I just came back fro having dinner with my family. My 4 y/o grandchild is staying with me and was at dinner. The restraint was noisy and crowded and she didn't really like her meal.
Emily knows what is expected of her ie; how she is to behave in a restaurant . She is not allowed to act up or get out of control in any way. Good manners are regularly expected of her.
I never lay a finger on her or raise my voice. If she will not listen to quiet down the first time I just remind her that we can leave if she can't follow the rules. She also knows I mean it and we will leave any time any place where she can't behave right. We have always followed through on this.
She not only acted beautifully tonight (and usually), never ran around or got out of control. She hugged me and said "OK grandma". I told her I was proud of her.
A friend who was eating with us said he was amazed and that his niece who is the same age was always all over the place.
Emily is never hit, she does get time outs and very clear boundaries. She is basically treated with the same respect that is required of her.
You might remember Tom that in a number of my posts during the campaign I said I thought Obama was a good man and loved his wife/family. It is one of the reasons I liked him.
I think there was so many arguments going on over the negative issues that wether he was a nice guy or not didn't have a chance to come up much for any of the candidates did it?
I'm so sorry this happened and hope she gets home soon. Is there a way (after reading about the squirrels) that you can leave some food and water outside for her? That might bring her home.
Also have you posted any notices up in your neighborhood in case someone took her in thinking her a stray? It is possible that you might get a call if you do.
Best of luck having your little one in your arms soon.
Just how did your question address the issues Hugs was speaking about?
I saw you posting questions like this repeatedly to her but as you said it was her attitude you were against yet I have still not seen one post about her attackers attitude or ugly words from you.
I have see this game your are playing as Devils Advocate and I'm just not too interested in facilitating it.
I don't think you are being mean. I think you are trying to rationalize away something that has been and injustice and is continuing today not just happening in yesterday.
The worst offenses happened yesterday and crushed a people. What about the forced schooling (kidnapping) of the tribal children. Doesn't that alone bother you? Raise some compassion and outrage.
What you bring here is a sanitized rational not the bloody truth.
If bad language bothered you than you should have equally addressed the one who was using far worse language and personally attacking her.
You ignored the cause of her distress and shot her down for responding to attacks on her, her beliefs and her people. She is an advocate for tribal rights and for herself.
That is what was the source of her passionate argument. Some nasty personal attacks were very ugly that anyone would have been driven to respond in kind to.
Blow it off sweetheart, he will change his own mind or not. Maybe from some seeds you planted or life will teach him something else to think. Sometimes people have to hit bottom before rigid ideas are changed.
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tampa1, cause you sure aren't thinking with any kind of sound mind are you.
RE: Disruptive Children In Public
I just came back fro having dinner with my family. My 4 y/o grandchild is staying with me and was at dinner. The restraint was noisy and crowded and she didn't really like her meal.Emily knows what is expected of her ie; how she is to behave in a restaurant . She is not allowed to act up or get out of control in any way. Good manners are regularly expected of her.
I never lay a finger on her or raise my voice. If she will not listen to quiet down the first time I just remind her that we can leave if she can't follow the rules. She also knows I mean it and we will leave any time any place where she can't behave right. We have always followed through on this.
She not only acted beautifully tonight (and usually), never ran around or got out of control. She hugged me and said "OK grandma". I told her I was proud of her.
A friend who was eating with us said he was amazed and that his niece who is the same age was always all over the place.
Emily is never hit, she does get time outs and very clear boundaries. She is basically treated with the same respect that is required of her.