A guys opinion on single mothers? (357)
allmcchobart, Tasmania Australia1 Threads 18 PostsWhenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
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If they run away you didn"t want them anyway darlin !! Keep lookin till you find one that runs to you !! My ex wife had a little one year old girl when I came along . That little girl just turned 39 and I"ve never regretted my decision !! You might want to put a pic up of you and the kids so a guy knows the deal before he contacts you !! You"re a gorgeous young lady and I"m sure your kids are too !! Try a guy a few years older cause they"re more mature !! Be patient and I hope you find that guy , he"s out their !! 
For you and the kids !!
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Thanks I just think that some guys think I'm after and daddy for my kids and that I want to be taken care of. I dont want that I more than capable to look after my children I just want someone I can share life experiences and have someone to laugh with.
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if someone cares for you enough he should care for your children just as much.
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goodguyyy64: if someone cares for you enough he should care for your children just as much.
This topic has been discussed before, and I see how frustrating it can be for the single moms. Since this is a forum, I will speak out for the men who may be reluctant to get involved. We are not living in the same gentle era we once were. Step-parenting is extremely daunting. If the kids are older, and possibly upset about the separation/divorce, they can make a family blending impossible, and a relationship in itself is a big enough deal without factoring in this element as well. Also, if the ex is still involved, then we have the added stress of anger and jealousies, kids being kids are confused about their loyalties. What about the need for discipline, too? In this day and age you don't dare do it, even to your own children, let alone someone else's. There are a number of reasons that are quite valid why a man would not want to take on a woman who has children from another relationship. It is not a simple matter at all.------ This thread is Archived ------
rohaan: This topic has been discussed before, and I see how frustrating it can be for the single moms. Since this is a forum, I will speak out for the men who may be reluctant to get involved. We are not living in the same gentle era we once were. Step-parenting is extremely daunting. If the kids are older, and possibly upset about the separation/divorce, they can make a family blending impossible, and a relationship in itself is a big enough deal without factoring in this element as well. Also, if the ex is still involved, then we have the added stress of anger and jealousies, kids being kids are confused about their loyalties. What about the need for discipline, too? In this day and age you don't dare do it, even to your own children, let alone someone else's. There are a number of reasons that are quite valid why a man would not want to take on a woman who has children from another relationship. It is not a simple matter at all.
Wow-- excellent post!
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opentuit: Wow-- excellent post!
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rohaan: This topic has been discussed before, and I see how frustrating it can be for the single moms. Since this is a forum, I will speak out for the men who may be reluctant to get involved. We are not living in the same gentle era we once were. Step-parenting is extremely daunting. If the kids are older, and possibly upset about the separation/divorce, they can make a family blending impossible, and a relationship in itself is a big enough deal without factoring in this element as well. Also, if the ex is still involved, then we have the added stress of anger and jealousies, kids being kids are confused about their loyalties. What about the need for discipline, too? In this day and age you don't dare do it, even to your own children, let alone someone else's. There are a number of reasons that are quite valid why a man would not want to take on a woman who has children from another relationship. It is not a simple matter at all.
That's made me wonder what your concept of discipline is.
Jac xxx
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jac379: That's made me wonder what your concept of discipline is.
Jac xxx
Oh come on. Any stern comment is treated over-the top. You know what I meant. You can't discipline in any form any more, it seems.Jac xxx
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rohaan: Oh come on. Any stern comment is treated over-the top. You know what I meant. You can't discipline in any form any more, it seems.
Think of it this way: "yes, come into our lives and support us. But don't you EVER tell my kids what to do". Kapiche? I stand my ground. (the poor man can't ever be right! get it now?)------ This thread is Archived ------
It is neither realistic nor fair - forget those.
Most women (and men) on here are not teeneagers and many have kids. If they have that attitude the should seek only the very young or those who have kids that have grown up.
I have 2 kids that do not live w/ me and if I meet someone that I like w/ or w/o kids it will be ok.
Most women (and men) on here are not teeneagers and many have kids. If they have that attitude the should seek only the very young or those who have kids that have grown up.
I have 2 kids that do not live w/ me and if I meet someone that I like w/ or w/o kids it will be ok.
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NCC1968: It is neither realistic nor fair - forget those.
Most women (and men) on here are not teeneagers and many have kids. If they have that attitude the should seek only the very young or those who have kids that have grown up.
I have 2 kids that do not live w/ me and if I meet someone that I like w/ or w/o kids it will be ok.
what is neither realistic nor fair? I don't understand exactly what you meant by this. Most women (and men) on here are not teeneagers and many have kids. If they have that attitude the should seek only the very young or those who have kids that have grown up.
I have 2 kids that do not live w/ me and if I meet someone that I like w/ or w/o kids it will be ok.
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rohaan: Oh come on. Any stern comment is treated over-the top. You know what I meant. You can't discipline in any form any more, it seems.
Rubbish.
I understand that there can be issues arising from an "infiltrating" adult acting in a disciplinary manner, but if two people can't work out how to discipline their kids in a grown up and consistent way, then read a book, get on the internet, or get some advice.
I firmly believe kids are naughty for a reason.
Jac xxx
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rohaan: Think of it this way: "yes, come into our lives and support us. But don't you EVER tell my kids what to do". Kapiche? I stand my ground. (the poor man can't ever be right! get it now?)
Then you have to talk about how you're going to handle things and sort it out, like grown-ups.
Isn't that the same with many aspects of a relationship?
Jac xxx
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jac379: Rubbish.
I understand that there can be issues arising from an "infiltrating" adult acting in a disciplinary manner, but if two people can't work out how to discipline their kids in a grown up and consistent way, then read a book, get on the internet, or get some advice.
I firmly believe kids are naughty for a reason.
Jac xxx
No, it is not rubbish. Your ideal of how it should and would work could only be successful if every kid were the same. They are not. They are extremely unpredictable, and acting out against a parent or step parent is not always for "a reason" as you say. A couple can have the best plan and be perfectly consistent, and still meet with complete refusal to behave and mind. Incidentally, a book the internet, and advice are not always the answer, either. I stand my ground.I understand that there can be issues arising from an "infiltrating" adult acting in a disciplinary manner, but if two people can't work out how to discipline their kids in a grown up and consistent way, then read a book, get on the internet, or get some advice.
I firmly believe kids are naughty for a reason.
Jac xxx
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When I got maried my ex had three kids, a 2 yo a 4 yo and a 6 yo. I loved those kids and raised them just as they where my own, even after she left.
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In response to: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
some will and those are the ones you dont need anyway if i were 20 years younger and half as good looking as i used to be someone with children wouldnt scare me off because if you have enough love for one person you have enough for children also .and i do have kids one 18 and one 4 its great .
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In response to: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
You are fishing among the wrong guys.
A good man for you would love that you will be at home, with him and your children.
You're smart to find a 'peer' group of smarter, stronger men - instead of the weak 'players' that want to hump and never feel the bump.
Just sayin'.
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
I am sorry to hear that:( there are good men out there trust me. I myself love kids and I always try to have fun with them even if they are not mine. I know you will find the right man soon or later just be patient.------ This thread is Archived ------
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