The first tricky part is how to love, without controlling her -- like Ginger said. The second is how to feel loved, without exhausting her love for you.
Wish you didn't have to go through this... from now on you can either take Jac's advice and confront him, with the help of family and friends if need be... or, if he's really scary, you could try to relocate, difficult as it may sound.
RE: Pick a CS date for the person above you!
nesara