Zuleika Forum Posts (148)

RE: They say

Both men and women go by what attracts them visually. Also, active people want someone who is fit, it only makes sense. What is annoying is when overweight men or women think someone fit and trim should want to date them. Really, really honestly, I don't feel any attraction to overweight men. I've never been with someone who is overweight, not even a little overweight. It's about lifestyle I think. Overweight guys can't keep up and like to eat a lot of junk. Just isn't for me.

RE: They say

You are very attractive. I observe that there are heavy women who do get a lot of attention from men, but they have to use their personality a lot more than thin women. In the end, it is really personality that wins the day. As far as these internet sites, almost all men are screening by the visual, therefore they are going mostly for thin or thinner women. That's why it is so hard for heavier women on these sites.

RE: I SURE WOULD ENJOY COMPATIBLE MATCHES,,,AT LEAST 1..2..3?

I don't know. You look very attractive. Maybe a profile review would be helpful though. Also, do you contact men or wait to be contacted? I think it is better to look for someone who is what you want than to wait for him to write to you. Be proactive.

RE: Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

Hello.

There are many ways that those who don't have good minds and good communication skills use to get others to 'shut up.' One way is to constantly belittle what someone else says or posts. I've had that done to me very recently. Personal attacks on my abiity to express myself, to comprehend, etc. Another way is what I think the British call mobbing. A type of bullying when 2 or more people all start attacking, and it's personal. One after another dismissing what you think or say as being just completely without merit because they say so. You are only one person, they are many, so their point of view is the right one. And you better get that through your head. They won't leave off until you are driven off or admit defeat. Had that happen recently too. In both cases I did not back down. I think it is probably, independent thinkers as well as opinionated and outspoken people who attract these kinds of attacks.

I don't know who has been accusing you of being too agressive of a debater or thinking you are better than others. In the thread that is being referred to here, one way those with weak debating skills tried to get you and others to shut up was to make personal attacks, accusations that had no evidence to back them up, such as calling those who disagreed jealous. I didn't then and can't now imagine what we were supposed to be jealous of: the accusation had no connection to the thread or the points being made at all. It was just a way to try to drive desenters off.

In any case, I say stand up always for what you know is right. The bullies and the belittlers will never go away, it seems, even though they are, in age, far, far past childhood. When they don't have anything concrete or real with which to respond to someone who disagrees, they belittle, bully, and put them down, on a personal level. It isn't you, it's them.

Also, I don't see any 'tone' in your posts that should be off-putting unless someone is being over-sensitive. Being direct or straight-forward is not the same as being agressive or negative. Again, I think being accused of having an aggressive tone is just another tactic those with weak thinking or debating skills use to get someone to 'shut up.' Personal attacks, being very crude and sneering innuendos would constitute a 'tone' that rubs people the wrong way, but you don't do that.

RE: Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

A lot of people, probably the majority, do not understand the art of debate. In my observations of internet forums, many people want to chat, and see any kind of controversy as bad. Their motto is no negativity. That's fine. No reason why they shouldn't just want to chat, but it is also the case that others want to debate. So, those who don't like controvery, like some on this thread, think debating is "bickering" and arguing, think it is a bad, troublesome thing, something that should not happen and should be stopped and that the people doing it are 'negative' or problem causers.

Other people want to discuss things, but they don't understand the art of debate, and get personal. They get personally offended when someone disgrees with them, and they make personal attacks in order to 'get back' rather than make a rebuttal point.

One other point, some people just don't like intelligent, articulate people and feel offended when an intelligent, articulate person makes a point that makes them feel less intelligent. That's why you may be getting people saying you think you are better. You think clearly, you make clearly articulated points, you support your points with logic and evidence, etc. This upset people whom you are basically running circles around on the debate front.

That's my take on this anyway.

RE: Men over 100?

I don't think there is a law against it. However, I think they would get cold. Naked men over 100 probably don't look any worse than some of the 300 pound women in string bikinis I saw at the beach last summer.

RE: Men over fifty

True.

RE: Men over fifty

RE: Men over fifty

RE: A baby???

Congratuations. What I like about this is it seems so real. You took time to get to know each other and seem very reality based. Good luck to you. Have a happy, healthy baby.

RE: What means...

RE: why do women not go for good looks in men????????

Who's he talking to? LMAO

RE: why do women not go for good looks in men????????

Are you the same one who asked why women all want to date older men?
LOL

I don't want to date older men. I do like good looking men. An ugly man, especially if he is fat, beer belly, jowly, bad teeth, etc., is totally unappealing to me. I go for good looks

RE: coat closet

The coat check attendant?

RE: Obama Flunks

More likely bigwords.com

RE: coat closet

The coat check person?????

RE: Would you vote for Sarah Palin for President?

Just looking at him makes me want to barf:

RE: Pillow talk

No, having another go is the icing on the cake. Pillow talk is the milk to wash it all down.

RE: Do you take this site seriously for meeting the right person for you?

I'm looking for someone with half a brain. That eliminates about 90% of the people here.

RE: What do you consider

I like the ones where people argue their silly heads off. Lots of attacks, disagreements, name calling, venom, etc., and so forth. Much more entertaining. Truth. Those are the ones that get the most pages the fastest. They are the ones that are most entertaining. It's like watching the Jerry Springer show.

RE: Would you vote for Sarah Palin for President?

RE: Would you prefere to marry a

I can't see how a person's occupation would make any difference in someone wanting to marry them. If people get married, they should marry someone they love and get along with, occupation is irrelevant.

RE: White girls prefer been with blacks when they are nobody to their own society the secret behind that

I think women who are overweight tend to go out with black men because they don't mind so much. Why do black men want to go out with fat white women?

RE: BE YOURSELF

I've always just been myself. My parents are people who didn't try to mold me to be anything. They allowed my spirit to soar. They married outside their own race when that was not typical or accepted. They have lived a life that often went against the grain of tradition, but they have always been very positive and people have tended to like and accept them. No one ever tried to force me into box of conformity, not my family, not my husband, not my kids. I feel sorry for people who have felt they were not allowed to be themselvs. They end up spending their lives trying to compensate for that, like listening to some pseudo religious/spirtual guru telling them how to think and how to live and feeling all the time like live is always a matter of swimming upstream. Sad.

RE: Would you prefere to marry a

I'm looking for a 92 year old man with a heart condition, no kids, and a few million Euros. Where are you honey????

RE: Would you marry interracially?

Are you talking about nationality or race? It is two different things. I am the product of an interracial marriage. I married someone from another country, nationality. Two different things. But, naturally I would marry interracially.

RE: Would you vote for Sarah Palin for President?

And this clearly shows that, contrary to popular opnion, Americans can get some things right!!

RE: Her likes and dislikes.

No, he is reading my body. And he reads very, very well....

RE: It's not you, it's me...

Yes, but I'm way more perfect than most everyone else. Except you of course. You are obviously way perfect.

BTW two of my last three posts were just kidding around. Guess which ones.....

RE: It's not you, it's me...

I've used this one recently: It's not me, it's you.