Cavalli: How would you react if your "lover" comes with an idea of a third person in bed?
Deal or no deal?
I find it interesting that most men would not consider a man as the third person (prolly because they do not want to be perceived as gay - thereby diminishing their macho image) but they don't understand why a woman wouldn't want another woman in their bed with them. Apart from the fact that I'm not gay and have no interest in fondling or kissing a woman, I'm very jealous and would definitely lose any passion I might have been feeling before I saw my man kissing, fondling, or screwing another woman.
Well said Rohaan. I'd like to add that, if the man is aware of his limitations when it comes to children, I have more respect for him walking away from a beautiful woman whom he would obviously like to have, than to stay and pretend to care for her children. In the end, it's about the kids, and having a man in their lives that isn't there wholeheartedly would be detrimental to them, as well as to the adults.
You're also right about him "finding out". As a single mom myself, I can't imagine that anyone wouldn't know right off the bat that I was a mother and that my child had to come first. Of course, that's probably a good reason why I was alone for 15 yrs, but I'm sure it was the best thing for my son. Better than having him think that he was getting between me and my man, which is probably what most kids feel when they know that the man their mom was in love with couldn't stay with her because of them. And believe me, kids can feel when a man is really not into them. They don't deserve to ever feel that they were the reason for their mom's unhappiness.
If I were in love, yes, I would prolly move, but only if I had arranged for employment BEFORE I moved. I would not want my man to feel obligated to support me. Also, if it turned out that we were not really a good match, I would hate to be left there alone with no visible means of support.
Then if she has no problem with it, and can see what you are saying in your postings, I see no problem with it.
I would have a hard time leaving the site if I found someone, but if he wanted me to, I would. The problem I see is that there is much temptation here and I wonder how my man would handle the temptation if we just happened to have an argument and then some gorgeous woman started suggeting they get together. I guess it all boils down to trust.....something I've had a problem with pretty much all my life.
Maybe he just didn't fancy you in the end and didn't want to hurt your feelings, or maybe he is just the type of person that can express feelings more from behind a screen, I think for your first meeting you should have met him alone, the only way your really gonna find out is to ask........
OOOPS My last comment was in reference to this post by UpYouViva
Good for you Allmcc!! I would much prefer that the man I loved ran away from me rather than give up his chance of bearing children of his own one day. It would kill me to know that he gave up this dream for me. Of course, I would prefer he ran away from me before ALL of us got too attached. Best to avoid a relationship that could ultimately generate resentments.
Jaygo1 Forum Posts (226)
Very true. It's awkward enough meeting a prospective love interest, without throwing her family into the mix.
How many men
I like that....