tinyfangs Forum Posts (1,034)

RE: Whats wrong with my profile

LOL

RE: Is it ok for a man to use the same engagement ring with multiple women?

So glad to hear that and hope all will work out great for you with that 'Lord of the Rings' guy gone from your life

RE: Polyamory

Oh, and yes I described how routine sets in in relationships, but this is rather normal, the first in love phase does wear off, there is nothing that can be done about it. You however named this an 'unexciting life', while I would call this a completely normal progression of a relationship, but due to the fact that we are driven to long and chase after the next thrill to top the thrill before - what once was a normal progression now seems to be perceiced by some if not many as 'unexciting'.

I find routine in a relationship can actually be something comforting, it is what familiarity is built upon in my view, and in its own right it is an exciting progress - if one has the ability to judge it as such. I though believe many have lost this ability, and it has been replaced with craving and lusting in an ever faster moving society.

RE: Is it ok for a man to use the same engagement ring with multiple women?

Very important though to look back or look at what is going on without anger. Anger is a very powerful emotion and a supporter of the 'blame game'.

RE: Polyamory

To come back to the food example - no for me personally, I'd not be hungry

RE: Whats wrong with my profile

Through 10 hours of darkness on the wet cold forest floor?
If you call that a bitta tantric, I am scared to ask what you'd call a lot

And yes I do have 'world ending - need to prepare for cold forest nights' issues, before anyone else feels a need to point that out

Right is such a weird surname.. not sure I'd like to end with that

RE: Whats wrong with my profile

pfft, if they can't make fire just with sticks they can look as hot as they want, that won't get us through a cold night in the woods, unless one wishes to die from exhaustion instead

RE: Why are women so bad at parking and reversing ?

RE: Why are women so bad at parking and reversing ?

LOL awwww.....

Well, I am just bad at reversing, not plotting to kill mjp (yet )

And yes Wittyandwise, very true and I even know one who has problems with one way traffic just as I do

RE: Whats wrong with my profile

This might sound stupid and I might end getting the stick for it, but it could be the friendslist? Six males on there could have other males feel you might just be after casual encounters, which could scare guys off who really are looking for their special someone?

Like I said, very possible others will beat me for that comment, but I am just saying what I think could be the case

RE: Polyamory

I actually believe it is not just males who are affected by this, but females just the same. We are driven to want and long and lust and to never be satisfied and happy with anything we got for long. Children are raised in this manner now, gift holidays growing bigger and bigger, everything we experience has to be topped by the next experience. I see it as a great illness of modern society

And yes, drama does seem to be part of all as well, and people get caught up and almost addicted to drama too, we just need to look at our TV landscape and what gets the most views

RE: Polyamory

No, it is more about contentment and fulfillment I'd say.
Dunno, a bit like food maybe? People eat a lot of wrong stuffs nowadays and end hungry or lusting for more food, then go raid the fridge. However if you had a meal that takes the hunger away, then you can pass all sorts of goodies and don't crave to taste them.

Tired, really off to sleep now, so no clue whether what I just typed was overly logical, but it sort of is in my head right now ---> bed

RE: Why are women so bad at parking and reversing ?

and what a waste and disrespect would it be if we'd not occasionally make use of them!

I shall crawl off to sleep, but again thank you heaps!
What excuse though can I use for uhm.. quite regularly entering one way traffic the wrong way? I tend to go forward when it happens drat lol
Shall ponder an excuse while drifting off

RE: Why are women so bad at parking and reversing ?

omg, I shall love you forever for this
I never thought of that excuse! That's soooooo noted down!!!

RE: Why are women so bad at parking and reversing ?

Well, I am female and proud of my multi task abilities! I even sometimes close my eyes when I reverse and cringe in advance before I hear that dreadful noise it makes when I hit something!

So ha - that's 3 tasks I am engaging in before the 4th follows - hitting another wall or fencepost!

RE: Polyamory

I think there is that worry about the destruction of the traditional family unit, with which I agree, but individual fates are individual fates (and this makes sense to me at almost 3 am, even if it might not make sense to anyone else )

off to sleep, just eat a veggie burger, Pom, and don't get upset

RE: Why are women so bad at parking and reversing ?

I can hit something while reversing without doing anything else at the time but reversing

RE: Polyamory

As a conspiracy theorist I can follow your line of thought there with little problems, but those who are polyamorous are not the ones wanting to watch the world burn, but just a product of a new world order, alas I feel uncomfortable voicing this.. as it somehow feels disrespectful to individuals

There is the overall, and then there are individual fates...

RE: Polyamory

No it doesn't if you are not polyamorous. If you are a 1 one 1 being, and you'd still be with the one you met at 20, and you indeed love that individual, then you'd not come into a situation emotionally where you would fall in love with the second mentioned as well.

If you are however polyamorous, I'd say you can not understand this. That would make sense to me.

RE: Is connecting singles the wrong site to find true love?

A site like this is only a tool to widen your chances to meet individuals for whatever you are looking for. You could just stand on a bus stop all day instead, hoping someone will bump into you, same principle I'd say. No guarantee that you will meet someone, just an increase of opportunity.

I came to find some friends and have succeeded in that, one I am now even meeting in the physical world on a regular basis (when he is out in the area, happens every 2 weeks or so ^_^)

Love finds us when the time is right for it, that's how I look at it. No use to get frustrated. Desperation is a bad advisor

RE: Polyamory

Can you clarify why you used offensive terms like 'lying' and 'dead inside'?

Polyamory is an interesting subject, and I have discussed it happily and to some depth with my friend, and we both managed to do so without adding insults /js...

RE: Polyamory

I shall just give you that one on technicallity, but why did you feel a need in your 2nd post in this thread - with no other comment inbetween - to run down the orientation of others?

Need I quote this again?


Yes you are wording as 'I think', but you know.. I could write here now:
'I think those who live polyamorous are in truth just shallow and unable to form any deeper lasting connections'.

I could add more 'I think' sentences and claim just because I worded it that way it is not an attack, but I do not feel a need to act in such ways. No need for me to belittle, disrespect, show intollerance towards those not sharing my orientation. I accept other orientations exist, and the 'I think' sentence I did type out there I only added as an example. Just because I can not relate to this way of feeling, does not mean I can judge how it plays out within another. If I would say 'I think you are a jerk', does this mean I did not insult you, considering I said 'I think'?

RE: Polyamory

Who was attacking him when there was not even a comment inbetween the first and second post
Check page 1 maybe?

RE: Polyamory

It could be argued so has the OP in regards to individuals who are not polyamorous? In his second post he launched a clear attack on those who differ, at least in my opinion.

I really have no problems with those of polyamorous nature. I can respect their orientation, but I would very much ask to have mine respected in return.

RE: Polyamory

I am not certain where I explained what love is for me personally, can you point it out? Other than that I said I love 'exclusive'.
The love you describe there and seem to say is how I love, I surely have not mentioned. It appears to me -apologies if I got this wrong- that you jump to conclusions about how others love and what happens within them rather fast. Same as with the 'dead inside' comment. This is an arrogance I try to avoid, and thus I rspect and accept that others love differently, according to their own nature.
You however appear to me as wanting to force your way upon others. Is this because you try to find justification for yourself?
Not aiming to be confrontational, but it could be interpreted that way, and considering that you are very willing to pass judgments upon the inner worlds of others.. well.. what goes around sometimes can come around...

RE: Polyamory

I know it is for the friend I have

RE: Does love really exist?

Don't encourage her further!!!

And why red? Since when are fairies red? Or oh wait.. Santa got the wrong fairies - mine are still save!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

RE: Polyamory

If they are honest about it and also make it clear from the start if they know that they are. Not everyone is polyamorous and if one is, then it would be wrong to have another invest their emotions and trust, if that someone is not polyamorous. Different way of loving and it could lead to a lot of hurt. Others should at least be given a choice whether they wish to enter a relationship of that sort, in my view anyway.

RE: Does love really exist?

Next you will tell that Santa murdered all fairies, but I shan't believe you!

Love does exist, I have seen some humans find it and even some none human animals who found it too.

RE: Polyamory

Explain why it is a contradiction in terms

To me it is no contradiction, it is the way I love in a relationship. Nothing to do with morals, duties, just the way I love. I don't even feel any drive to be physical with another unless I love. But I do not love 'easily' for lack of a better word.

Maybe what I feel when I love is something very different to what you feel when you love? I am tempted to say it has to be or we would not even be engaged in a debate over it, as I know what I feel when I love a male is exclusivly reserved for that specific male. You could threaten me with torture and this would not change, while for you this is a feeling you do not seem to know, or you'd not be able to develop romantic feelings for an additional individual, could you, considering that I can't?

And btw I am very alive inside and out when I love