Oh, nothing in particular. I just jumped on the forums to kinda say 'hey' since i just signed up to cs recently. I noticed that it's rather quiet around the TN section and was aiming to get some people talking. And thank you for the friend offer, i moved away from the area for about 2yrs and everyone i used to know has either moved or moved on since then.
I'm a single mother in middle TN. I work.. a lot. I'm busy... a lot. I've been seperated for 3 years and it's hard. But i found out quickly that 'just coping' isn't a good thing. It leads to problems with your kids most improtantly. If your not happy, how can you expect your kids to be? Thankfully there is sooo much material out there waiting that can be helpful to us single parents in most situations. One thing that's really helped me was having another person to talk to. Be it about nothing and anything or something specific. But i no longer have that person in my life and i found it unexpectidly hard to strike up a conversation with anyone else. So maybe this thread can be an outlet to me and others like me to find an ear, a friend, a thread to tug to help get through a day.
I have two kids... 17 months apart. Even though i was married for years, the most intelligent conversation i felt i was having for most of 3 years was "Did you make a poopie?" in that voice we often find ourselves using with very small children. And their father was never really there either other than as a physical presence. He was more of a barrier to me and the outside world than anything else and i woke up one day to the realization that my previous friends had drifted away and that i no longer knew life away from my kids. It was almost enough to flip me out. What had happend, where had the years gone? Why had i accepted this as O.K.? when had i accepted it? I accepted it when my first was born because of the simple fact i was afraid of being a 'bad parent'. It took time to understand i WAS being a bad parent, in a way, because i was making my life ALL about them and neglecting myself. I personaly wanted my children to know that being a single mom AND an adult is not only ok, but a good and (sometimes) needful thing. It's still hard, it's still an ongoing process and my kids are old enough to resent me over the divorce and give me grief. But thankfully there is information out there that does help a person and family cope. Each day you do what you can, cherish the moments and people who've helped and wake up to try harder and do better the next. But at the end of the day, find a comfortable chair to plop in and let out a deep sigh. don't ever forget to congratulate yourself.
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Just a good conversation
sounds great. ty for the 'cheap sales pitch'