A guys opinion on single mothers? (357)
allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
thats sad, I hope the right one comes along.
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
Hell whenever I told I guy I had a brain he would run.
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I met a woman who had two kids from a previous marrage. We ended up getting married and it was the best 10 years of my life. I would have no hesitation getting involved in something similar again. To me, if you want to make something work, you have to accept all of your partner, not just the good bits. Yes at times it can be hard, the first two years for me were difficult to say the least, her kids did not want to accept me and it took a lot of work to bridge that gap, but eventually they came to see that I wasn't there to replace their real dad, but I was there to try to do the things a parent should do for his kids. One evening they both came in to me and asked me if I would legally adopt them, when I asked them why they replied that they wanted me to be their Dad so that we could be a real family, honestly, it doesn't get much better than that, so guys dont shy away from something like that, it can be a very rewarding experiance.
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It might be so that men are scared of kids of a woman. I think men who are like that they are not matured and they have not got enough love earlier in life. I understand that some kids are arrogant and self centered. I have a son, 8, he have seen his dad from the time he was 4 couple of times. His dad is not envolved in his life. My son is friendly and would like to have man in house who would be his friend and mentor. I would like to have it too. Sorry, that I have not yet met a strong charactered, compassionate, love giving man, seems everyone looks just for easy ways. 
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i kinda would rather date a single mother than not
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I would run either since there are young people like me who dont have kids.I prefer being with a person who have my kids .I dont want want problems in my life so if a girl tell me she is mother and divorced,it sounds like she might have problems not necessarily but might be. They dont know your situation so they dont want to rsik anything.I would do the same.Sorry..truth hurts sometimes but there might be people who is dovorced like u and have kids then u might have more commons...
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thelatinodancer: I would run either since there are young people like me who dont have kids.I prefer being with a person who have my kids .I dont want want problems in my life so if a girl tell me she is mother and divorced,it sounds like she might have problems not necessarily but might be. They dont know your situation so they dont want to rsik anything.I would do the same.Sorry..truth hurts sometimes but there might be people who is dovorced like u and have kids then u might have more commons...
Im a single mother and I dont have problems. My daughters father is out of the picture he rings her once in a blue moon.
But try adding into it being in remission from cancer that sends them running and now Im going through cancer treatment so single I stay
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
Guys who'll cut and run at the mention of children aren't the kind of guys you need in your life. It's responsibility they're really running from.
On the other hand, there are some things you should expect from a man, like his full support, which means being equally responsible for your kids and yourself. Saying you're self-sufficient is all very well and good, but the reality in a developed relationship is otherwise.
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gaze9: It might be so that men are scared of kids of a woman. I think men who are like that they are not matured and they have not got enough love earlier in life. I understand that some kids are arrogant and self centered. I have a son, 8, he have seen his dad from the time he was 4 couple of times. His dad is not envolved in his life. My son is friendly and would like to have man in house who would be his friend and mentor. I would like to have it too. Sorry, that I have not yet met a strong charactered, compassionate, love giving man, seems everyone looks just for easy ways.
I think maturity and a sense of responsibility go together, don't they? Men who don't want responsibility also tend not to act with maturity, in my estimation. They also seem never to grow up :^)
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deblake60: It's the guy's loss. Kids are great. I have three of my own ages 6 to 8. A guy who will date single mothers (no matter the children ages) show character. If they run, then as I said, their loss, but at least you will be happier in the long run without such a person in your life making things miserable.
You are simplifying things - - - you are wrong
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single4ever: Hell whenever I told I guy I had a brain he would run.
Every guy would run
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Hey brother i thought that i was wrong in my profile,,it,s something i,ve always stated in my profile, it,s better to be single and ask me i have done the said thing four times in my lifetime, wasted over 20 years of my youth for nothing, do you know how it feels in the end of sacrifice being made just to be told ,,,you are not my father,,one thing that you mention that i,would broaden on is ,,etiquette,,,the kids parents,, even though it doesn,t turns out at all times that the end result in having step kids you end up being the looser,,but!!!! there is no gurantee, i do agree with you 100 and 1% for i have done it all with a good heart and a clean mind.god bless.
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Experience,,My facts stated are because of experiences gained and not experience gained,,i do have a motto in life which is if ever i am going to get into a discussion then i must be having the experience so that when confronted i am sure of my statements in whatever may be the subject matter,should it happen that i was never exposed to such, then i would end up sitting on the bench of shame and disgrace.Affirmation,,,,getting into a relationship with kids involved,,focus is distracted,,,freedom of movement is restricted,, quality time that is needed to be spent is limited,,in short do what we will or say what we will all interest is upon the kid or kids there would be an attitude as if you are the focal point but deep down inside it,s a fake,,to crown it all, every cow cries for it,s own calf, this is facts and not fiction ,,taking into serious consideration it,s a new relationship in process.Children is a blessing from our creator,but everyone has their wishes and choices,another quote, one can be a master of two servants, but can never love both equally.My statement may be of an insult,hinderance or hurt to many ,but lets fact it ,it,s the truth and the truth shall set us free,,there are others that have been successfull with step kids but there is no 100% guarantee for such situations. Just try to imagine you being told in the end with all the sacrifices that you have made, years lost,,,YOU ARE NOT MY FATHER,,, wonderfull eh.To end it all i am proud for what i,ve done for others in my lifetime,with no regrets or hurt and this is something i,m trying to work on continuously
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Hey brother i think that i may have started it all but i have done it thrice in my lifetime ,felt it all,,i am glad that my fellow men can see the risks involved and your statement was 100and 1% correct,to talk about it and to do it, there is a vast difference.chow.
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It depends on what sort of mother she is?
It would be hard to convince me to show an interest if she was over a certain age without being a mother already.
It would be hard to convince me to show an interest if she was over a certain age without being a mother already.
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flpower: Doesn't bother me. I evaluate the person, in fact, if i see that someone is a good parent then that's just bonus points!
Agree
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It's the guy's loss. Kids are great. I have three of my own ages 6 to 8. A guy who will date single mothers (no matter the children ages) show character. If they run, then as I said, their loss, but at least you will be happier in the long run without such a person in your life making things miserable.