Breaking the pattern (18)
WhiteAshTurtle Lake, Wisconsin USA7 Threads 688 PostsI have been engaged once and married twice. As I reflect on my life, I can see a pattern on the men I pick. I am older now, and I hope a bit wiser. Communication is a must and alot of time. What other things has anyone done to break the pattern?
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I have learned to seperate the attraction of lust from the (possible) attraction of love.
I ask myself, honestly, if I was wearing a blindfold, would I still find this person attractive?
Many times I have to answer no to that question.
In doing so, however, I have found one or two minds here that I find extremely attractive.
I ask myself, honestly, if I was wearing a blindfold, would I still find this person attractive?
Many times I have to answer no to that question.
In doing so, however, I have found one or two minds here that I find extremely attractive.
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i just keep them as pets........
humans are pretty easy to train, (OMG i said that!?)
humans are pretty easy to train, (OMG i said that!?)
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I've learned it is not mandatory or nessasary to always be involved in a monogamous relationship. and I'm happy with it... its a different lifestyle not better not worse. so I've gained pateince from this change of pattern.
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Trust your intuition...it will never lead you wrong, but you have to learn to "listen to" and trust that gut instinct!
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I learned from my past experiences with men and found that if it quacks like a duck it is a duck...lol
What I found intolerable about my past partners I looked for the opposie traits in my newer partners. I also met alot of nice men who remained only friends and taught me how men should treat women..
What I found intolerable about my past partners I looked for the opposie traits in my newer partners. I also met alot of nice men who remained only friends and taught me how men should treat women..
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You go girl....if only everyone could be so insightful! 
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in response to this remark "I also met alot of nice men who remained only friends and taught me how men should treat women.."
just cause someone can stand on a soapbox
does not always mean they can wash clothes.
just cause someone can stand on a soapbox
does not always mean they can wash clothes.
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I've learned it's not necessary to be involved with a man who won't be monagamous, and I'm very happy with it. A man who won't be faithful (or especially one who thinks that he "can't" because he's "genetically programmed to be promiscuous" -- HA!) is absolute scum, IMO. I've regained my sense of self-worth and dignity, and peace of mind from this change. I've never condoned it, but there was a time that I'd "forgive" infidelity and take him back, because of a lack of self-esteem on my part. No more. These days, if a man is unfaithful to me, I'll kick him out of my life so fast he won't know which end is up by the time he lands on the moon.
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I just hear and read of so many people tallking about how to, when to, and why to it makes me think of the old adage
"those that can... do....and those that can't....
"those that can... do....and those that can't....
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I did and unfortantly he passed away....and I WILL find and do it again when it feels right! 
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and NOOOOOOO....I didn't kill him!
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i broke the pattern by becoming happy about me. I feel if you have no sense of self worth then most of the time we go after the wrong type, the type we think we can get. So until it happens I am quite happy being single raising my kids and all of the fun things in life!!
Stephanie!!
Stephanie!!
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I am still learning how to break the pattern................
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