Astranea Blog Comments (40)
I'm jaded, naive, silly and lack wisdom for dating sites. That's what I learned today about myself. 
had to delete the e-mail address I gave him (and I used for other sites, so I had to change that too - it was an unnecessary trouble). His messages were so disturbing that I didn't even sleep well for two nights.
) and almost enrolled psychology. There's still one tiny part of me that is sorry that I didn't study it. TNG will always have a special place in my heart. 
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RE: Let Destiny Decide?
@SoonyuleknowNo, you are right.
I've always thought that if you want to meet decent people on the internet - you have to be nice and honest and decent yourself. And you mustn't be too suspicious. Because other nice, honest and decent people want the same and don't want to be under suspicion for no reason. Thanks to that kind of behaviour - I met some great people on the internet, made long-lasting friendships, people who came here to visit me, I visited them, I even found boyfriends online.
However, that kind of behaviour has its downside when you meet people who are not nice, honest and decent themselves. They think that you are naive and silly and that they will manipulate you easily. It doesn't really happen. But they do waste a lot of my time and sometimes put me in some terrible situations that make me angry and I have to block them. The post I wrote was about those type of men, because the woman was also talking about bad men. I was also under suspicion by some men and no matter what kind of proof I gave them - they at least suspected my motivations if not the data I provided. That kind of behaviour (constant suspicion and constant distrust) KILLS everything - possible friendships, relationships...
When I was here the last time I talked to some Americans for months and thought that we became friends just to find out that all that time they were thinking that I wanted to marry them and get the green card. It was tremendously disappointing and - well - I doubt that I will ever talk to Americans privately again on this site. You might think that I was naive - why any American would talk to me on a dating site unless he saw me as a potential mail-order bride and I was supposed to know that, too, but I met Americans on other sites who didn't think like that, so ... you never know. If you generalize - where will that take you?
When I was here the last time I was told by one member that I shouldn't talk about anything private online and that whatever experience I had I should keep it to myself, because people tend to use everything you say online against you. That is true. One should either keep things here lightly, talk about serious topics or lie and imagine (and that's tiring and pointless from my point of view).
So, I'm not angry. You are right. I am naive.