Before I retired I was both. I was the boss who led his employees and motivated them in order to bring out their best potential and to increase overall productivity. I guided them and if they lacked the necessary motivation, I would find out what I needed to do to light a fire under their collective asses.
True story ladies, the blogs as in real life....Men look at it as some kind of egocentric sport. The women as in real life see it all as perhaps a new beginning and an end to their grief stricken past.
I did not make the rules, human nature did. Remember who is from Mars and who is from Venus.
I completely disagree with you on #5. How on earth are you supposed to just bury the past as if it never even happened? Your romantic past is an integral part of who you are. Also don't you surmise that you can learn a lot from how your mate dealt with their other mates? I believe that listening to your mate discuss his/her past, and attempting to understand shows support and compassion.
As to #6 what's wrong with a bit of comparison? How else can you gauge where you are at today?
"If you were with a woman that likes to play mind games then be happy you are no longer with that woman". Thanks man, those words jumped out at me at the right time.
A word to the wise. Just go for friendship, which is light and innocent. If in the friendship you discover someone that you feel bonded to for whatever reason, then proceed slowly. As far as I'm concerned that process would take a year or so, maybe longer. Who is in a hurry, if you are then why?
Relax be cool and enjoy the friends that may be made here first, and consider the rest as a natural evolution.
Itchy there is this line in a country and western song. It goes like this: "A fool never learns, and I'm about to do a very foolish thing".
When it comes to affairs of the heart, love makes fools out of all of us doesn't it? So why should I be the only one not being foolish here? And one more point that I'd like to add. In my profile it states that I'm ^mostly^ here for the blogs.....not ^really^ wanting love nor expecting it. Hell the only good ones on this site live clear across the pond. No chance in hell of anything happening is there?. So coming on here is pretty safe I'd say.
Good blog as always. Sometimes people realize they have a good thing but will still complain due to being locked into a habit of negativity. We cannot change people, only hope to influence them. But in so doing they may drag us down and end up influencing us in the process.
I recently had what I thought was a diamond. Believe you me I did not take her for granted. I treasured her and treated her as royalty. But in the end this diamond proved to have many flaws, and I realized that I had not a diamond in my hand but a piece of coal. I cannot blame her as pressure from life had crushed all the sparkle out of her, and I failed in my attempt bring it back....I could not.
Interesting...if I made the decision that I no longer wanted to be here I would just go and that would be that. What I wouldn't do is to tell the CS community and write a blog about it.
This tells me that you'll be back and writing this was to determine how popular you are or aren't....but why would you need to know this?
Both of my parents battled depression. One used pills, the other alcohol. My ex wife suffered from depression as did my best friend. I've seen the effects thereof but can't honestly say that I truly understand it. I broke up with my girlfriend and not long after she passed away as she had serious medical issues. While I did get stressed and sometimes felt defeated, I didn't get depressed not sure why. I believe the body's chemical balances(or inbalances) have a lot to do with this. But I'm not someone with a medical degree so can't say for sure. The best of luck to you.
RE: Solidarity with the French people.
Vive la France!"Au non de la patria!"