Young lady, I do not wish to split hairs over wording. Of course, I want to do it, you wish to do it for your parents, but I did mention in my first post, other societies view it as a moral obligation. With that being said, let's absorb all the positive vibes.
Then I would put my commitments aside, surely family would be more important than our busy obligations, assuming of course there is still family contact.
Most definitely, they looked after us right? In some societies, the elderly are revered, and the moral obligation is never in question. I would not think twice about looking after my Mother if she needed it.
They might be fair game, and you might be already on friendly terms, but there still will be tension. You are better off dating out of that social circle.
RE: has anyone quit smoking ??
Not in 38 years.