I have earned the respect of others here, warmheart....and if someone was to laugh at anything I would not fall apart whinnning and crying over nothing.
There are many expressive forums here, many with far more intimate details and no one has been put down for it.
Is this a new thread...shotgun weddings? ...kind of lost my thought there, lol....
Ok, new thread inside old thread, hows that?
I was a virgin when I got married at 20 yrs old, I was raised with the fear of God as A THREAT ON MY LIFE! LOL...and I married not because of love, but because of parental pressure, to married the guy they thought was better for me.
I was naive, and respectful to my parents wishes, maybe out of fear...I was an emotional and sometimes physically abused child, my parents would supplement the lack of love, with material things, that was their world...superficial, I did not fit in...I was simple and did not care for material things given to me to keep me happy...I had a lot of gold jewlry that I flushed down the toilet, just because I never wanted to see it again, because it came as a replacement for love.
I do not have hate in me, or hate my parents, but I do acknowledge that they were not right, and I distance myself emotionally...if I had not done so, I would not be the person I am today, I worked out my anger issues, and refuse to be anything like them.
I also made sure that I am the best parent I could be to my children, by giving them emotional stability, a healthy simple home, and most of all....love without any fears, they are free to think, become wiser, and enjoy the simple things in life, knowing that they can live without the materialistic things of the world, and still live comfortably.
Nothing in life should be rushed, but should be stepped into wuth knowledge, and respect.
It's a comfort to know I am not the only one that felt this, I guess it was good I spoke about it, it lets me and others see that we are not alone in experiencing this feeling at one time or another.
I have an illusion.....not "LOVE"...I have not and will not let him know, I might wake up tomorrow and be back to my normal self again!
Now about your comment...You are right, love is not an escalator....but each person deals with their virtual loves as they see fit, and they have their own reasons to their actions.
Personally, if I was "Inlove" all my emotions would be invested in it...I would work towards that foundation of trust and friendship.
Feelings are not disposable...it would take me much longer than a week or a few months actually to have the security to try again...but this is only me, and I can not expect another to have my ideals.
I have never fallen inlove online, but if I did, I would treat that love with the same respect and admiration, I would give to a "physically present" love.
That is so wonderful, those words are like a gift. You have a special son, congratulations.
My son said something similar to me, he is 18 yrs old, and he said "Mom, thanks for the morals you given me,they have help me stay out of trouble"
My son( my brother I raised since birth)called me a few weeks before he passed away, and said to me " I realize that everytime you said something to me, or was upset with me, it was because you cared..I am the man I am today, because of your strength mom".
I hold those words in my heart like a treasure, they mean everything to me.
I wish you the best in meeting your friend, and I am glad you found each other. ..............................
PS:I do have a life outside the forums a very active one, but the most part of my life is spent working and going to the hospital three times a week with my daughter...the internet became an escape of the challenges I overcome everyday...that is how I ended up here....and then became addicted to the everyday real life emotions, that we all share, and support for each other.
You guys are very right...Belushi, I can't tell him...for the simple fact that I know, he has a dedicated life to his children...if there were no children, I be able to tell him...I know he likes me.
By the way no guessing allowed, because their is more than one guy that likes me..... but I only like one....
As to the other response, that is just as great, I know that somebody might give everything up one day if they really want me, and move up to my state.....I just can't see it too realistic right now...and I am not feeling sorry for myself at all....I guess I am feeling kind of empty inside...
You are all so wonderful...and I love that..I came without expectations...and somehow, it's like something just hit me really hard, lol...like new feelings woke up in me.
I do want to re-enforce the fact that the friendships and wisdom I have found here is greater than everything..and it is what keeps me comming back....I never even look on the search part of this site, because I am not interested in viewing guys, I do however, look back at those that have look at my profile.
The interaction in the forums and the e-mails and flowers is also great.
I really want to stay...but I have to get rid of that illusion in my mind too.
I am staying...but I JUST WONDER HOW LONG THIS FOOLISH FEELING WILL STAY WITH ME,LOL.
Thanks to all of you, always ready with support and kind words.
Yes that is exactly what I have said, it is more that about finding a soulmate...I have a lot of fun, but I can not deny that an attraction is in my mind that I can not pursue...or perhaps any other...their is almost like a lack of balance in my life right now.
I can stay...which is what I want to do....but their is a void that I need to fill too.
As much as I enjoyed being here as much as I can, and having all the fun, I also feel that maybe I should just walk away from it.
The reason I say that is because I know that for me their really is no hope of meeting somebody, due to the fact I am so far away, and everybody that becomes interested in me is hundreds of miles away...and I am unable to leave my state because of my little girls medical treatment.
I also would not expect someone to give up there home state for me.
What makes it more difficult, is that for the first time since I have been here, I have become interested in someone that is unattainable, even if he lives in the US...and of course he does not know, lol.
I guess my point is, I am confused...I don't know if all the friends I made and all the fun I have is enough to stop my illusions, and that is kind of hard, yes I am 41 yrs old, but feel 18 right now...go ahead and laugh at me, but I hope someone can understand this....do I make any sense at all....this is bad...I can give advice in my field...and I can't help myself tonight...
This is the story of my very close friend, wich I see as a hero for her many beautiful qualities. She gives of herself constantly, works with the needy and and took a chance to find love for the first time 9 yrs ago.
She was the type of young lady with many friends, but never looked at because of her physical, and health impairments.
She has severe arthritis, deformed hands, a limp, and lots of swelling in her body, her breathing also stops many times during the night. She decided to go to a singles site and 3 days later met a wonderful man, very handsome, great job, and lonely.
He became interested in getting to know my friend online and saw what a beautiful person she really was, they met a month later and married 6 months after.
He saw how her heart was open to give love and recieve it too. How determination led her to do 80 hours of work a week to help others. He saw how her personality lights up a room, her smile touches your heart, and her friendship is forever.
He did not see her disabilities, he saw her abilities to make a difference. This year is their 8th yr anniversary.
My friend is one very special lady, she is beautiful to her husband and all that love her. And her self esteem is one to be admire, she never sat around complaining, she just knew someone would love her.
If you aim to find only one thing here, you probably end up finding nothing...because you are not allowing yourself to see beyond your controlled thoughts.
When you open your mind to be free....you find you have things in common with others, you can learn a few things, you can share an experience. Along that open minded path, you can find a friend that can touch your heart and become the special loved one for you.
I came here with the readyness for friendship...and have found many friends and interesting people, I can even find something positive in the ones that completely different from me and are full of sarcastic remarks...somewhere along the lines something intelligent will escape.
Love has not found me yet....but I found a whole new experience on this site.
Thank you native...I wanted to make sure the translation was word by word exact, and not having to change the meaning for english.
I will try another one sometime soon, lol...maybe a little longer next time.
To: Cajun and Kentucky...being multilingual is not confusing to a child, only to the parent, I speak 3 languages and can read 5, and I think I find it easier than other parents to be able to listen to the multilanguage wording that a child says in one sentence or story and see how wonderful it feels for them.
Has anybody felt this way....
Thank you nwstar...I agree, lol...you make a lot of sense.