Thanks Hazel and Fetis, I totaly agree, and yes I do like to know ahead of time how a man feels about race, that is why I patiently wait for them to dig a whole for themselves.
My ex-is the past, my children are here now, and I will not tolerate that attitude around them or against them.
I have met men offline "real life" meetings that have found my heritage and my children to be great and never had an issue with it.
I am multiracial, Italian, Spaniard, Carribean...US BORN....SO HERE IT GOES.
I have met online so far three men that claim to find me fascinating because of my heritage and Pic, yet once we get to talking about the children or race of an ex-partner, they are completely turned off, repulsed over the idea that my Ex (whom was also multiracial)falls in the catergory of black american
I would NEVER denied my heritage or the one of my children! And if a man has to be so ignorant, then I will terminate all contact immediately.
My children are Irish, Black and white, that is also something that has them back off.
I have no prejudice in me, I see a person for who they are inside, not the color of their skin!
Yet in a conversation I was having last night on the phone, the man I was speaking to use the word ( ni**ger)I ASK THAT HE CORRECT THAT BUT, it was obvious this man degraded black people, so I made it very clear, that my children were part black, he then said "an intelligent woman like you went to bed with a black man?" I told him that black man was my Husband, and he said he was hurt that I did this in the past. I said goodbye and have no intention of even accepting an apology from this man.
I know I made this a long story but I wanted to put all the facts in, my question is....Has anyone here been rejected because of their children race..or or ex-husband/ boyfriend race?
Have any of you men or women backed off from knowing somebody due to their race and why? (other than the obvious ignorance). Has it been an online or offline experience?
I would appreciate all comments, including the brutaly honest comments.
Thank you for reading this, and I hope somebody will come forward with some comments.
I have to say I have found someone interesting, he can match my intellect, and my spirit...and we have very much in common. He is like a the last missing piece to a puzzle, once you find it the picture is complete.
Now the challenge is to find out if either one of us can actually get together...it was an unexpected shock to meet someone like him.
You still need to heal, overcoming the death of a loved one can take a very long time...and to start dating while still in pain is not fair to the other person. There will be a memory that will interfere with what you are really seeking in the other person.
Take time...and when you feel you are ready go ahead and date...also there is nothing wrong with talking about the person that passed away in your life, if you do not over do it...the other partner should respect the love you had for your late partner. If they can not deal with that, they should not be in your life.
Many may not agree with what I am about to say....but...here it is
You should start dating when you know you no longer have any feelings for the ex...as long as you have any type of emotion whether it be anger or love...you are still tied to that person in some way, it will certaintly reflect when you with the other person, even if the dating is not serious.
I would not want to be on a date where a man is worried about wether his ex is on a date that same night , or how much better he would feel spending that time with the other person.
Sometimes is worth the wait to be emotionally stable
1. If I am angry at a man, he will surely have to hear what I have to say, after I said it, then I am no longer angry.
2.You want to go to the strip club, don't be in a commited relationship. Some things are ok but in a commited relationship, how many tiems are you planning to go to the strip club/ weekly, monthly...unless it's your birthday, I do not plan on being with a guy that likes a strip club...but then each woman has her own opinion
to answer this one..in this situation. As unfair as it may seem, they basically want men to read their minds and learn that, in this case, "No, I'm not angry," actually means, "I am shooting invisible hate laser beams at you right now, please pick up on it." Excessive eye rolling, mean tones and passive-aggressive behavior in general are dead giveaways
I would not want a man to read my mind, if he cares enough about me over time he will learn my body language, it would be fairly easy for him to understand how I may be feeling and discuss it in a non negative way.
You want to go out to the bar or anywhere else...you are a free person and no one can't tell you not too, just be considerate of your partners feelings...personaly I am very trusting, and not jealous, I like to believe that you will come back the same man as you left.
Physical...must have a clean refreshed out of the shower look, and please if you have a problem with breath, seek a doctor, there may be a medical conditionn causing it. Use mints, mouthwash, you get the idea?...mmm thought so. Wear clean clothing and appropiate to the occasion, and that does not mean that you wear a clean, but raggedy looking t_shirt, be neat with the clothing.
Personality....being sarcastic, judgemental, and materialistic are a complete turn off, and last, admit when you are wrong.
Ok it was more than one answer for me...but we are highly imperfect beings, we can strive to be better, even in the little things.
A hawk after the storm, still strong and unafraid, but feeling cold, with no shelter around him I watch it from a distance, analyze it's every move I approach it and to my surprised it came to me I looked it over, it had a few minor wounds carefully I touched it, looking the hawk in the eyes him seem to trust me I whisper to it softly, the storm is over now, I tried to let it go, but it kept coming back to me I gently set it free, and thought that was the end of it That night I went to sleep and in my dreams the hawk returned to me I understood then a part of him was still with me The hawk from up above, is watching over me.
I would have to say a mans heart, then his personality, then the physical, all in that order. Age, well...I would like someone close to my age, but it seems too many young men or many older men are the ones approaching me, I go for the older.
Write a book on your experiences and views on what you have been through, you have kept CS attention, why not try to inspire many with your words? Integrate the martial art into your life experiences and effects on your life in general.
The state took your license to be an instructor, but they cannot stop you from writing about it.
Both my children would like for me to meet somebody, my son is 18 yrs old, and all the time he encourages me to go out. He is very caring all the time.
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the one where a guy will let me bite him anywhere I want.
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Rejected because of my ex-husband's race
I am not hurting over the guy, but because of the pain it causes in my soul for someone to be so prejudice.I had never experienced prejudice in my life until after I was Married and had kids, now I feel the pain for them as a mother.