My not too recent first date, I chose to have just coffee with him at Starbucks.
He paid and he did so on our subsequent dates.
In return, I got my daughter to bake him cakes and I also bought him lots of fruits and sometimes decorative indoor house plants.
Oh, our very recent date, I took him to a local foodcourt, alfresco-style. I ordered his favourite chicken satay and fresh orange juice and other local delicacies. I paid for that meal, much to his horror!!
RE: Names .. Would you change yours?
Does Vivienne sound English?You could be the 'Vivacious Vivienne'