I was fine up until....Regardless. I'm sure you and a few others will be happy to know that I will no longer burden you with any further concerns or questions. I really don't need or asked for certain comments made. Tho I did appreciate some advice given.
I know see that this is just another forum of a certain group of people that really don't appreciate new comers trying to fit in looking for answers etc..
Hardly I also requested her to stop trolling, which she did'nt listen.
Now are you going to start on me.
How is it my original post has come to this? What is wrong with you people? This topic was resolved pages ago and now it seems you some of you are on some kind lets give the guy a hard time kick.
And yes I will do some reporting because frankly with the way this thread has turned out, there has been alot uncalled for.
You just don't know when to leave things alone do you? I've asked you several times to take your trolling remarks elsewhere and yet you persist on typing BS on this forum. I guess you would rather be banned. Thats fine.
Mindfful with two "ff's", I'm screaming now am I? You must be delusional. Once again you have proved everything I have said about you to be true. I can truly see why you are still single.
I have no script, as you unwittingly suggested. Also the word "villify" is spelled "vilify". And no, I do not need to "vilify" you, your doing that perfectly fine on your own.
I like how the narrow minded people would rather try to insult then instead to understand.
princess....you are not.
You obviously ignored half of my post about a week of good communication and the date at the pub seemed to go well. That and the mentioning of a phone call from her.
I suggest you look at your own issues and vent on someone else who may in fact deserve it. And please look up the word whine in the dictionary. Education goes a long way.
Thanks for the replies and insight. I'll respond to some comments...
"healthy people dont go on one date and commit
its dating its a process"
Well if you have a good week of chatting and getting along with the person and even the date seemed to go well. You would think that there would be another date. Otherwise you would have been told that the person did not feel a connection, which never happened. The date ended with a "I'll call you" from her. In a sense that is like a verbal deal isn't it? If it was'nt I would think that at the age of 33 one would be straight up with me. Perhaps I was wrong to expect differently.
"i hear the op saying he needs to play-'hard to get i hear the woman mentioned being open, honest and clear so who is the manipulator?"
She would be for not clearing things up. Guys don't do riddles. Seriously I have some women say your "ok" but there is no chemistry good luck. THAT I can understand.
"geez if a woman wanted to get serious right away men say run but if its the guy thats too hurried then the woman is a player???
double standard-what is thios 1909?"
Well at least then a guy knows for certain that she is interested right? I was straight with her and told her I was interested, From our chats and the date she seemed to be. Can you understand the confusion?
"you have met a seemingly level headed woman who is healthy and comfortable also with talking-geez-you men are always the ones posting "what do they want from us *whiiine*" believe me its impossible half the time to tell what you want from us"
That is what all it is to you, us guys "whining" when we try to understand a woman? Thanks! The word "whine" is too over used, and normally used when one has nothing better to say then instead to try and make an insult. I come here to understand a situation and you just look for ways to insult not only me but men in general. Have you not noticed that women post aswell trying to understand things? Or do you go insulting them telling them to stop whining?
Please show some understanding and stop being rude lady.
Finally...
"The lady is not interested."
Well then it would have been simpler for her to just tell me so, instead of leaving me to guess. Apparently that's expecting too much. Anyway I'm done expecting anything from her. As someone mentioned it's not worth being treated as an option.
I know from another dating site I'm a apart of, it certainly seems that way. There are posts about it all the time.
You just need to weed out the ones that are not here to meet someone from the ones that are trying to. Not all women are like that, so try to be patient....I know it can be frustrating.
She wants to take a step back and focus on her trip. Shes going on a cruise for a week. She said she is just making friends on the site.
So I told her that she has my number and to give me a call whenever, But I don't plan to wait forever. Perhaps not the best thing to say but I could'nt think of anything else. Basically I left it up to her to decide.
But I also decided not to stop looking elsewhere just incase I don't ever hear from her again.
Other then that I'm not contacting her. Time to play hard to get I suppose. lol
Well my opinion is this, If your going to play the field then you your obviously not into the person you have supposedly made a connection with. It defeats the purpose of trying to work on the new found "romance". When I'm looking and have made a connection, why should I bother to keep looking? Whats so wrong with evolving a potential good relationship?
I think I'm going to go by this....
"Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option...."
I don't feel I deserve to have to sit on the side lines while she needs to keep fishing, even if it is just for friends. I'm past the playing games part. Either I'm "wanted" or not. I don't want to waste my time.
AlbertaGirl You sure it's your weight scaring men away? or could it be because you have children? Not all men want to get involved with a woman with kids.
I met this lady from another dating site, and online and over the phone we seemed to hit it off great!, We have alot in common, and she seemed generally interested in me. So we made arrangements to meet at a pub and talk. Well she did most of the talking. There was alot of eye contact and she also did play with her hair a bit. To me it was signs that she was into me. So we parted ways after about being there for 2hours. There was no kiss, but a nice hug and the promise of calling me later. That night no call, she apparently was invited by her neighbour out for dinner. Saturday went by and no call but I knew this because she went skiing. Early in the afternoon I texted her a "hello" and no reply.
I checked on the dating site today and notice she had longed on 2hours previous from when I was on. So I messaged her basically asking what was up and asked if she wanted to see me again? Part of her reply was about her ski trip. Then I came to this...
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."
To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or? I also have a feeling that this is a lost cause as well... or?
"Dating sites are like a casino's, if you go there expecting to win, you'll leave disappointed. If you go there without expectations, then you won't have to worry about being disappointed when you leave."
As for being frustrated I have many frustrations. I already know what most women look for and I know what they expect, which leaves me somewhat frustrated.
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Playing the field?
In jest?I was fine up until....Regardless. I'm sure you and a few others will be happy to know that I will no longer burden you with any further concerns or questions. I really don't need or asked for certain comments made. Tho I did appreciate some advice given.
I know see that this is just another forum of a certain group of people that really don't appreciate new comers trying to fit in looking for answers etc..
fine examples of humanity her.
Enjoy your private social club. I'm done.