If someone said to you, "Well, girl/guy, I've decided to go back to old girlfriend/boyfriend. Can we chill for a few weeks and see what happens?" What the hell does that mean?
Well, since I played the role of mother and father from the get-go, I can't really relate. I did a good job, though. My daughter is grown and married and healthy and happy.
I should add, too, that Rebecca, it's not such a mystery, as you're so easy to bond with. You're a very warm and friendly and funny person and to know you is to love you!
Look...I told you the day you bought me that nice Mexican lunch during my visit there, and I'll tell you again now...I don't care how much you try to flatter me; I'm not sleeping with you.
(Okay...on a serious note...I felt like I had known you and had been a good friend to you for ages and ages when you first walked in from work the night I arrived at your home. Miss you girl! Can I come back? Pweeezee???)
I agree; I just feel sometimes that the mere mention of it will scare him away and then I'll be left alone ...without anyone to even have fun with. I'm so picky about who I go out with (in terms of compatibility) and I don't date more than one guy at a time, so that makes it difficult.
There were no terms mentioned in his profile. I responded to him based on what he wrote to me. I don't know what he meant by "I may surprise you."
I accepted him based on the fact that even though he seems to be on a different page than I am at this point in time, he's still a wonderful person to be around and I very much enjoy spending time with him.
My point, I guess, is that if "he" (whomever I happen to be dating at the time) doesn't have the same ultimate goal that I have, he, knowing what it is I expect the outcome to be, should be conscientiousness enough to say..hey, we're not looking for the same thing here, so let's part ways BEFORE there's a chance you could get hurt.
The reason I find it difficult to "just have a good time" is because I don't like getting close to someone if I know I'm going to eventually lose them, specifically if it's because we never were of the same mindset to begin with.
This is probably the one area in which I have a very difficult time...should I let him know how I feel about him or not?
If I'm with a man and like him very much, I have a hard time feigning disinterest. It is impossible for me to play coy. At the same time, I'm not all over him like a stalker, either, but I do wonder...does showing interest in him scare him off?
I've often found myself thinking, does he think I'm moving too fast? (Even though I haven't done or said anything, particularly, to indicate that).
I've read where men like women to be honest and up front with them. If a man is scared off by a woman who genuinely is interested in him, should she just assume he's not "on the same page" and go with that?
If that's true, it makes me wonder...why is he not going out with women who are like-minded? In other words, who also are only out "for a good time?"
Case in point (one of many examples I could cite)...
Guy I'm seeing now...is a wonderful man. We have a lot of fun together. His schedule doesn't allow for spending a lot of time together and we don't go out much...but that's perfectly okay with me because I'm more of a homebody these days anyway.
But he's fabulous! Great conversationalist, etc.
The site I met him on I said the same thing, word for word, that I say in this profile, and that is that I'm looking for a serious relationship.
He writes to me and says, "Not sure if I would pass the things mentioned in your profile, but then again I may surprise you."
So on our first meeting he tells me that one problem he has had with previous women he has dated is that they want to get serious too soon.
Okay...so what did he mean by that first written communication?
He "may surprise me?" Hmmm...
I guess that also means he "may not surprise me," huh?
Maybe he is like so many others and just says what he thinks I want to hear so that he can get laid. Oh, well, if that's the case, that's okay, too...cuz he's quite useful in that regard as well.
But I digress...sigh...the bad thing is...I don't date men and don't take an interest in men that are not at least potential "long-term" for me. I mean, what's the point?
So the dilemma I'm left with is...
Do I continue to see him (whoever "him" may be), knowing that likely it'll come to an end and I may end up being hurt?
Do I wait it out and continue to see him on his terms, hoping that I'll grow on him, emotionally?
Do I give him some type of ultimatum? I hate doing that and am no good at it at all...
I know he likes me; we've seen each other almost every day since we met. But....that doesn't mean he has any inclination of growing to love me.
Being a gentleman does have to do with offering to pay...for one thing...he may make a lot more money. She may be struggling as a single parent. He is certainly not obligated to pay for a sitter, but it would be very gentlemanly of him to do so. She may not be able to go out with him if he doesn't offer to pay.
And as far as paying for the date itself, it's not only "gentlemanly" to do it; it's EXPECTED...the person who extends the invitation is the one who is obligated to pay ...unless another arrangement has been agreed upon. And it's typical that the man asks the woman out. If he can't afford to take her out, he shouldn't ask.
This world is going straight to hell with regard to proper dating etiquette. No wonder so many relationships don't even get off the ground, much less work out.
Loving, compassionate, attentive, generous, kind, giving, etc., just as I would be to him.
But the LAST thing I want is a man whom I have to tell what to do and when to do it.
If, for instance, the grass needs mowing, the fact it needs mowing should be enough of a hint for him to get out there and mow it.
If I have to remind him as if he's a child, that's a major turnoff to me. Be a man! Do what you're SUPPOSED to do and then no one will have to tell you to do it.
A Frenchman, an Englishman and a New Yorker were exploring the jungle and were captured by a fierce tribe. As they sit in a hut, awaiting their fate, the chief comes to them and says, "The bad news is that now that we've caught you, we're going to kill you, and then use your skins to build a canoe. The good news is that you get to choose how you die."
The Frenchman says, "I take ze poison." The chief gives him some poison, the Frenchman says, "Vive la France!" and drinks it down.
The Englishman says, "A pistol for me, please." The chief gives him a pistol, he points it at his head, says, "God save the queen!" and blows his brains out.
The New Yorker says, "Gimme a fork." The chief is puzzled, but he shrugs and gives him a fork. The New Yorker takes the fork and starts jabbing himself all over -- the stomach, the sides, the chest, everywhere.
There's blood gushing out all over, it's horrible. The chief is appalled, and screams, "What are you doing???"
The New Yorker looks at the chief and says, "So much for your canoe, a**hole!"
I was a crown and bridge technician for five years and all I can say is thank God for aesthetic dentistry. I'd rather have someone with a fake, beautiful smile than one with a real, ugly one.
Prosthodontics has made a significant difference in people whose smiles have been ravaged by decay, trauma or disfigurement.
And dental health goes way beyond aesthetics. Poor dental health can lead to heart disease and other ailments, too.
Well, I got a little bit of my spring cleaning done. (See, I always start spring cleaning early, because I'm a procrastinator. So I figure if I get it done now, I won't have to put it off until later, later.)
Later this afternoon I went to visit Paul. I never put off visiting him.
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Your interpretation requested...
When hell freezes over, perhaps.