I would have done the marriage and kid thing alot differently. If I could I would go back in time and wait for a LONG time before either one. I can just now start school for my career and if I didn't have to go through the divorce and having the kids, then I would of been done with school and already enjoying my careerl. But one thing I firmly believe which is that why dwell on "If only's" and things from the past. You can't change what you've done, you can only change what is yet to be done. If you are determined, you can do almost anything.
RE: What do you look for...
Someone who can be bold and tough when needed and yet soft and gentle when possible.