common_me Forum Posts (49)

RE: See me

Well.. maybe your expectations are not realistic. Most of the people expect to be impressed and you are supposed to demonstrate you are the best they could ever think about..

Even if it's unrealistic .. such places as CS may help you find a friend or a soul mate in some other place or country. It may. But it requires far more effort and financial means one expects..

RE: has anyone ever dated on here?

I have to agree on scammers..

It seems to me all those online possibilities are kind of heaven for different psychos. And it amazes me how many are around, hiding well in a real world.

RE: What´s the best country to find a date in the EU?

You haven't count some of those profiles are not really active, some of those members registered, maybe visited few times and that's it. If a profile states "online more than a month ago" it's same as non-existent.

There are very few real persons on CS, unfortunately. Used to be far better many years ago.

RE: Connecting singles

If you mean relocation to another country with different culture and language then yes, it is quite a problem.

RE: Euro vs Others

Well.. European women, there's a variety of cultures, Bulgarian women are totally different than Dutch or German women..
How long it lasts doesn't really depend on nation/culture but on how you treat the woman. And, of course, her expectations differ from country to country.

RE: has anyone ever dated on here?

Why not? ..really wonder..

RE: LDR?

I suggest you first visit that country many,many,many times, spend as much time as possible and even then you can expect huge shock relocating abroad..
It's not just funding travel, you should have a sufficient reserve for a few years (1-2) of living there and to return if needed.

RE: Vitiligo

Cubans have a cream that cures it.. not available in Europe..

RE: For Those Who Want To Propose

Why this way?
If "No" is an answer it means it's not the right person..

RE: What does love mean to you?

Nope.. it's a beautiful feeling, one just needs be open her/his heart..

RE: What is the use of a man in the life of a woman?

But that's not "the use of a man".. I can do almost everything a woman can do in a household (name it), I do not need a woman to be my servant and I do not consider to be with someone because of eventual benefit.
The relationship should base on mutual respect, understanding, friendship, chemistry, emotions and not on material benefit or sharing the cost or burden of living.

RE: What is your favorite Mediterranean place for vacations this summer Italy or Greece ?

Croatia beats them all!

RE: What does love mean to you?

The feeling and meaning of love should not be different at different ages.
It's just that, when young, people don't distinguish between desire and emotions.
And mostly people don't distinguish "falling in love" from "love". Therefore often, after initial "falling in love" period they suddenly feel empty.

It's basically all in our head. Our image created in our head about the person we encountered, an illusion we create to ourselves. And we start falling in love with this illusion which seldom matches the real person in question. When reality strikes is when love vanishes making us feel disappointed about that person. But we shouldn't be, that person is the same, it's just we realised the illusion we had was wrong, we should be disappointed about ourselves and our judgement..

If the image we created about the person we met matches (more or less) the real person as it is, then after "falling in love" real love happens, genuine emotions for a person next to us. Emotions for what they mean to us, for what we see in that person, for how they make us feel,

Unfortunately people tend to present to their best, taking it as marketing ("try before buy"), ticking boxes which is utmost nonsense - those boxes are what one thinks is important in that particular moment.
Ticking boxes actually narrows one's choices. Besides it does not account for (unknown) future changes.
Even worse, one making boxes to be ticked probably doesn't tick all their boxes (if it does, means person is so perfect and doesn't need anybody)..

In order to avoid disappointment one should present the worst part of personality and check, if other person can deal with that negative traits. As with virtues everybody is comfortable to live with.

And, most important of all - respect, sincerity and open communication are the key for rewarding emotions called love.

(My modest opinion)

RE: How to end a correspondence without hurting the other person?

I do understand your attitude. What amazes me is cutting relationship for something imposed on you by mass media.
Why does one need to take sides? Just because media is framing you? One side OR the other.
Sorry, none, neither!! Or both. I feel sorry for ANY unnecessary victim on ANY side.

RE: What is the use of a man in the life of a woman?

"What is the use of a man in the life of a woman?" Wrong question!!

There is no "use" of a man in the life of a woman, AND vice versa, there's no "use" of a woman in the life of a man, either!
It's not about the "use".
It's about mutual (!!) desire to make other human being's life nicer.

If you think you need a man only to inseminate you, don't go that way! Don't do that to a child!!
A child needs healthy family with lots of love and understanding.

RE: Did you get what you wanted in CS?

Yes..
I was active on CS many,many years ago and knew some couples met here.
And I met my (now ex) wife here, as well. Marriage lasted for some 8 years.

My advice would be - get to know each other. Don't tick boxes, it's BS.
There are no boxes to tick in a real life, your parent's were not ticking boxes while making any of us.
And there is no perfect match!

Base for any relationship must be friendship and respect. Without that no emotions can help.

Wish you all good luck!

RE: “Shopping list” vs 30 seconds

Hmmm.... I confess I had an idea of writing about my bad habbits and worst of me.
I know I would't get a single response ( hardly did anyhow and grateful to those who did!).

Whole idea behind - we don't have problems with good personality part of our partner but worst part. It is their worst behavior and habits that turns us off not best ones. Yet most make advertisings for their positive side....

RE: Need some legal advice

In Europe (except UK and Ireland with anglo-saxon legal system) it is generally assumed property gained/earned during marriage is shared 50/50.
This is general assumption. If you divorce and want to have bigger share you have to prove your share was considerably higher.
But there are differences between countries - I would suggest you seek legal advice in NL only.
And maybe in Canada as well.
Beware of fact you cannot claim other citizenship in your own country! (For Canada you are Canadian, for NL you are Dutch).

I know this was not of much help.... :-(

Wish you a nice day!

RE: Woman leading men to their downfall???

Well, not really - those brains have limited ability to say "NO"

RE: WHATS THE BEST EASTERN EUROPEAN COUNTRY TO VISIT AND TO LIVE IN ? AND WHY ?

I assume the idea behind the question is Eastern Europe is not well known. Many Western Europeans (especially English) didn't want to visit Eastern Europe for various reasons. After joining EU things are dramatically changing.
Additionally is is becoming known Eastern Europe is somewhat cheaper. This attracts visitors.

I do agree there are many beautiful places around EU. All of them worth visiting.

RE: Should there be a one Universal language ?

Naaaa.... what we recognize as Chinese is actually Mandarin.... there are many nations in China and each has its own language.... which will sooner or later lead to civil war :-(

RE: Should there be a one Universal language ?

Hmmm.... maybe better solution would be to learn more languages

I am quite fluent in 5 ( + ability to communicate with other Slavs as well ) and still find it amusing if I can learn some more .... every nation thinks different way and this shows in their language....

Don't forget eastern half of EU speaks Russian as second language (was taught in school) - why English than?? Half of Africa speaks French.... Brasilians Portugese....

Who is to define which language should be "the chosen one"??

RE: How much do you pay for your internet connection...?

broadband

1Mb/384kb + 3 static IP + 2x 100Mb mailbox 20 EUR monthly
2Mb/768kb + 3 static IP + 2x 100Mb mailbox 25 EUR monthly

cable TV 60 channels + 35 radio channels 12 EUR

but there are some cheaper options as well like


There is a project going on where every household will have optical connection. Already available in certain cities..... prices below

RE: WHATS THE BEST EASTERN EUROPEAN COUNTRY TO VISIT AND TO LIVE IN ? AND WHY ?

:-)
not a bad choice .... nature is beautiful and well preserved.... as for people much have changed during last 15 years.... became too materialistic :-(

RE: Why?

You were not there for last 18 years, even when he needed you.
You can't change this and he will probably never think of you as "father".
But you can be his friend. Try to approach it this way....

RE: Why some people in CS didn t posted their photos?

Not really .... some can be shy, some dislike their appearance (like me)....some are not comfortable by taking photos of (guess what - me again) ....

But like in other reality (not this virtual one) you have any kind of people around....

RE: Why some people in CS didn t posted their photos?

I disagree... some even don't bother answering if no pic....

Well - their right anyhow. But just maybe they are missing a chance to meet a nice person.
And some have false pics....

I described why I don't post it. Those willing to comunicate with me (as a person) will do it.
Those unwilling - bad luck

RE: Why some people in CS didn t posted their photos?

he,he.... since I was not allowed to place interesting pic there's not much to keep an eye on

....reminds me on an old song "Eye in the Sky" ...

You never know - maybe they (Mods) have "strange" preferences

RE: Why some people in CS didn t posted their photos?

well.... I asked Mods beforehand.... response was negative

RE: Why some people in CS didn t posted their photos?

I wanted to post a pic .... since I don't have many (I dislike my photos) the one I liked was


this is how I feel about it .... moderators said rule is strict - it should be explicitly me.... well, was thinking about posting a part of me - in that case my profile would be deleted for sure :-)

So I ended up without pic....