People are not like trees etc. These things stay forever where they've been put down. People are curious and the implications of that attribute are inestimable.
It may be a perfectly valid supposition that you are as young as you feel. (Right now I feel a 100 years young - change the noun to 'old' and perhaps the expression will be less popular).
Whatever you do...never fill out official forms (insurance etc etc) on the basis of how young/old you feel.
Humans, even proto-humans, decorated their 'home'surroundings. From Altamera in Spain 20.000 years ago to cave drawings and paintings scattered all over the world people have decorated their homes.
Since these ancient milestones societies have increasingly and accleratingly sought to not just improve the amenties of their homes but the decorative aspects. Eventually as civilisation grew - or regressed you might say - religious institutions drew in all the economic surplus into creating amazing and astounding edifices to the glory of the current gods.
The surplus product of civilisation was for thousands of years given over to the the edification of kings and gods. Only since the last 500 years have individual dwellings of the majority of people been given any priority.
Today, practically every one of the millions of magazines in the world concerning life-style have double page advertisements of interior decorators or architects.
Is the post author thinking a launching a for profit business in interior decoration by a clever strategy of subliminally insinuating herself into the members of this group....she's a hustler, dont forget.
I believe that is part laziness and part a lack of vocabulary/literacy in men. Have you heard men converse? It's unbelievable how many meanings a grunt has.
I also remember a time visiting a friend's home to pick him up to go to a game and his fiancé who was to accompany was such a drop-dead beauty in her red dress that I nearly fell down upon seeing her...guess what the guy, my friend, had to say..."got any beer in the fridge"?
This is, I think, a gender deficiency....men prefer playing with a ball than with words. "Should I compare thee to a summer's day"...duh!!
If you are a salaried person you usually pay 1. income taxes 2. sales taxes on everything you buy 3. with-holding taxes on your interest income. 4. wealth taxes on your total worth indexed to some standard. 5. Road tax to use your car. 6. Value added taxes (subtly different from sales tax) on top of every service you buy ie.medical 7. Taxes imposed from time to time for special purposes deemed important by the country. 8. Death taxes though that wont bother you. 9. And a multiplicity of other taxes, like stamp taxes, excise etc. etc. etc.
Quite frankly I have always had a problem understanding this phrase 'fear of commitment'. How shall I express it... well, all my life I have kind of drifted from doing one thing to doing another thing. No apathy here...in fact with great gusto I have pursued all my most eclectic paths but sooner or later tired of them. It never occured to me that that I was "committing to something" whenever these course changes occured. (This frankly sounds like an awful self-indictment). But clearly I had no understanding of the word 'commitment'...I was never taught the importance of the notion. In its place I probably had a "Born Free" cavalier attitude towards life.
However, I am approaching this matter from quite a different corner than yours. Let's take it step at a time. "Gender based" - well, each and every one of the times I've taken an interest in a woman and decided to pursue it I have never been more frightened in my life. That is why every kind response led to my falling precipitously in love with all the women, most by far, being nice to me.
As far as CS behaviour goes, typically I have few visits; far fewer flowers and ever so rarely an email. And yet when I do receive these treasured communications they are from rather obvious hustlers, semi-literate in communication and incredibly unable to suggest starting a correspondence or meeting for a drink or even exchanging more information about each other. I wonder why on earth did they send me a message. However, whenever my mailbox or flowerbox is red I feel I have hit the jackpot. The rest of the day I lie face to the wall.
Commitment is a word I associate more with money-grubbing activities...someone wanting to climb the professional ladder at any cost; some civil servant brown-nosing his way up bureaucracies and so on. They commit - they commit themselves to self-abasing acts of unfathomable depths in order to "advance" in life and status.
In relationships fear of commitment makes sense to me only when one or the other person involved is already in some kind of relationship and justifiably weighs the risks of a radical change in life.
Iwish I could carry on this discussion with you further but thereis some doubt that you will ever even get this message.
It's possible I am in a time warp and too paranoid. But believe me I've been kicked out for my contributions to this forum scores of times...I mean scores.
My goose is in pristine state so far....so good. Not yet foie gras.
I do have to confess that I am a rather adversarial person. I mince no words; I excoriate people of differing views; I am simply not a gentleman and not tolerant.
I'm glad you have written me. Too few people can tolerate such bellicose people like me. I am one by my own admission.
I will seek out your inputs on other discussions and I hope we will be friends.
Because there are some extraordinarily primitive minded fascists who monopolize the forum. If you get on their wrong side they will have you kicked out of CS.
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Polanski
Yes it does...rather well.