I recently reminded someone that my IM was turned off and that it says so in my profile. I weakened and thought I'd be neighbourly-like. I said that if they wanted to contact me, it would need to be on the forums, or email/flower. Never heard from them.
Yep, they do that with me, too. But I have my IM turned off. Hate the thing! It still lets you know who tries to IM you. I have used it only rarely and with purpose.
Stupid? Who knows, but they are the ones wasting their time, right?
One important ingredient in the 'evolution' of love between two people is that of growing 'in' the relationship. In growth, there is understanding, not just in the linguistic sense, but a knowing of the 'other' as separate from yourself. In turn, the evolving of the sense of 'oneness' in a relationship. The process is in a constant state of flux, because things and people always continue to evolve, right? Makes life interesting. JMO.
No, I don't believe that having a soul mate is the only solutins to being alone. We can still have very satisfying close friendships without finding our soul mate.
I have chosen to be on my own for the last 20 odd years, rather than get married again to men whom I did not consider to be in potential 'friend, lover, husband' category. I have very strict criteria. So, no, I certainly do not feel 'desperate'. It would be very satisfying to be able to find someone to marry again, but not just anyone. Those opportunities have been there, and not interested.
I think monogamy is what works best for most people and I think it is only in this type of loving relationship, that two people can begin to enhance each others' lives.
What is an act of love? It is many things and I do not purport to know what they all are. But such an act can only be a selfless one. That is, unconditional.
But China may need to wait for another chapter in my life/ another life.
There are many opportunities in China, and I have a GF here who is interested in doing just that. They will even pay you to work while you complete the course, provide cheap accommodation etc.
Keep us posted though. Am keen to hear all about the processes and opportunities, and obstacles involved.
In terms of the Far East though, something that would attract me would be to teach EOL in China. I studied Mandarin for only a short time but loved it. A fabulous language. Drives you nuts learning the characters though! Our PM is fluent in the language.
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RE: What's The Weather Like In Your Area?
In 2 places today:1 was very windy and slightly warm;
t'other is back home, where it is quite cool at this time of the wee hours of the mornin' - but was sunny and about 18C.