I did ... infidelity one time damn it hurts... infidelity twice signals a habitual habit.. I started the divorce and she took to it like a duck to water.
quite simply put when I find someone locally within 100 miles or so I'll contact them outside of forums. The forums have been great for me, in the sense I get what I think is honest feedback about issues and circumstances that concern me. I am aware of the multitude of intelligent, attractive, entertaining woman here on the forums.(if only I had my own plane and license) Sure I'm in the market for a relationship and if it becomes long term, fantastic! but I think applying that kind of pressure/attitude on anyone, (this is for the whole ball of wax) stifles the date...for me anyway. the thought of exchanging only letters reminds of the days where i had Pen Pals never met these people only xchanged letters, calls and photographs.... that type of relationship really involves little risk. Yeah I'm looking, more out in the stores, touranments, festivals, parties, and yes pubs and clubs and walking for exercise So if I pick your brain and ask for opinions and advice ( I'll give those too) and it offends or disappoints... My apologies all around.
maybe my next CE courses will be obtaining a pilot license
you are assuming they indeeed feel guilt. i've heard many blame their spouses for their transgression... and yes this applies to both genders. I have been duped into a relationship, to her it was a affair. to me it was more like a lesson in do not believe everything you see or hear... it was a lesson of a lifetime.
yeah 'drugs" is a vague word anymore they try to say anything a doctor prescribes is medication but, I know some who use their medication much in the way a alcoholic uses booze.
being in that institution again scares me... but I know just like so many others once institutionalized you will eventually return...
so I'm awaiting the time I belong in the institution of marriage I feel comfortable when that time occurs I'll at least have someone to kick start my rocking chair... gotta keep a posistive outlook
thats the peculiar thing, it was others who told me I am, or should i say they said I could do a hellava lot better... so I be it my ego or selfesteem i have adopted this I'm entitled to both.
lets keep this small fact in mind "beauty is in the eye of beholder" not a runway walk off or a contest can determine that fact for me.
forgiving is a great way to relieve oneself of stress as most times those who afflicted you really have litle or no remorse but to forgive them releases it from your mind and spirit i like the terms s "Don't worry about it" or "not a problem" to many other thoughts can fill my mind then what someone has done to me... but I'm human and it does not always work outthat way...sometimes I just have to vent.... and I have founf the internet to be a excellent place for that.
highplains states it well. I married a beauty queen the sash and all. well it did ge me a promotion once but i'm wiser now and probably arrogant.... because i think I can and am entitled to have it all..... another thing time has taught me is being patient is not a terminal illness until i can have it all I'll setle from tie to time for less than what i fell I'm entitled too... and that is somethng many of both genders do temporarily settle for an oasis untl paradise in human form presents itself.
maybe thats why it's hard to judge someones character who is experiencing the rebound... but the "he who hesitates is lost could definietly apply here. course look before you jump apllies also...
one marriage 3 sisters and too many other events in my life have proven this fact to be true. I'll happily admit there are exceptions to this rule. i mean no offence to any one the truth is evident
women a known for their emotions, spirtual, feelings and the snes of conmtentment. in reality a pain is a bruise or cut to women its heart felt , women dress for appearance, women are a miraclous creature but, reality in the general sense is a mans turf.
does that effect your decision or opinion on whether what someone says or does.. do you avoid those peole on the rebound from a previous relationship or seek them out( like a pretrained ,preowned, broken in model). What does the term "rebound" mean to you relationship wise.
i hear of many who prefer or want someone in the same field or profession and others who want someone whose job is totally unrelated to theirs... I think I would prefer someone who is involved inthe same profesion as me but to make it a mandatory issue i would go that far. afterall I'm a man... being realistic
I just hear and read of so many people tallking about how to, when to, and why to it makes me think of the old adage "those that can... do....and those that can't....
in response to this remark "I also met alot of nice men who remained only friends and taught me how men should treat women.." just cause someone can stand on a soapbox does not always mean they can wash clothes.
what you seek you will not find overnight..well you might but it's best to accept it's gonna take a while, any yu'll have to sort thru some real trash plan for a long term hunt
good luck and make sure you do not starve yourself while hunting for this one in a milion.
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RE: Touchy subject. Who initiated your divorce, you or your ex ?
I did ... infidelity one time damn it hurts... infidelity twice signals a habitual habit.. I started the divorce and she took to it like a duck to water.