I remember reading somewhere that if you continue to do everything you did to catch your mate after you have caught them that the likelyhood of the relationship survival was increased tenfold. So why do we get so complacent? Is it as a result of what life throws at us?
So if we continue to keep the relationship new and fresh? I do believe that after we get into a relationship we become very comfortable and complacent.... No one continues to put the effort forth to keep it alive sometimes.....
Scientists tell us love is all in our mind or brain, based on a chemical reaction fueled by chemicals. When two people are attracted to each other, a virtual explosion of adrenaline-like nuerochemicals gush forth. Fireworks explode and we see stars. Some of you may experience something a little different but it’s your unique way of being smitten.
Singles search for love armed with a list of qualities desired in a mate/lover, such as honesty, fidelity, loyalty, sense of humor, intelligence, warmth, etc. Yet when that person appears they say, he/she is a really nice person, but nothing clicked, just no "chemistry."
Some people become veritable love junkies. They need chemistry or this chemical excitement to feel happy about and intoxicated by life. Once this initial rush of chemicals wanes (inevitable after six months to three years, depending on the individual and the circumstances), their relationship crumbles. They're soon off again, seeking a quick fix to their forlorn feelings: another chemical high from infatuation.
So is this why so many of us are still here on CS? Do we place too much value on the chemistry rather than the other things that we believe are so important in a mate? Could we possibly find that person and have the chemistry follow if we gave it some time?
I agree..... but I have talked with a few that are not willing to even chat if you don't live in the area.... I myself have gotten on a plane and gone to another country to meet someone....
I appreciate everyone's opionion.... I think by placing this information in a thread it helps people see what others are out there and what others are doing..... Now any othese options will work for most.... but making people feel at ease and comfortable, so you can see the real person is important....
Not many are willing to look outside there own local area.... but for the few of us that have opened up our geographical barriers this information is useful.
RE: MPU..........
I see Claire all the time....at the other place......