I learnt today that a very old friend of mine died yesterday from E-coli, while on holiday in Vietnam..... took him quick... just over a week and he was gone.
Apologies Nicki, I thought your question was an open question for all of us either in an LDR or thinking of getting into one.
I am pleased for you that you are able to relocate, that you are fortunate to have a father to your children who does not want to be a part of their lives, and that you have the custody of your children, but then don't the majority of women get that.
Please don't get me wrong here... I am not being sarcastic or bitter because of the situation I find myself in... I am truely happy for you.
I think you have not considered all the scenarios.
I have considered the relocation option and even discussed it with my two boys who are only 10 & 8 years old.
I only get to see them at weekends which is bad enough as it it, but to relocate to the other side of the world would mean seeing them only about every 6 months or a year..... for me a No, No. There is no way my ex would allow the boys to live with me, let alone take them out of the country I would miss the best part of their lives and they would not have a father in their life.
I would relocate to somewhere in Europe as this is much closer to them.... about a 2/3 hour plane ride away.
So, an LDR of more than 3 hours flight away, really is a non-starter for me now.
And what happens if you have real strong feelings for the person, but they live half way around the world........
You consider the possibility to travel and meet with them, but realise that if you did meet and hit it off, and the chemistry was really working, it's still an impossible dream....... what happens then............
You go back home knowing that you have commitments in your own country as they do... and that relocation really is NOT an option.... So rather than torture each other, you decide the best option is to cool the relationship off now !
I guess that's the major problem with an International dating site.
Made one of my normal stupid/silly comments to a poster who was obviously upset, in an attempt to lighten the mood...... also sent a flower to try and cheer them up.
Got a rather sharp/curt e-mail back.
It did make me think that maybe I should have just kept my trap shut............. Maybe I am just too full of myself, as was suggested, but I prefer to think of it as confidence !
All I was trying to do was help !
What will I do in the future ? ........... stay away from the forums.
Even though we are in the 21st century, there is still very much a stigma about women making the first move/contact with a guy.
I do understand their feelings about this, especially as there are so many idiot brained men out there, that spoil it for the rest of us.
As a guy you need to make the first move, with a well written and thought out e-mail.
I don't think the "Flowers" really work as there really is not enough wordage to be able to get a sensible message across.
If you do make first contact do not be offended or get annoyed when you may not get a response..... it's just the way of internet dating..... just move on !
And if he hadn't have done it he would have been replaced by someone that would..... so him making a stand because of his principles would not have stopped the sentence being carried out ! Agree Dave.... not so black and white as we think
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Please 
what a lovely way to pass out 
RE: Drama Free You Say?....
Someone who is drama free is a selfish, self-centred person, who has no time for others.