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Who should pay for the first date the man or the woman ?

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rcm123●New york, New York USA

Mar 18, 2016●1 Blogs●230 Comments

hi abby
as per Indian culture
man first pay .....ladies first in all other things

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Dedovix●Big Place, Central Serbia Serbia

Mar 18, 2016●135 Blogs●1,499 Comments

ummm...God...

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Ccincy●Cincinnati, Ohio USA

Mar 18, 2016●1 Blogs●3,385 Comments

In my day it used to be whenever two people dated the guy paid.

Then over the years a lady would pay.

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loulou77●Vancouver, British Columbia Canada

Mar 18, 2016●71 Blogs●5,968 Comments

Abby

The man would pay but today...it could be dutch...

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KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

Mar 18, 2016●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

Hi Abby,

It would depend on circumstances for me. If I don't know the guy and don't know if I would want to see him again, I would like to pay my share.

If it is someone I know and know we will see each other again, I would pay for the drinks afterwards if he wants to pay or will either invite him and cook at home or pay for the next meal out.

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Flashlight009●Jakarta, Indonesia

Mar 18, 2016●41 Comments

In my culture... men should pay.
To me... depend who ask for a date should pay.

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1to1to1●nbattleford, Saskatchewan Canada

Mar 18, 2016●11 Blogs●1,778 Comments

Good Morning Abby,

Me being somewhat old fashioned used to think the man should be paying, but have changed somewhat due to changing the changing times. Now I figure whom ever first asks the other person out should pay. Then taking turns paying, taking turns choosing the restaurant makes things work out.
Trying new restaurant, and different types of cuisine makes for a nice outing,
You have a Good one,

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

Rcm that's really sweet of you if the man offers to pay I like to pay for the tip if we're not getting along as good as I thought then I insist on going Dutch .thank you for your comment

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

DedoviX you must be a very good boy in Gods eyes

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

#10

CCincy

yes in my day the man would pay but times have changed .the guy I date insists on paying so I always bring little gifts for him

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

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Loulou I agree about going Dutch at first

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

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Loulou I agree about going Dutch at first

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calmheartseeks●Somewhere, California USA

Mar 18, 2016●6 Blogs●1,531 Comments

#13

It can depend on a multitude of factors. If one party has a much larger income, it would seem nice if they paid and the other reciprocated in non material ways...the important thing is wanting to give and court the other, and in that there is no room for selfishness...

in a meet n greet both should pay for their half of the coffee in case it doesn't work out

but in a dating relationship because going out can be so expensive it should be worked out between the couple, in love.

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Mapmaker●Inland near Jaen, Andalusia Spain

Mar 18, 2016●116 Blogs●2,827 Comments

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The man should pay for the first date for a meal, if they go out for a drink or coffee elsewhere after the dinner then the woman should pay for that.

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Gentlejim●unknown, Wisconsin USA

Mar 18, 2016●705 Blogs●4,176 Comments

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Abby, I will let you pay.

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ekself●Onehorsetown, Eastern Cape South Africa

Mar 18, 2016●1 Blogs●1,711 Comments

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When you ask someone out you should pay the bill. If someone ask you out you try to keep your side of the bill low or else pay part of it. That is how I have done it all my life and expected others to do when we go out.

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Ed1941●Bullhead City,, Arizona USA

Mar 18, 2016●151 Blogs●4,758 Comments

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Things get too complicated when you even think about it. So why not go out on a date and don't discuss who's paying what.

THEN!!! If the guy pays all and he doesn't complain then you girls know you may have a good man.

If the woman wants to pay her way then the guy knows he has a keeper.

Voila!!!

Could be the start of something new!! A couple that actually gets along and discusses ONLY after things start rolling.

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Semsu●St.Johns, Saint John Antigua and Barbuda

Mar 18, 2016●673 Comments

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Perhaps I'm just different,but I have never had the woman pay,not in the first and not in the last.

Yes,in many things I have not update my self to 2016....if a Woman pay for me,it is like to put me down....as is the same with always letting the woman walk first in or out from the door....I honor my Daughter in that way too.

Rolf

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Semsu●St.Johns, Saint John Antigua and Barbuda

Mar 18, 2016●673 Comments

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Oh,sorry,in Indonesia you have to go into the Taxi first,or you put down the Lady.....Indonesians here know what I mean

Rolf

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

#20

knenagh I agree with you the guy I'm dating is very old fashion and feels he should pay for everything I try and pay he won't let me so I get him a little gift thanks for your comment

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

#21

Flashlight

I agree who ever asks the person out should pay but I believe the person who isn't paying should pick up the tip thank you for your comment

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Redex●Northumberland, England UK

Mar 18, 2016●5,763 Comments

#22

Abby for me I would go dutch, maybe later much later then things could change as I could cook for him at home, but trust comes first and I could never be beholden to a stranger.

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

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Good morning 1 to 1 .once again I agree with you times are harder now then they were years ago . My guy won't let me pay he's very old fashion . Hoping to buy him lunch tomorrow it's a race as to who gets the bill

you take care and have an awesome day. Thanks for your comment

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

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Calmheartseekers I'm going to say I'm so lucky to have found my perfect gentleman .i love bring him little gifts as much as he likes picking up the check .maybe we're still through the courting stages and he will let me pay shortly I never pick out the restaurant he likes to plan our dates thanks for your comment

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

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Map maker that sounds perfect to me .thank you for your comment

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johnjjm●co westmeath0000, Westmeath Ireland

Mar 18, 2016●5 Blogs●1,312 Comments

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never evennthink of whose payin I just pay and if someone didn't accept this id die of embarrassment .to me its not about money .just being myself .now on other things I wish would change maybe some woman nmight seat you on you chair with a smile don't see this ever happening even with the libbers

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

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Bengal Jim I insist on paying

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

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Ekself if the date is going bad I pay my part I don't ask men out but I also do t expect them to pick up the whole bill. Thank you for your comment

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

#29

Ekself if the date is going bad I pay my part I don't ask men out but I also do t expect them to pick up the whole bill. Thank you for your comment

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truheart1941●brentwood, Essex, England UK

Mar 18, 2016●2 Blogs●424 Comments

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I would put on. a old suit...scruffy...threadbare/shirt to match/opentoe,d sandles..no socks....be charming to her/good manners....hopefully she will pay....true love is blind.....

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

#31

Ed great comment no stress with you .i don't know what's the right answer to the question but I believe the woman should offer to pay the tip if their not hitting it off if off they should go Dutch ::cheers:

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

#32

Rolf your an old fashion gentlemen .that's a good thing to pay respect to your date thank you for your comment

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

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so Red what if you talked to him for several weeks and he wanted to pay for dinner would you allow that . You sound like a very strong independent woman

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

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John that's very sweet of you to pick up the bill I may not pull out the chair for him but when he opens my side of the car door I always reach over and open his door .

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truheart1941●brentwood, Essex, England UK

Mar 18, 2016●2 Blogs●424 Comments

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Abbey.....have you a stained old dress....??????

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pedalguy59●Burlington, Ontario Canada

Mar 18, 2016●2,000 Comments

#36

What if we are just going swimming at the beach? Much
better than a cliché fake romantic dinner. Imo.

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

#37

True heart

I deserved that lmao it's a small stain on my dress

too funny

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

#38

hi there my friend I sure hope all is well you didn't answer the question ? I might want a soda or ice cream cone so might you . Who pays ?..

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mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Mar 18, 2016●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

#39

I don't date very often, but if it were a first date then it'd just be a coffee so it wouldn't matter who paid.

In a relationship, one would pay for the meal and the other for the drinks afterwards. It generally works out evenly enough over time. It isn't something to argue about either way.

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Abby1963OP●California, USA

Mar 18, 2016●25 Blogs●714 Comments

#40

Molly I was just curious I don't date much but the guy that I did meet we met for lunch but we had talked on the phone for many hours before I accepted his invite . I'm really not a drinker and I won't have a drink and then drive .were both happy together I was just curious thank you for your comment ::bouquet:

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