Thank you, blueriver. They're just facts now...the memories are ones I look back on as learning experiences. Since they made me stronger, they're not all bad, and they've lost the ability to hurt. There are others who've never had a chance to heal by talking about it, and that helps the healing process...as does knowing that you're not alone and there need not be shame from it. If what I've been through helps one other person deal with what they have experienced it, then having been there and sharing it was well worth it for me.
Thank you for this post. With all of the dull, gray skies we've had here lately, and the things that are happening in my life, this just motivated me to do some things to lift my energy and that of this house. I was starting on a small scale, but I'm going to amp it up a lot starting tonight.
Time to drum, and light some candles...smudge and use my Ting Sha's...bring more positive energy in, and do some work on me, too.
No, it's not always easy...but it works when you do it. I agree...that other 90% is the part that affects our life the most.
There are many books on the subject...basically, it's living a grateful, positive life no matter what's happening, and making affirmations believing that they'll come true. And no...it's not always easy. I've been working on this for years...and believe me, it's tough to remain positive at times. And yet, before I started hearing of others doing it, I had started. Life always turns out good, and I think this is why.
I have The Secret, haven't read it yet (starting it tonight, though...thank you), and haven't seen the movie, but I've seen excerpts from it, and hear testimony from those for whom it has worked.
I'm not just here for the forums, I am looking to find a long term relationship...and I didn't know the forums existed until I joined. However, I rarely search anymore since I'm not actively looking (I'm at the point of if it finds me, great, if not, no biggie). However, I do enjoy hanging out now for the forums and occasionally look at profiles of both genders if they're new, post something interesting and I haven't looked at it before, or if they've put up some new pics.
I'm just enjoying the friendships I'm making and the topics and jokes here on the forums...and enjoying single life for now.
Little things...my dogs romping outside or curled at my feet, my sons calling or texting me, talking to friends, getting emails from friends, working in my garden (when weather permits), watching the snow fall, seeing the sun shine...life makes me happy.
Second correction: Mickeyscouse...just always see him referred to as Mickeymouse and never paid attention to the real screen name. Sorry 'bout that, Mick.
I'm just reading and learning. I would love better, more affordable sources of energy to become the norm...for all of our sakes. So, I appreciate those here who have the knowledge and are working toward this goal.
Actually, depression and stress can make one gain weight, so I believe it. Lose the stress, lose the weight.
Toward the end of my third marriage I was diagnosed with PMDD (pre-menopausal dysphoric disorder) and put on anti-depressants. Funny, but when I left him, all of my symptoms cleared up on their own and I was able to go off the medication...I discovered I had PMDD, all right, only it was Pre-Mike Divorce Disorder!
RE: WORST dating experiences
Thank you, blueriver. They're just facts now...the memories are ones I look back on as learning experiences. Since they made me stronger, they're not all bad, and they've lost the ability to hurt. There are others who've never had a chance to heal by talking about it, and that helps the healing process...as does knowing that you're not alone and there need not be shame from it. If what I've been through helps one other person deal with what they have experienced it, then having been there and sharing it was well worth it for me.