Personally I agree with both of you. It did end up badly for me, but during the time involved, we were content and totally honest about it, I today, wouldn't put myself in the situation, but if it works someone else go for it.
True, but it was basically just there to make the point, if you and your parner agreed on any kind of extra activity in the relationship. It would be just that a decision between the two of you based on what each desired.
(1) what made you smoke for the first time? I was seven years old when I had my first cigarette. I was just trying to be more like the kids I admired and thought were cool. (2) in what situation do you really need to smoke? Need is probably not the word I would use, but there are times when smokers are stressed or agitated and say "I need a smoke". Wanting a cigarette is different. Most smokers can almost be timed as to when they "want" their next smoke. Some is about every hour, some more, some less. (3) what are the different feelings do you have before and after smoking? If you were working lets say. It was a hectic day as usual. So, when you got a break you went outside and let the sun shine on your pretty face. You would feel much better returning to work, having had the time to enjoy the sunshine. It is pretty much that way for a smoker. The smoke is their sunshine to calm down and release pressure and maybe even set their mind at ease. (4) for what reasons will make you quit smoking? I am not a heavy smoker to begin with. I go hours on end without even thinking of a cigarette. If I am around certain non smokers, I respect that and try not to smoke. But a smoking habit, and nicotine are both addictive. Sooner of later a smoker will "need" to smoke. They can become quite aggitated if they are deprived that time. Thats why quitters are hard to be around sometimes, talk about being cranky. There are too many answers as to what would be THE reason for us to quit. Health, Love, Money, Disgust, and on and on.
As foR ME, I have had good and bad as many of you. The good, a woman began to contact me who lived close by. We met on Christmas morning seeing both our families were far away. To make a long story short, we ended up living together for 1 1/2 yrs. and broke up as friends. We were great roomates, just no passion. We are still friends today. The other, I moved across the state to be with her. After two years, I couldn't take no more of her lies and self centerness. I moved and never looked back. So here I am, third time is a charm, right?
I think just as many men would be willing, but are very concerned about a career for instance. Now how would I as a Victoria's Secret saleman find work if I relocated to lets say Equador? Just mocking you hon, I do agree out of the country would be a tough call.
I think for the most part everyone is in agreement. Make a trip or two (or more) see how things go then dwell deeper into the thought. Some are dead against it and I'm sure with just cause. I do agree if I was to travel abroad or even to lets say Alaska, I would take the time to get to know that person. I luckily have a good sense of character, providing the whole ordeal isn't a charade (been there too). I think after a short time together along with the long letters, I would feel pretty comfortable being able to decide whether or not I should invest my time and money into the situation. Agreed?
Thank you for your concern KB (which happens to be my initials ) but whatever it was is gone. Whew, thought I was going to have to eat beans tonight to exterminate!
Thanks Pops, I do need a reality check from time to time. Theres a lot of wisdom going through these forums, which is part of the reason I love reading and posting. As far as seriousness, I agree to a point. I can be seen as TOO serious a lot of times, when in all actuality, I am just on a mission. I love laughter, and think that more people need laughter, to lighten up a bit. JMO! Kevin
I don't know if this was directed at me, but if so, I don't believe I have. I am here looking as many others. I personally am offering the real me, if they like me great, if not thats OK too. I don't want to have to try to back peddle later and explain why I said this or that. I am openly honest, sometimes too much so. I will admit that a few of my pics are a few years old, but only because I don't have any newer. Though my looks really haven't changed. Thank you for posting. I appreciate all points of view. Peace,Kevin
Hey everybody! Ok, my dilemma is truthfulness. We all have issues with liars, scammers, portraying someone you are not, etc. If I am reviewing a profile, there are some key factors that send red flags up for me. Now whether my opinion is justified may be another story. Example, a woman writes she is fit, or athletic, or average in her size category when clearly you can see in her pics she is overweight. Maybe not grossly overweight, but still overweight. If she cannot be upfront and truthful about the obvious, should she be expected to be truthful when corresponding? Example two, has kids, wants kids. If a woman is in her early fifties, I highly doubt she will be bearing children, so don't answer maybe, unless I am misunderstood and that answer means she's willing to accept yours, or possibly adopt, etc. Maybe I am just venting frustration, but are there any triggers that make you turn away?
You know that for about the last ten years I have asked my friends."Is it me or do people just don't care anymore? Am I getting old fashioned?" referring to truth telling and manners. I agree with all of you to be careful, do Skype, etc. I also try to keep my guard up. Even recently, I have been writing a woman, that I still haven't gotten to know well enough to trust. I am the type that will drop you in an instant if I am lied to or misled. Good Luck to all of those still searching! Kevin
Would I relocate? Yes, with explanation though. First after meeting someone here and falling in "love" (that alone poses another opinion) I would want to visit them several times at least. Spend as much time as possible before making a leap into blind fate. Just correspondence , IMO can't constitute love, as sited above. As for moving to another country, now we are talking culture change, language, racial status, the list goes on. Theres a whole lot more to concider than Love alone. But it would not be totally out of the question. Either decision depends on how much you want to unite with this person.
Thanks again everyone for your posts. I do remember "waverider" that was bizarre. I also rember a guy from St. Claire Shores, Mi. I think he was really intelligent nd posted often. He had met a blonde and they were doing great. Wish he was still here. He had some amazing posts. I have read many of yours as well. This forum can get you laughing til your ready to pee your pants, then think til your head spins. Life wouldn't be the same without variety. Hats off to all of you posting for making everyones life richer! Kevin
I want their laughter, sadness, strength, fear, love, dislikes, company, space, I want to have someone whom I can share life with, through good times and bad.
What will you compromise to be with him/her.
Definitely not my charcter. I believe in changing little quirks to become compatible, but your character, style, and such is a unique trademark. As for what would I compromise physically? I would go to just about any extremes for the woman I love, just as you would for your child. Everything within reason of course, you don't want to end up institutionalized.
Why do you want to be part of a pair???
Pairs are part of life. They go hand in hand and look beautiful together, sun-blue sky, beautiful landscape-waterfall, Mother Duck-6 littles ducklings follwing her. It's only a natural desire to be a part of that.
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RE: Do you believe in having an open marriage (sleeping with other partners)?
Personally I agree with both of you. It did end up badly for me, but during the time involved, we were content and totally honest about it, I today, wouldn't put myself in the situation, but if it works someone else go for it.