I agree, some parts of Turkey still live by the old customs and it is completely normal. Other parts of the country are much more European in my friends situation she felt she was guided and was happy her parents choice.
I think it tragic when you hear of situations when one person has been bought up in a european culture and then sent back to there country of origin to marry someone that they don't and have to adapt to that culture.
Can only comment on what i have seen here but, it seems that the couple involed do know each other from childhhood and are familiar with each others families, they have a courtship period as we would, they don't feel forced because it's expected and normal and this is the way there parents were married. The belief of my friend (whose husband was choosen for her) is that her parents knew he could provide for her, support her, and she agreed that she was not experienced enough in life to make that decision. wisely.
Still happens here in certain area's that aren't so westernized, there is acceptence because it is the culture and belief the family know's better, have meet people that are really happy and think our way is odd.
morganlee Forum Posts (4,368)
i'll go for stonker
RE: If u saw yourself at a club or a bar, would u flirt with yourself?
You'd know who you were going home with !