I'm convinced its because I always seem to come across as awkward and cant find a comfortable sitting posistion, especially when the friggin chair has no arm rests, but, I'm sitting like it has, and the table is too low to cross your legs, but still, I have mine crossed......
I totally hear you, I'd be the same, when I can guage there is no interest there, no prospect of a further meet/date and communication dies then you start analysing yourself, 'did I say/do something wrong?!', 'Maybe I look different in real life to my pics and they were dissapointed?!' etc etc.
Someone alluded to it earlier, maybe it was SDB, that its a tough thing to say after a first 'meet', there has been 3 ladies that I woulda' loved to meet again. All our initial meet ups went grand, no hickups or anyone running off, but, for whatever reason they just didnt want to meet up again, none of them ever said 'thanks for meeting up, had a nice time, blah blah, but lets not do it again', they chose the spineless method
But hey, look, I've done it too, if I wasnt particularly interested in someone or felt I wouldnt like to meet again, ashamedly I've sorta' cooled off and been distant rather than just say 'sorry, but I dont want to meet again'. Its easy to type, but I wouldnt know how to get it out properly
The last lady I met up with I thought all went well, we had a nice 'meet' and she was like 'I'll chat to you soon ' an' all, but, after that she wasnt interested, took her a week to reply to a message and was vauge at best; no interest!
Ya know when you meet up with someone and things are going ok, you had a few drinks, coffee, bite to eat, whatever and its time to part company, have you, or your 'date' ever said, 'that was nice but I dont want to meet again', or words to that effect.
I was just thinking, I've had a few where like I assumed everything was grand and we got on well and at the end it was like 'really nice to meet you, I had a nice day, talk to you later' etc etc, but, you kinda know there is no real interest there and you can tell from their communication, or lack there of in the following days that they aint bothered.
Guess I've done it too , but, are you, or have any of your dates been up front and honest and given you a 'thanks, but no more' after a date??
Depends on the person really, but in general I tend not to think of the first one as a 'date', but a 'meet up' and its in that meet up that you discover if the person is who they say they are, if you get on as well in 'real life' as you have done virtually and if there is any click there. So, something simple, cuppa tea/coffee, bite to eat, have a walk around town/city, go to an exhib, gallery, anything where you can just relax and theres lots to talk about.
I say save the fancy stuff for number 2, if there is a number 2
Dont give a damn what theyre paid to be honest, I enjoy RTE radio, mostly Radio 1 and Lyric, but am a fan of Tubridy and Colm Hayes in the mornings on 2FM. Just because these guys are on air for a couple of hours doesnt mean thats all they work for, theres a lot of background work in compiling shows too.
I do two voluntary jobs, both in the same line. One I've been doing for always five year now for a voluntary run organisation, its quite time consuming and I have a fair bit of responsibility in it. The other one, well, its not so time consuming, or involving, but has led to an internship
I have no problem doing it, just finding something I like doing is the thing, thankfully the two I have I love and probably put in more hours and effort than I should, but I do it for the love of it!
RE: group of CS people meet for various activities
You could end up with 7 psychopaths in your bed!!!Wheres your pic gone? You've just deminished your chances of getting any mail by, oh, 97%