Hmmm...nor do I. I would assume that would go without saying. I mean, I don't put in my profile that I'm looking for a lying, cheating, jerk whose only mission in life is to get laid, either, but that doesn't stop them from contacting me.
The only info I could find is lumbar disc replacement. This may or may not be an option at this point for her. Having severe DDD myself, I can sympathize with her. (We've discussed this before, as you may recall). I will not have surgery unless I absolutely have to; I've heard too many horror stories about it.
It will be a cold day in hell before I'd ever be a battered woman.
I said the problem I have with men is that they LIE, not that any of them have ever gotten physically abusive with me. If one ever does, it'll be the last time he ever does, if I have anything to say about it.
And joking about domestic violence is really sick, by the way.
Hmm..what a coincidence ..I've dated both a doctor and a dentist...in 33 years of dating and out of dating hundreds of guys in that length of time...the vast majority of men in my life whom I've dated have been blue-collar workers.
You seem to be hell-bent on thinking that what a man makes is tantamount to him being a "catch."
But you know what? I'm an editor. I have been for 20 years, in one capacity or another. I have an extensive background in journalism and law. I have certifications in both legal and medical transcription and I have some six years' experience as a legal assistant as well. I was a newspaper editor for nearly nine years.
So...how does that make someone who is a doctor or a dentist be a "catch?"
What made them attractive to me was the same thing that makes ANY man attractive to me ...and that was their looks and their personality and the way they treated me...(at least initially).
Jerks come in all professions. Blue-collar, white, doesn't matter.
You seem to have a huge issue with thinking that women are after men merely for their money.
For one thing, the dentist I was seeing was teaching dentistry at an inner-city university; he made somewhere in the range of $50k a year. Not exactly Rockefeller material.
And I might add...for you knowing who they have been with might be something you want/need to know...but I sure don't. It doesn't serve to accomplish a thing for me. It serves no useful purpose whatsoever. I guess some people just have that need.
Where do you get the impression that the "vast majority of men" are good guys?
In my experience, the "vast majority of men" are not good guys...to find a good man who has integrity, values, honesty, etc., with whom you also have a mutual attraction is not as easy as you may think. It's like looking for a needle in a haystack, in fact.
And I do not seek guys who are out of my league..in fact, if anything ... most of them are out of mine (although I don't think I have a "league") but since you brought it up...
And as far as "Denzel Washington" taking her seriously???
Why the hell wouldn't he? She's a beautiful lady. Articulate, intelligent, educated, kind...
And while we're at it, why'd you have to bring up Denzel? Now you've got me drooling...
Unless I've missed it, no one has addressed the question as to how *many* people a person has slept with is pertinent, with regard to whether or not they have an STD.
Granted, the more people you've been with the more CHANCE you might have an STD..but if you want to know if the person has an STD, don't you think the more pertinent question would be..."Do you have any STDs?"
Nothing at all! I didn't want to get involved with a younger guy because I know there's little to no chance of success at a LTR...BUT..I decided to say "to hell with it" and now I'm seeing a great guy who is 16 years my junior who is a great friend. We both know it's not going to go anywhere "serious." He and I go to the movies and dinner together. We talk a lot on the phone, we have a good time. I don't have to worry about my heart getting broken because neither one of us has any long-term expectations with the other.
And he respects my "rules" as to if or when we will ever be intimate with each other. (Oh, and I fully intend to be..one of these days...he is TOO FINE!!)
It's the truth. It's obvious when, in spite of the fact my profile clearly states I'm looking for a LTR, I get TONS of emails/IMs from guys who are looking to get laid; it's obvious when, in spite of the fact my profile says I'm looking for men between (appx) 38-50, I get tons of emails/IMs from men who are in their 20s and even younger and men who are mid-50s and far beyond; it's obvious when, in spite of the fact that I state (in some profiles) I'm not interested in moving to a cold climate I'll get tons of email and IMs from men who live in Antfreakingarctica...
Why? I dunno; you tell me. If I read a guy's profile and it says (for example), "must love to dance," I don't care how otherwise appealing he is to me, I pass him over for someone with whom I would share common interests.
If he says he's a Buddhist, I pass him over because I won't date men of a different religion than I am.
If he's far shorter than I am, I'll pass him over because I'm not attracted to guys who are far shorter than I am...nor am I attracted to really tall guys, either.
If he says in his profile he's looking for an "intimate encounter," I'll pass him over, too, because I am not looking for that.
You hit the nail on the head skippy! It's none of my business how many people you've slept with, and it's none of your business how many poeple I've slept with...nor is it your business how many people someone you are close to slept with. It's personal and private and no one has the right to ask anyone such a personal and private question.
Now, if a person wants to VOLUNTEER that information, that's another matter altogether.
And I'm not bouncing back and forth. There are others here who have discussed the STD aspect of it as well. This is not an exclusive you-only discussion.
If there's one thing I've learned about online dating it doesn't make a bit of difference what is in your profile description. You're going to get contacted by any man out there who thinks you're attractive enough. See, because he doesn't CARE what YOU want; he only cares what HE wants.
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RE: This is supposed to be dating??
Hmmm...nor do I. I would assume that would go without saying. I mean, I don't put in my profile that I'm looking for a lying, cheating, jerk whose only mission in life is to get laid, either, but that doesn't stop them from contacting me.