I think the dream of sharing life with a soulmate is what keeps me going. Not that I actually believe that is ever going to come to pass, but just being able to dream about it gives it an air of reality.
So I guess my own imagination is what I really count on to get me by.
If I could go back and relive my life retaining the wisdom that I have now I would quite literally do billions of things differently.
Would that change who I am today? Not at all. I am not my history.
I'm not who I am today because of my past experiences. I don't know where people get that idea from. I'm the same person I was when I was a toddler. This world hasn't changed who I am. I've learned things, and I understand more about life now then I did then, but that fact doesn't change who I am.
I was blind to many things in the past though. Not blinded by ulterior motives, or by selfishness, but simply blinded to the potential for opportunities, not only for me, but for those around me whom I could have had a much more positive effect on.
I pretty much wasted my life. But I can't say that I have regrets because it wasn't my choice. I simply didn't understand the mystery. I do now. Unfortunately, it's too late to do much about it now.
Yeah, I know, they say it's never too late. That's just another empty cliché.
I'm not sure if "pretty" is the right word. But as far as an intimate partner is concerned she absolutely must be visually "attractive" to me.
However, there are a wide range of 'looks' that are visually attractive to me. Moreover, I find homely looking women more 'attractive' than women who look like cover-girl material.
I'm more attracted to women who look like tomboys (not butches), but feminine women who have short unpainted fingernails, almost no jewelry and make-up, and who wear causal clothes and flat-bottom shoes get my attention more than if they are all decked out.
So 'beauty' is definitely in the eye of the beholder. When I see ads in magazines that sell make-up, or hair-dos and they have the before and after pictures, I almost always find the woman to be more attractive in the before pic than in the after pic.
Seriously I do. I like the Raggedy Anne doll type of woman. A woman I can actually *do* things with.
I gave up on contracts and went with a Tracfone from Walmart.
It works for me. I just have to buy minutes every 3 months and they accumulate if I don't use them. You can also buy minutes for an entire year. It's pay-as-you-go with no contract to worry about having to get out from under.
I think it all depends on your attitude toward it. If you decide that it's going to bother you then it will. Or you can choose to hear it as a natural sound. If you do that it can actually having a calming affect on you and put you to sleep.
I've learned how to view things like that in a positive way. It's all a matter of acceptance.
Think of a human snoring like a cat purring. Seriously.
I think I tend to be fairly well centered, although I believe I lean to the right in the sense that I believe in freedom of choice over governmental control.
I prefer to take things on a case-by-case basis rather than making blanket laws that apply to everyone without concern to the specifics of their case.
I think it's really sad when people try to put 'morals' into law. And that could go either right or left.
I'm for less laws, and more acceptance of individuality. I can argue both sides of just about any case, and ultimately it would come down to specifics. So how can a blanket laws be applied when it always comes down to a specific case?
Of all the one's Sadeyes listed I would say that I definitely fit into the "Sharing Soulmate" category the best without a doubt. I dream of a partner who's metaphorically joined at the hip. Certainly not in a demanding or expectant way, but simply because that's her desire too. After all, if she wasn't compatible with that she'd hardly be my soulmate right?
I dream of working at home, playing at home, and staying at home 90% of the time. That may sound boring to some, but if you're working at home that's over 50 percent of the time right there. And working at home doesn't necessarily mean spending every moment of the workday at home. For example, I work in crafts, and antique restoration, so much of the so-called working-at-home is actually spending an entire day just driving around to yard sales and antique stores. And those trips are always 'casual' which means that stopping in non-business related places along the way are commonplace.
In other words, a huge part of work is play.
I think the other thing people often object to when they hear the idea of spending so much time with their mate is that they imagine it being impossible to get away for a break. But that's certainly not the way it is. Either partner is free to go off on their own at anytime. It's just that most of the time they would simply chose to be together because that's what they are all about as "Sharing Soulmates". They simply have mutual goals and they are both interested in seeing them accomplished. They both view their partner as helping them.
Rather than viewing it as having a partner who always demands their presence, they view their partner as the person who is willing to spend time with them and not go running off on other unrelated interests.
In other words, I don't want a woman who views me as needed her to be by my side all the time. I'd rather have a woman who's seeking a man who will be by her side all the time. Then instead of feeling smothered or imprisoned by me, she'll feel that she's gaining the love and attention that she deserves.
That's what it means to be soulmates. Two people who both want the same thing so that they don't feel like they are being smothered or chained down by the other person, but rather they feel like they have finally found someone who cares enough about them to stick around instead of running of to fulfill their own separate agendas all the time.
Finally, I don't believe that there is only one 'soulmate' for each person. That makes no sense since the earth's population isn't 50/50 male/female anyway. Not to mention the children that die. Who's soulmate where they? If you only had one soulmate how can you be sure that he or she survived childhood? I believe that there are many people that we can be compatible with.
Although, I'm not so sure why I believe that because I'm having a hell of a time trying to find a "sharing soulmate".
The mere fact that it is recognized and described in the article that Sadeyes posted implies that it should be a fairly popular ideal though, so that's encouraging.
The only 'effect' it has that I know of is that if you decide to stay home on the computer it takes away from time you could be out meeting someone in real life.
If people didn't have computer (or even TV for that matter) what would the do? They get out and socialize.
So online dating does steal real time. No doubt about it.
I tend to be a homebody anyway, and I was actually hoping that by going online I might meet another homebody who never goes out. After all, I'm not likely to meet a homebody by going out if she's staying home right?
What I found, much to my dismay, is that almost all women on the Internet as just as much social butterflies as the floozies you meet in bars.
May as well just go out. At least you'll meet them in the flesh locally that way and have a much better chance of hooking up than you will on the net.
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