Krinka Forum Posts (231)

RE: Where to meet single women

I agree...

It's not easy - either to make new friends or to find a partner at our age.

It's much easier for younger and older people. This is some "phase" that we simply have to go through.

I did a little research of various dating sites and profiles of men from my area around my age and - they are either some playboys (usually married, want something casual) or men I wouldn't date anyway - even if I met them in real life. Those sites are practically useless for women my age (40~50).

I think that - even on CS - men and women older than 60 have much better chances to find someone than us.

RE: Where to meet single women

I think it's the internet side-effect.

Each time in my life I left online world (forums, chats, dating sites, etc) and completely turned to real life ONLY - I started to meet men. Or - better said - I started to notice men who noticed me.

Whenever I turned to virtual life - meeting men in real life started to stagnate or completely stopped.

Maybe some people can balance that nicely, but it seems that I cannot.

It's different online - everything. The way people talk, address each other, topics they talk about... Everything is upside-down. You sometimes get to know someone's past before you have even seen the person (on a camera), for example.

In real life - there's a different order of getting to know people.

We get used to this virtual communication too much and then our real life communication start to suffer. Because it's simply different.

In the past I thought that "virtual world" broadens your chances to meet people, but now - when I turn back and compare my life with a lot of virtual things going on and life without them - it seems it's the opposite.

RE: Where to meet single women

I friend of mine tried to practice paintball in order to meet a man. She made friends, but not a man.

Then she tried several martial arts clubs. She hurt her arm, yet - no man.

In the end she joined some "bicycle riding club" and - met a man!

They started dating, got married, had two children, but - the man is unemployed and not very interested in working either and she lost her job when she got pregnant, so now she struggles a lot with finances, but - she has a man!

RE: Say Anything

I didn't know that you can reactivate old nicknames even if more than a month has passed. It seems that you can reactivate them endlessly.

RE: Say Anything

It is not enough to leave.

You need to have a place to go to.

RE: Say Anything

To everyone...

RE: 3 Wishes

health, happiness, some people simply vanish from CS forever

RE: Current Thoughts

You always cheer me up.

RE: Current Thoughts

True.

I often think about that - several nasty people and plenty of good ones. That's why I haven't gone yet...





You both are right.

RE: Current Thoughts

I like Lookin



I know that some people are mentally unstable and that they cannot understand how other people see things and the world. I've already had contact with people who have some mental condition and I know that they cannot understand why people around them get hurt or insulted by their remarks or behaviour.

But this is fun, entertainment, the place where you come to get relaxed, not to deal with people you don't even have enough knowledge to deal with. And you don't want to deal with.

I guess they also need some place to express themselves and feel that they belong.

It's just a little too much for me.

RE: Current Thoughts

I have to write down what it likes to be on CS and what kind of bullying one has to endure and what kind of nonsense one has to read, so that I NEVER come to idea to join this site again in the future. NEVER.

RE: Current Thoughts

Some people are so toxic...

RE: Current Thoughts

Why, oh, why, can't we get the IGNORE option?!

RE: Share What You Are Listening To -- Part 99

Good night!

RE: Spiritual?

Thank you.

I'm trying, but I do make a lot mistakes, especially when I chat (type fast) or talk.

RE: If you were a moderator...

Different people have different idea of "funny".

For some - bullying is also funny.

RE: Spiritual?

Then you should open a thread "What is spirituality to you?".

I think that they gave that option for people who didn't want to say that they belong to some religion, but didn't want to say that they are atheists, either.

In the past, I used to choose "Orthodox Christian" (most Serbian people traditionally belong to this church) on similar sites and then was approached by people who were really seriously religious Orthodox (or some other) Christians. Since I'm not one, I've found this option better.

RE: Spiritual?

It generally means - believing in God (or something that transcends us), but having personal beliefs about it. Neither belonging to some religion, nor being an atheist/agnostic.

RE: Is flirting seen as a negative quality??

It gives an impression of not being serious, especially if done excessively with lots of people and when it "crosses the line".

If one is looking for a serious relationship - flirting openly online is not the best way to go. I think it actually reduces the chances to find someone serious. On the other hand, it increases the chances to find someone for a casual relationship.

The more "flirty" someone is, the more attention that person will attract, but it will be not the type of attention one wants if they are interested in serious relationships.

There are many ways to joke and have fun online, without being flirtatious.

RE: Say Nothing thread

Say Anything...
Say Nothing...
Current Thoughts...

So many similar threads... I'm confused... Where to write the latest nonsense that came to my mind?

RE: Current Thoughts

True.

A nice way of seeing things.

RE: If you were a moderator...

Only at first, because those who only come to troll, chat and flirt everywhere and know that they wouldn't be punished for bullying - will get mad and leave. Or at least stay on two-three threads. Then, slowly, more quality people will start coming to the forum. The forum wouldn't be a private cafe of several dozens of people who make the rules, but will slowly evolve into the place of hundreds and maybe thousands of serious people who would find here a nice place to socialize.

However, it does require a substantial effort from the moderators and changing the whole politics of CS. I doubt it would happen, so it will stay the way it is now.

Meaning - this thread is pointless.

RE: Current Thoughts

That's the best way to behave.

I've always had problems on forums and similar sites, because I don't see "virtual creatures" but "people" behind the screen and many times I do things only out of politeness or because I know it's important to someone and get myself into wasting too much time and energy doing something I would rather not doing.

I think I will adopt this more ... selfish ... approach.




That's true. It's nice when you belong, even to a virtual community.

Thanks.

RE: If you were a moderator...

- start better threads
- don't allow chat on serious threads (move chatting posts to another topic made for chatting)
- ban cyberbullies
- lock old threads whose OPs and most of those who posted aren't active members on the forum any more

Moderators should be visible and not pretend to be members.


A moderator cannot do this, but CS owners could:

- make special subforums for politics, religion, etc. so that you have to open a certain subforum in order to read threads about such topics. Now when you open CS you need to read 10 "newspaper titles" until you reach something that might interest you
- add ignore list, so that you can ignore certain members and don't need to see and read their posts
- edit option would be nice, but it would be too misused, so it's probably not a good idea
- OBLIGATORY photos or avatars

RE: Current Thoughts

CS indeed helped me recover from my emotional mess and make some decisions for the future, just like the last time I was here (7-8 years ago). But, I'm not sure if staying here makes any sense any more... A funny thing to say, but I often feel - too young to be here. Many members (especially on blogs) are a lot older than me - often 15-20 years. The nicest men I encountered on forums and blogs, real gentlemen and men with nice sense of humour that doesn't insult anyone and is TRULY funny - are usually 65+ years old. I think that there aren't many people around my age I can relate to and even if there are - most of them are here only for fun and don't even reveal their real identity. And then - so much fighting, gossiping, attention seeking, some bad energy and bad atmosphere... Maybe it's really time to move on.

RE: Current Thoughts

I think that the time to leave this place approaches very very fast.

RE: Allergy

I'm glad I'm not alone in this battle!

RE: Allergy

I did many allergy tests and the results were always negative. Yet, I constantly use a nasal spray and often even medicines and creams, when the allergic reaction gets strong. There are absolutely no rules or patters when it gets stronger. It simply happens every now and then. Since I'm not really allergic to anything, according to the tests, there's not much to be done about it, except to take the medicine and cream when needed. All the doctors I talked about had more or less similar conclusion: ''Your organism is simply hypersensitive''. So, I've learned to live with it.

RE: Life With A Cat Summed Up In One Picture

Lookin and Track, thank you.

Mykingdom, you are very lucky.

My cat was like a small panther. A very dangerous and proud cat, yet so cuddly.

Sometimes I felt like a mouse.

She would grab my clothes with just one claw and pretended that she was not interested in me. Yet, if I tried to move, she would hiss on me. So I had to sit there patiently until she let me go...

I think that those were some power games she played from time to time to remind me who's the owner and who's the pet...

RE: Current Thoughts

You can never go back in time...