A guys opinion on single mothers? (357)
rohaan: This topic has been discussed before, and I see how frustrating it can be for the single moms. Since this is a forum, I will speak out for the men who may be reluctant to get involved. We are not living in the same gentle era we once were. Step-parenting is extremely daunting. If the kids are older, and possibly upset about the separation/divorce, they can make a family blending impossible, and a relationship in itself is a big enough deal without factoring in this element as well. Also, if the ex is still involved, then we have the added stress of anger and jealousies, kids being kids are confused about their loyalties. What about the need for discipline, too? In this day and age you don't dare do it, even to your own children, let alone someone else's. There are a number of reasons that are quite valid why a man would not want to take on a woman who has children from another relationship. It is not a simple matter at all.
I agree...
Unfortunately no matter how we would like to sugar coat the fact that children should not be a subject of discussion in dating...of course they are.
For many of the reasons you have stated.
It really does depend on an individuals perspective......not all case scenarios are the same. But children will of course take priority in parents life, and it is down to a potential partner whether he is willing to accept this.
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
Who?? the bloke or the kids, was he that ugly??------ This thread is Archived ------
trurorob: Who?? the bloke or the kids, was he that ugly??
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Amity: morning
Hi T, looking as delightful as ever!!------ This thread is Archived ------
trurorob: Hi T, looking as delightful as ever!!
Smoothness will get you everywhere
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
let them run.stay strong
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
you are looking for a guy within 100 miles of hobart, Tasmania Australia... Do tell me, what`s the outcome of Women and Men in your place ???
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
Personally, I would run also if a woman had young kids.
At my age, I want someone who's kids are out on their own
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Amity: Smoothness will get you everywhere
The mind boggles!! and the eyes oggle!, but unfortunatly at my age I have an uncooperative toggle!!------ This thread is Archived ------
trurorob: The mind boggles!! and the eyes oggle!, but unfortunatly at my age I have an uncooperative toggle!!
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
Then be HAPPY ! you surely didnt need HIM anyway !.
there are plenty of GOOD,............. M E N out there just keep looking !.
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jac379: Rubbish.
I understand that there can be issues arising from an "infiltrating" adult acting in a disciplinary manner, but if two people can't work out how to discipline their kids in a grown up and consistent way, then read a book, get on the internet, or get some advice.
I firmly believe kids are naughty for a reason.
Jac xxx
I understand that there can be issues arising from an "infiltrating" adult acting in a disciplinary manner, but if two people can't work out how to discipline their kids in a grown up and consistent way, then read a book, get on the internet, or get some advice.
I firmly believe kids are naughty for a reason.
Jac xxx
Jac,
there is,....... the problem, I have meet many mothers that dont WANT there kids disciplined at all !......................
J
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
Thats too bad honey, there are some guys who would take on a ready made family.
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Amity: I agree...
Unfortunately no matter how we would like to sugar coat the fact that children should not be a subject of discussion in dating...of course they are.
For many of the reasons you have stated.
It really does depend on an individuals perspective......not all case scenarios are the same. But children will of course take priority in parents life, and it is down to a potential partner whether he is willing to accept this.
Unfortunately no matter how we would like to sugar coat the fact that children should not be a subject of discussion in dating...of course they are.
For many of the reasons you have stated.
It really does depend on an individuals perspective......not all case scenarios are the same. But children will of course take priority in parents life, and it is down to a potential partner whether he is willing to accept this.
All individuals are different as are too our children...
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Amity: I agree...
Unfortunately no matter how we would like to sugar coat the fact that children should not be a subject of discussion in dating...of course they are.
For many of the reasons you have stated.
It really does depend on an individuals perspective......not all case scenarios are the same. But children will of course take priority in parents life, and it is down to a potential partner whether he is willing to accept this.
Unfortunately no matter how we would like to sugar coat the fact that children should not be a subject of discussion in dating...of course they are.
For many of the reasons you have stated.
It really does depend on an individuals perspective......not all case scenarios are the same. But children will of course take priority in parents life, and it is down to a potential partner whether he is willing to accept this.
And so they should take priority. And potential dates should accept this and that, if they are lucky the kids may become part of their life too and with that will come responsibilities and that includes a need to give the kids time and space and give some time to the kids and do things with them. And that's not getting between the mum and the kids, or becoming a surrogate dad or replacing the dad in any way, but becoming part of a family.It's a bit of a different dynamic to dating someone who's single and childless but could bring its own rewards.
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Amity: I agree...
Unfortunately no matter how we would like to sugar coat the fact that children should not be a subject of discussion in dating...of course they are.
For many of the reasons you have stated.
It really does depend on an individuals perspective......not all case scenarios are the same. But children will of course take priority in parents life, and it is down to a potential partner whether he is willing to accept this.
Unfortunately no matter how we would like to sugar coat the fact that children should not be a subject of discussion in dating...of course they are.
For many of the reasons you have stated.
It really does depend on an individuals perspective......not all case scenarios are the same. But children will of course take priority in parents life, and it is down to a potential partner whether he is willing to accept this.
So true.
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ChasingCars: And so they should take priority. And potential dates should accept this and that, if they are lucky the kids may become part of their life too and with that will come responsibilities and that includes a need to give the kids time and space and give some time to the kids and do things with them. And that's not getting between the mum and the kids, or becoming a surrogate dad or replacing the dad in any way, but becoming part of a family.
It's a bit of a different dynamic to dating someone who's single and childless but could bring its own rewards.
It's a bit of a different dynamic to dating someone who's single and childless but could bring its own rewards.
Another excellent post.
lol... I feel like such a cheerleader
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In response to: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
My children obay my every word and i told them from their mom left, of the difficulties that i faced with their sister and warn them that if or when there's a new woman in my life, they can't be like that to her. I am not able to live the way tthe world is going so most of my actions are different and thus the name "Sample" the sampe that you see there, was just a misspelling------ This thread is Archived ------
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sure you are right to a point. some men I have known has no problems though. it is up to the parents. one way to go about it if you get into that kind of relationship then the first and formost (when it comes to the kids) try to be their freind and not their father or mother. if you do then they will automaticaly assume that you are there to take their parents place (which ever one that is). the next thing you will know is they will rebell against you. that is where the problem lies is when a person trys to take over. true?