Make Dhamma your island, make Dhamma your refuge; there is no other refuge.
hi Kitten can a person change? the anwser is YES, you most want to change or at least know that you need to change. it is said that there is a good person in every one, we just need to look inside and find it. slowly and a little bit at a time, working with what ever we have here now today. we will not find the answer by looking in the past, it is only here and now that we can start and it is only us that can do it. every thing we do/say starts in the mind, if we think bad things we may end up doing bad things, likewise if we think good things we will end up doing good things. if we are told every day that we are bad, in time we will believe it. you say that you are alone and clueless... is that true are you alone??? you are not clueless you have a clue that your life is not going well at this time,and that you need to change it, is that not the first step in putting things right? it may be hard but it is worth and so are you. take care co's i care tiny
i am not a hermit but maybe a little bit of a recluse, and this can be a good way to live, to be detached from the world. this does not mean that i do not care, just to maybe know the truth about life.
Make an island of yourself, make yourself your refuge; there is no other refuge. Make truth your island, make truth your refuge; there is no other refuge.
maybe i have not made it clear i am not sad about this, i am happy to not be looking any more. being on my own is the best path for me to take.
oh yes there are times when i feel i need/want a hug (i would be lying) if i said i never needed/wanted that. but do i need the hug or do want the hug????
it is about attachment, being attached that is the bad bit. if a hug comes my way maybe i will take it and enjoy it.
so as far as going out looking, that will not happen.
May you have happiness and the causes of happiness May you be free from suffering and the causes of suffering
hi well whereas my problems do not seem as bad as your i do know where you are at. it is hard to bare pain at the best of times but worse when you do not know why or want is the cuase. i am in my fourth year of not working due to my illness. at time i wonder why me???? however over the last year or so. i have started not to think about the why me thing and learn to deal with it,with a "it is meant to be atticude" as for the sleepless night, oh boy they do get you down. as for your pain (and this may seem hard) try and be with it rather than fighting it. when you go to bed lie on your back (or anyway that is comfortable)take a few deep breaths and then relax, listen to your breath, feel your breath, concentrate on your breath, count your breath. if you are woken by the pain, dont get angery with it just acknowlege it as pain and return to the breath.
ok so it will not help much to start with but stick with it and it may well help. it helps me so much. oh i still have many sleepless nights but many more good night too. this is how i cope with all my problems e.g. no money, no work, no friends, and it goes on and on.... but that is the way it is.
may you have happiness and the causes of happiness may you be free from suffering and the causes of suffering
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hi missywell how are you doing.
you should not let people make you feel bad thats not good.
just be yourself and go for it.
hey i will show you mine if you show me yours