No, it doesn't mean I'M out of the picture...it means HE's out of the picture. LOL.
It's one thing for someone to say they're dating; it's another entirely to discuss these dates in graphic detail. Who does he think I am, his "pal?"
What woman wants to hear what a man does with another woman??? He's supposed to be contacting you for the purpose of "wooing you with his cha-min ways," right?
Men who do that are a major turnoff, in my book, anyway.
Oh my goodness..all sorts of things. The ocean is my favorite place to be in the whole wide world. It is the place where one can reflect on all aspects of life, good and bad. Everything about it...the roar, the seagulls singing overhead, the wind, the sun...has a calming, renewing effect on body, mind and spirit...for me it does, anyway..
And looking out onto the horizon, I think of faraway lands and wonder if someone on the other side is wondering about who's on the other side! lol
I look out into the vast sea and imagine how deep the water is and picture sharks and whales and octopuses and all sorts of other freaky creatures. I wonder, while taking all of this in, how anyone could experience this and still deny the existence of God.
The oceans came before land and much life had its origins in the sea. It is awesome to just sit and contemplate life and creation and the majesty and mystery of the sea.
And then I think...man, I can't wait until dinner time...oysters on the half shell, chilled shrimp cocktail, Alaskan King crab legs, scallops in wine sauce, and lobster with drawn butter...
Come hell or high water, I'm going to (one of these days) once again live in a coastal town!!!
I think if anyone was trying to harm me, Dahlia might rip them apart. Kohl? He'd shake their hand...to the death. He does it well, and he's very proud that he can do it, so he does it over and over and over ...
LOL...
Although Dahlia is protective of me, I'm not entirely sure she'd do anything, because she doesn't know aggression. Well...except she did try to murder one of her own babies. So maybe...
Some are definitely more delicate, boy can I relate! And it's maddening because I have a hard time accepting that I can't just "reason" my way out of it.
So in absence of having that ability, I try to do what I can in order to be healthy.
I think that's where people get into such a rut with regard to unhealthy behaviors such as drinking, overeating, etc. How many of us sit around lamenting about how they WISH they could stop, the whole time guzzling beer or stuffing our faces with cheeseburgers or candy, and then wondering why "nothing's happening?"
OMgoodness...no! But thanks! I've always been interesed in pathology, though, and in other areas of science, specifically psychiatry.
I have been an almost lifelong sufferer of panic disorder and I found that quitting drinking and smoking, along with changing other dietary habits, and taking certain vitamins and supplements, while hasn't "cured" it, has helped tremendously. I no longer have panic attacks, for one thing.
(I still need to quit drinking sodas, altogether, but a coke sometimes is just the only thing that'll do. I try to stay away from caffeine or too much sugar, though).
In all the years I've suffered with this I've steered clear of resorting to drugs, with the exception that I did drink to help alleviate sx. When I quit drinking it was hell at first, what with the anxiety and other physical sx, but I was determined to get through it without "benefit" of SSRIs and what have you.
I'm interested in the study of more homeopathic, natural approaches to altering brain chemistry in a positive way. Seems to me, if you can alter it with drugs and alcohol in a negative way, that abstaining, along with the right diet, etc., could "heal" the brain, could perhaps restore serotonin levels to normal or near-normal levels?
Thanks...that's what I was wondering, where the pathologic process is involved with relation to such things as gambling.
Now what I'd like to know is, is there a common denominator amongst people who have these hyper/hypoactive areas? In other words, do they know what causes this?
Like, what is it that causes an imbalance in serotonin levels? Can it be attributed to diet, the consumption of alcohol or drugs? I'm convinced it can be...
...but in the cases of gamblers, in the absence of a dietary-, alcohol- or drug-related connection, I suppose the "malfunction" would have to be genetic in origin.
Is there a pathologic process that occurs in the brain that causes people to gamble excessively? If there is, I've never heard of it. I suppose there could be.
But since gambling doesn't involve ingesting any chemical substance that can alter your brain chemistry or impair the functioning of your internal organs, I don't see how gambling can in any way be classified as a "disease," in the clinical sense of the word.
They are now coming to terms with the acceptance that many (if not all) mental disorders are organic in origin, thus classifying them as true pathologic "diseases."
I agree! And not everyone would understand this but if you have been accepted as "one of the pack" by your dogs, then that's a very "high honor!" I'm not fanatical about this, but I just think that animals serve a purpose that many, unfortunately, do not get a chance to experience. God didn't put animals here for us to put them on a chain in the backyard, feed and water them and to pat them on the head occasionally.
I have a bond with my pets and they have also taught me a lot about, as I said previously, what it means to be human.
I work from home so am always "at work," but business is slow late November through late January. It's frustrating, sometimes, but gives me time to get other things done, and to goof off here, too.
The eerie thing was that they both had mannerisms that were identical that they weren't even consciously aware of until I pointed it out for them.
For instance, they would both (in separate incidents, of course!) rub or pat my leg and go "Mmm mmm mmm..." exactly alike! First time Don did that I had this eerie feeling they were trying to pull a fast one on me and that I was really still with Ron.
Fortunately, there was one foolproof way to tell them apart!
Ooh, this is a good one! I was dating a guy once, who had an identical twin brother. I liked the guy I was dating, but he proved himself to be a jerk. I REALLY liked his brother. So...
I quit dating Ron and started dating Don. Fell madly in love with him, too, and to this day, some 20 years later, still wish we had ended up togther for life. He was a rare breed for sure.
Like with the cat the other day, my sister said I should have just taken the cat and put it on my neighbor's front porch. Trust me, that's what I felt like doing, to show her it was HER responsibilty to handle the situation....but my first priority was to end that cat's suffering.
Since she wasn't going to do it, I HAD to. I still have "nightmares" about it, but you have to do what you have to do, then LATER you worry about dealing with the emotional aftermath.
Yes, in that sense I can see where such a group would be immensely helpful because you're taking active steps to move foward. And that's what intiating any kind of change is all about. Sometimes people don't know..or simply don't have the resources...to effect that change.
I have a friend who attends drug addiction "recovery" meetings and he says they sit around and talk about it and then a select group of them go out after the meeting (away from the main group) later and get drunk or high. What's the point of attending the meetings if they won't even try? It's a farce, to them. They go for the free coffee and the talk makes them "feel better."
I'm not one to seek comfort in groups; I've always been very autonomous. But I have nothing against those who find support groups helpful, nothing whatsoever!
I would just take issue with the "I am powerless," "I have no control over this," "This is bigger than me" approach.
I think the approach would be better addressed as "I am powerful," "I control my own destiny, my own life," and "I am bigger than this!"
I'm still not clear on what the OP is referring to. I can't recall any threads that "overcompensated" anyone's virtues, except maybe our late great resident "hero," who rescued Amber Alert kids, stopped speeding locomotives and lept tall buildings in a single bound..but he was a man.
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RE: The dreaded question....
Amen!