sleepin_bird Forum Posts (167)

RE: You are over 40

No complaints about my 40's so far and I'm turning 42 next week; seems like things only keep getting better and better

RE: Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me

You're right, according to the rules, you're not doing anything wrong. It's just a bit hard to ignore your threads, since there are so many. I actually do think you created some good topics, well worth discussing; however I would have liked your approach a tad more positive, open or inviting. However, that's my personal opinion.

What you consider rude, I might not and my initial comment wasn't addressed to you.
The second one might have been perceived as rude by some, but you reap what you sow.

Anyway to make an on topic comment: Words can certainly hurt, but only from people I care about. JMO.

Have a nice evening

RE: Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me

Hello, you shouldn't be putting up wrong threads then.

Big love back, up the jack

RE: Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me

Hey Carenza
Think you might be on the wrong thread

RE: Native English-speaking people, please say "Thank you" to us non-native english-speaking people..

Thanks Jac
I'll start spreading the word to my womance fwiends

RE: Native English-speaking people, please say "Thank you" to us non-native english-speaking people..

Or would it be womance? Does sound like cartoon English more than native though

Hi Aswina, lovely lady, have a great weekend!

RE: Do fellas like tattoos on their girlfriends/wives?

I believe tattoos and other body art, are simply a way people use to express themselves. You like them or you don't, but they sure don't change someone's personality.

In this day and age tattoos are well excepted (in most parts of the world, hehe) and certainly not a social stigma anymore.

I have several tattoos and they don't show when I'm dressed, so I think if I got undressed to leave a first impression, it wouldn't be a good one to begin with, would it?

The world is changing and people get more freedom to express themselves every day. Unfortunately the small minded do not seem interested to expand any horizons or to respect other people's views.

Tolerance will go a much longer way than bigotry, any day.

RE: Why do women pick plastic Ken dolls and not the good guys

I always thought Ken was gay and that's why Barbie cleaned him out in the divorce

RE: would you date a co worker?

I once dated a colleague, when I was very young and naive. It turned awkward after we stopped dating so I made the rule for myself never to mix work life with personal life.
I see no pro's at all, just cons.

RE: Building financial security

I wouldn't want to share my financial responsibilities with someone; I like my financial independance and expect that from a partner as well.
What worked for me in the past was, having a shared account for all living expenses, with a shared savings account for our travels.
Everything else would be seperate so we both still had our own funds and no arguments on who spent what on what.
What matters is you're both in agreement.

RE: 2011

Almost over
Hi Ali

RE: Glories of being a MAN

Al, seriously??

RE: Glories of being a MAN

I'll try immediately when the first snow falls and report back to you - will put my wellies on though

RE: Glories of being a MAN

I can do that... just have to put my feet further apart

RE: Nutters....

Yep, I've heard that one before and it was my cue to leave.
Definitely some scary people out there... I do scare myself at times as well though.

RE: Nutters....

Being married to a nutter makes the radar more sensitive
Think I meant experience makes you read people easier or at least recognize some signs.

RE: Nutters....

Same nutters here as in real life; you never know at first sight
I think with age comes experience and knowing what we want and not want a lot better.
The bad experiences put me off dating for some times; taking a time out isn't bad every now and then, so you can put things back in perspective. I don't think I'm more careful when I date, I still go by gut feeling. You'll only find out when you try. The signs of instability are easier to spot nowadays though.

RE: Belgium Gun & Grenade Attack..

You're right I was just thinking about the stuff my colleagues always ask me to buy whenever I go over to the Netherlands to visit family... and it does seem easier to get your hands on the illegal stuff sometimes.
I'm quite careful these days after being beaten up in broad day light at la Bourse and nobody lifting a finger to help. It made me a bit more cynical but you can't live your life in fear of these nutters... I've felt safer walking the Bois de Boulogne in Paris at night though

RE: Belgium Gun & Grenade Attack..

So true, I can walk into any park and buy myself a Kalashnikov; they're easier to buy than a decent jar of peanut butter

RE: Belgium Gun & Grenade Attack..

Glad to hear she's fine!




Not officially confirmed yet, but sources speak of 6 dead and 123 injured now

RE: Belgium Gun & Grenade Attack..

Latest update from several sources here is that it's an attack by a single perpetrator, apparently a weapon freak and known by police and justice. He was out on parole.
There are no links with terrorist organizations or the Pakistani honor-killing trial that took place earlier.
No apparent motive was found yet.

RE: I think HE is back

That's the one I saw
Last week I celebrated Sinterklaas with my brother and his family; his 2 little girls were very excited and tried to get a glimpse of them...
When I was young, we did the entire present thing with Sinterklaas and indeed Christmas was more for religion.
Good you have nice memories of that time

RE: I think HE is back

Think I saw him last week... riding a white horse on a roof top

RE: Happy Birthday Aswina

Well, well, I go offline for a second and a party is going on already

Happy Birthday Aswina and many happy returns!!

Close your eyes and blow out the candles
May your wish come true

RE: Why Are We Single... Still?

Where did you get the idea that being single means not dating (for years)?
Or should I ask define dating?

RE: Unattractive people.....

Reply yes (as long as it isn't a scammer mail), meet, that would totally depend on the content of the message. Would he show interest in what I wrote in my profile or simply send a 'hi, how are you' message. The tone is important, sort of a virtual click, I think. Also what he writes in his profile and how he writes it, is important to me. I just don't like to waste my as well as his energy into something that wouldn't work and I don't date for the sake of dating.

So, in short, if a message and profile are not appealing to me, I would not agree in meeting a person.
You're right, I wouldn't want to give someone a wrong idea as well.

RE: Shallow but true ( I have noticed about myself)

I do agree with you here... chemistry has more to do with all senses; touch, smell and taste being just as important as sight and hearing.
And then ofcourse is how one stands in life.
Emails, calls and cam can make you feel attracted to a personality; it can never determine chemistry.
So one could build a base of friendship online; only meeting will show if things could progress to something more.

RE: Shallow but true ( I have noticed about myself)

Thank you. I truly believe lots of people are accepting this; they simply grow together and still manage to see their partner as the person they fell in love with years ago.
Yes, people change in time, both inside and outside. The core being stays the same though. If two people love each other and leave each other the freedom to grow and change, they will keep the attraction or chemistry alive.

Ofcourse things happen which make people not going into the same direction anymore; that's part of life and if the magic and happiness have gone, it's better to go seperate ways. I don't believe it's only physical appearance that would lead to people leaving each other.

Even gravity can be beaten by love, but maybe I'm a hopeless romantic (I'd rather say hopeful though).
I'd love to grow old with a significant other and enjoy the changes and beauty that age brings (and hopefully some wisdom); every era in a life time has its own attraction.

RE: Shallow but true ( I have noticed about myself)

Valid points you make; I also don't judge on pictures, most pics don't do people justice to begin with.
I'd go for personality any day; like Jac also said, people can grow on you and that's what happened to me before as well. It would have been a pity not to have invested time to get to know these people.

I don't think age takes beauty away; it adds beauty, in a different way.
Gravity however...

RE: Shallow but true ( I have noticed about myself)

I think it's all about chemistry, which is something different than physical attraction alone. It's about the entire package - looks, mind, spirit (I go for quick with and intelligence)... mostly chemistry is beyond explanation and it makes the person you fall for the most attractive on earth