A guys opinion on single mothers? (357)
allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
BECAUSE HE NO DUMMY! HE KNOWS THE ONLY REASON WHO HAD CHILDREN WAS TO DUMP THE FATHER OF THOSE CHILDREN AND TAKE HIS MONEY. GUYS-- DUDES RUN FROM THESE WOMEN THEY ONLY KNOW GREED --AND HAVE NO SENSE OF LOVE AT ALL --- THEY WILL DRAIN YOU DRY!!!!------ This thread is Archived ------
allmcc: Thanks I just think that some guys think I'm after and daddy for my kids and that I want to be taken care of. I dont want that I more than capable to look after my children I just want someone I can share life experiences and have someone to laugh with.
NO NO NO!!! THE TRUTH IS THEY DON'T WANT TO GET SCREWED OVER LIKE THE FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN WAS!!!!!!------ This thread is Archived ------
equiya: I like your response. The poster JVIND's response was really nonsense to say the least.
Dues not having children make me immature, HELL NO!
Dues not having children make me immature, HELL NO!
My response was nonsense??? The first part of my response repeats the same sentiment of everyone else.
I never said women w/o children are IMMATURE. Prehaps you should ask for clarification first.
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Iseult_1: I think what he is trying to say is that having children makes you more mature in a way that you are definitely less selfish. You see things differently when you have had children. Having children gives you a totally different perspective of the world - we are different people before and after we have children... simply because it's a life altering event... with all the joys and rollercoasters that go with it...
Thank you Iseult, you illustrated my point very well! Not to mention sticking up for when I was offline.
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rohaan: This topic has been discussed before, and I see how frustrating it can be for the single moms. Since this is a forum, I will speak out for the men who may be reluctant to get involved. We are not living in the same gentle era we once were. Step-parenting is extremely daunting. If the kids are older, and possibly upset about the separation/divorce, they can make a family blending impossible, and a relationship in itself is a big enough deal without factoring in this element as well. Also, if the ex is still involved, then we have the added stress of anger and jealousies, kids being kids are confused about their loyalties. What about the need for discipline, too? In this day and age you don't dare do it, even to your own children, let alone someone else's. There are a number of reasons that are quite valid why a man would not want to take on a woman who has children from another relationship. It is not a simple matter at all.
being a single mum myself i know that is not simple getting a new relationship going at the best of times but when there are children involved yes it does add extra pressures on the relationship. but i feel that if you are up front right from the start about everything (not just the single parent but both adults) you will find the things dont feel as hard. taking things slow helps as well like getting to know each other first and then slowly start introducing the children into activies and being honest with them will help as well no child is going to be that accepting of a new partner where thier other parent is since around or not. so to all the other single parents reading this dont rush into anything and talk to your children about how the feel about your new partner and let them have a voice so they dont feel like you are shutting them out and not listening to how they feel. be patient and you never know what will happen.
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rohaan: Think of it this way: "yes, come into our lives and support us. But don't you EVER tell my kids what to do". Kapiche? I stand my ground. (the poor man can't ever be right! get it now?)
thats where i feel if you are going to let a new partner into yours and your kids lives you have to accept and be willing to let him/her tell the kids that they cant do something or that they shouldnt be doing certain things, otherwise your relationship is doomed right from the start i am not saying that they take over the absent parents role but there needs to be some discipline
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Running is not voluntary fun
But dating single mothers is like playing with a gun
Some single mothers are as sweet as easter bun
But we are aware of the opposite that burn like Arizona's sun
I really really like women with kids
As long as the car won't crash when it skid
And then again "some" step-kids can be a trip to hell
Reminds me of some computers that were made by a company name Packard Bell
Many single mothers are wonderful and are related to Apple and Dell
And when we see them and their kids we also hear the school bell
But to be honest we sincere men can hardly ever tell
...if the single mother we meet will have kids that are from heaven or from hell!
Potarick
But dating single mothers is like playing with a gun
Some single mothers are as sweet as easter bun
But we are aware of the opposite that burn like Arizona's sun
I really really like women with kids
As long as the car won't crash when it skid
And then again "some" step-kids can be a trip to hell
Reminds me of some computers that were made by a company name Packard Bell
Many single mothers are wonderful and are related to Apple and Dell
And when we see them and their kids we also hear the school bell
But to be honest we sincere men can hardly ever tell
...if the single mother we meet will have kids that are from heaven or from hell!
Potarick
allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
I see on your profile that you don't want any more kids so what if they would like their own children? maybe thats why some blokes dont want a relationship with you,
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you ever travel to pennsylvania look me up. lol. my husband of 9 yrs just left on fri and moved in with a friend of mine i thought "moved away". talk about a damn soap opera! are you one of those good men? i would love to meet one myself. i am serious, if you love snow, then pa is where it is. lol.
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
Geesz that sucks,i think some men are just cowards ive seen you with this same post over and over before.I think your looking for the wrong kind of ppl.What a**hole,youre a beautiful woman,Screw them.
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I did not ask anyone's opinion when I decided to be a mother, and I still do not ask. My son is the best I have in my life. I think when you find a real good man, it doesn`t care for both of you. 
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not every man is like that 
i am a single father of 5 kids and i never had a problem on finding a date.that just tells you they are not the one for you.the one for you will come along and he would not care how many children you have.for he will not see the children but the woman behind the children 
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zdeathangelz: not every man is like that i am a single father of 5 kids and i never had a problem on finding a date.that just tells you they are not the one for you.the one for you will come along and he would not care how many children you have.for he will not see the children but the woman behind the children
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allmcc: Whenever i tell a guy i have children i watch them run.
just call me uncle dad
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Damn, I have not dated someone that wasn't a mother in over 4 years....I am getting old 
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Jihadmeathello: Damn, I have not dated someone that wasn't a mother in over 4 years....I am getting old
I'm tellin yah, it seems Ive raised an army
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rohaan: Think of it this way: "yes, come into our lives and support us. But don't you EVER tell my kids what to do". Kapiche? I stand my ground. (the poor man can't ever be right! get it now?)
a new partner is there as support for the mother
ie: did you hear? your mother asked you to clean your room...you need to listen to her
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I understand that there can be issues arising from an "infiltrating" adult acting in a disciplinary manner, but if two people can't work out how to discipline their kids in a grown up and consistent way, then read a book, get on the internet, or get some advice.
I firmly believe kids are naughty for a reason.
Jac xxx
While agreeing with much of that I think what you may have missed is that it will probably be HER children and not THEIR children!
HIS children (if indeed he has any) are most likely living most of the time time with their mother!
There's also the interesting issue of single mums with children to more than one father.
Even with ONE ex each it can be a logistical nightmare with two or more dads it could become nightmarish