The anger of others, whether friends, family members, or strangers, can be extremely intimidating. Depending on our own state of mind in the moment the anger erupts, we can become afraid, assume responsibility for it, try to mollify the one expressing it, stand up to it and express anger ourselves, or quietly withdraw to safer territory. All of these are common responses, but none of them is the most beneficial way to respond to whoever is angry. Certainly, none of those responses take full advantage of the opportunity before us if we understand it for what it actually is.
Anger often signifies fear, frequently intense fear, which is generally misunderstood by the person expressing it and just as often misinterpreted by the observer of it. But once we learn that anger is usually fear in disguise, we start to see some of the dynamics of our interactions and relationships, past and present – within our families, in our marriages, with friends and colleagues at work – in a new light.
If I ask someone to go out to coffee, dinner, movie, whatever, whether it be woman or man. "I" am obligated to pick up the tab. I was the one that extended the invitation. If I have expectations, shame on me..
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RE: Where do you hang out and post stuff on the forums?
I post wherever I suspect the "HOTTIES" may be..