I posted this because I've learned a lot being a single mother. I have seen my son do so much that I haven't taught him! I've seen & heard him do things I would never want him to do cuz he learned from watching me. He has also, in what few relationships I have had watched how he should & shouldn't treat the ladies. I love that. I never taught him to open the doors for women, how to protect women when people aren't treating them right! I never taught him those things. I'm not proud of some of the things he's seen but they have taught him how to be a loving kind boy because he's watch how others have done things & how it affects me & the ones he cares for! & watching him grow & learn has also taught me so much.
A message every adult should read because children are watching you and doing as you do, not as you say.
When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately wanted to paint another one.
When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.
When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you make my favorite cake for me, and I learned that the little things can be the special things in life.
When you thought I wasn't looking I heard you say a prayer, and I knew that there is a God I could always talk to, and I learned to trust in Him.
When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I learned that we all have to help take care of each other.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you give of your time and money to help people who had nothing, and I learned that those who have something should give to those who don't.
When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you take care of our house and everyone in it, and I learned we have to take care of what we are given.
When you thought I wasn't looking I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn't feel good, and I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.
When you thought I wasn't looking I saw tears come from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it's all right to cry.
When you thought I wasn't looking I saw that you cared, and I wanted to be everything that I could be.
When you thought I wasn't looking I learned most of life's lessons that I need to know to be a good and productive person when I grow up.
When you thought I wasn't looking I looked at you and wanted to say, 'Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn't looking.'
I AM SENDING THIS TO ALL OF THE PEOPLE I KNOW
WHO DO SO MUCH FOR OTHERS, BUT THINK THAT NO ONE EVER SEES.
LITTLE EYES SEE A LOT.
Each of us (parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher, friend) influences the life of a child.
How will you touch the life of someone today? Just by sending this to someone else, you will probably make them at least think about their influence on others. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.
Oh trust & beleive I'm not letting them get away with threatening me. I've got a child & I'm also pregnant! That is the last thing I need to worrie about. I'm not going to put my son's life, my life or the one to comes life in danger!
I've tried telling him I wouldn't do that to him. idk...I guess i care to deeply for him & know what pain he's going threw cuz I've been there too & wanna see him get threw this. But maybe I just got to move on. Its hard though when he's messaging me & everything.
I've been thinking that but he's still hurt so bad & he needs to know that his worth more than what she did cuz he thinks he's worthless cuz what happened...I just don't know how to get threw to him & wanna be a good friend even though i'm hurting
Ok, here is my problem. I met a man a few months back threw a friend. He was with this woman for 5 years, married her than a week later she told him she was cheating on him & it was over. He was & still to this day is heartbroken over this. We started seeing each other. Everything was going great! Than he started telling me how we can't be together because he feels to much for me & is can't go threw another heartbreak & he fears I will do it just like she did. He tried pushing me away, than said sorry for hurting me & how much he cared & wanted to be with me. Now he's doing it all again! Instead of breaking up with me & leaving it as that he's messaging me telling how much he cares & is sorry for doing this to me & he's not worth my tears. I've tried telling this man that I think he is wonderful & he deserves better than what she did to him. I don't know how to help him or what I should do. Any advise?
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he does not want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend would not mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You will be mad at yourself A year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He did not marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh, Lord! If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. Not all men are dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he does not turn out to be Mr... Right Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Do not fully commit to a man who gives you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other women... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
I'm not new but it has been a while sense I've been on here so I just thought I would say hello & see how everyone is doing. Hope every one's new year is going good!
I feel the same way sometimes... It just really depends on the guy. I have had some guys who have been great with my kids, some guys I had to let go cuz they competed with my child for my time & affection, & some guys that have ran! Don't give up... I believe there is a soul-mate for everyone!
Its ok...I asked for others opinions, & you all are just telling me what you think or have learned from your lives. I'm not taking it personal. I've been through so much & am still learning. & I can bet I will make so many more mistakes through my life that I will learn from. That is why I ask others for their thoughts...so I can learn...LOL I may not always listen but I at least do my best...
I think cheating is wrong on both ends whether its the man or woman cheating...There are lots of excuses people make for cheating...If you cheat on someone it's because your having relationship problems & must not be happy so why not just end the relationship? That doesn't mean you don't love them but why put yourself & the other person through so much more heart ache than needed?
Maybe I said that wrong...I didn't mean I'm going for him...I think I'm just going to keep meeting new people & dating...take the time to get to know people as I'm dating & see what happens. I'm not going to just walk away from him cause it could be many things but I'm not going to just wait around for him...did that make more sense?
wow only one person...That's sad! I think the man above me seems like he's a sweet, smart loving guy who knows what a real relationship is & what it needs to work!
Well thank you all...I heard from him today but don't think i'm going to walk away or stay...I think I'm just going to shop around for a while before I make any decisions & see what happens...because I see that he has a lot going on & it may be that hes playing games & he may not be
See that's just it though, I am an outgoing person...I offered him to stay here (no its not just cause I like him because I've done this for many people including 2 single mothers I didn't know) but he said no cause he didn't want to live off me & at that time had no job & he wanted to stay there for a while so he could get his stuff together.
OK...I met this guy about 3 months ago that lives in my town from another on line dating site. I really like him but not sure what to do or what to think. I'm not going to tell his hole life story but here is why I'm confused.
We met & hit it off really well. He told me he was really interested in me & was in this for the long hall but we weren't together officially if you know what I mean. Anyways, he just got out of prison & is trying to get his life on the right track... He all the sudden vanishes for like 2 weeks than texts me asking if i could forgive someone who just vanished? I said yes cause I'm one who gives chances but asked why he did that. He told me that the person he was living with was given a 3 day notice that he couldn't be there or they would loose their apt. Now he's living in a men's christian home & working on getting things right in his life. He mad plans to come over 1day after helping his pregnant sister move...he text saying he was done & was going to call me when he got back to his mothers & never did! 2 days later he text saying he was sorry his sister worked his but off & it was getting late & he didn't know how to tell me without me getting mad & how much he wanted me. He asked me if I've been with anyone else & I said no...He said he likes when a girl is faithful & he's down for his girl & asked if I would do that for him? Today will be 3 days & I haven't heard from him.
I understand he's been through a lot & has a lot going on but I'm wondering if this is a game he's playing or should I just be patient? Tell me what you think please...
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When you thought I wasn't looking
I posted this because I've learned a lot being a single mother. I have seen my son do so much that I haven't taught him! I've seen & heard him do things I would never want him to do cuz he learned from watching me. He has also, in what few relationships I have had watched how he should & shouldn't treat the ladies. I love that. I never taught him to open the doors for women, how to protect women when people aren't treating them right! I never taught him those things. I'm not proud of some of the things he's seen but they have taught him how to be a loving kind boy because he's watch how others have done things & how it affects me & the ones he cares for! & watching him grow & learn has also taught me so much.